i was wondering, those of you who can speak well, do you sometimes wish you couldnt speak so well?
as for me- my hearing loss is very severe, but everyone tells me i talk just like a hearing person for the most part, a little different, but most people say that they would never know that i'm deaf. since i do communicate so well, most people i know take my hearing loss very lightly and they talk with their back turned or behind me or stuff their faces while talking or even some hearing people i know who do know sign language- they just wont use it and they want me to lipread because they "dont feel like signing for me". it frustrating, and i'll "remind" them that i cant hear and they just get mad at me, like they expect me to communicate perfectly without being able to hear. one of my friends (who knows sign language) even said out of the blue one day, "I'm going to call you hearing." i got really confused and i responded, "why would you call me hearing? i'm not hearing" and she said, "well, you talk so well and you lipread so well, and you didnt learn ASL growing up, so that doesnt make you deaf". that really ticked me off, so i said back "just because i communicate well does not make me hearing, i still cant hear you, and it's not my fault that my parents wanted me to fit in with the hearing world and i never knew sign language even existed, if i had known- i would have learned it a long time ago. don't call me that, i'm not hearing." then she just rudely responded "whatever." i got pretty mad. but anyway, situations like that happen all the time where people just take my hearing loss very lightly, especially my family, and sometimes i wish that i wasnt able to speak well and/or lipread well.
what do you guys think??
as for me- my hearing loss is very severe, but everyone tells me i talk just like a hearing person for the most part, a little different, but most people say that they would never know that i'm deaf. since i do communicate so well, most people i know take my hearing loss very lightly and they talk with their back turned or behind me or stuff their faces while talking or even some hearing people i know who do know sign language- they just wont use it and they want me to lipread because they "dont feel like signing for me". it frustrating, and i'll "remind" them that i cant hear and they just get mad at me, like they expect me to communicate perfectly without being able to hear. one of my friends (who knows sign language) even said out of the blue one day, "I'm going to call you hearing." i got really confused and i responded, "why would you call me hearing? i'm not hearing" and she said, "well, you talk so well and you lipread so well, and you didnt learn ASL growing up, so that doesnt make you deaf". that really ticked me off, so i said back "just because i communicate well does not make me hearing, i still cant hear you, and it's not my fault that my parents wanted me to fit in with the hearing world and i never knew sign language even existed, if i had known- i would have learned it a long time ago. don't call me that, i'm not hearing." then she just rudely responded "whatever." i got pretty mad. but anyway, situations like that happen all the time where people just take my hearing loss very lightly, especially my family, and sometimes i wish that i wasnt able to speak well and/or lipread well.
what do you guys think??