I need to VENT!

Acutally, they CAN do that it up to them...If the mother doesn't want the father paying anything that is up to her....if she does want something from him then they settle in private but if the father later decide he doesn't want to pay anything or make any excuess whatsoever, then the law would not be on her side unless she take it to court and go from there...<<<< That's what non-custodianal parent means....without going thru the court system....

I think its better to go thru court otherwise you wouldn't have to worry about a thing whether one of them refused to pay any child support!
 
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You are wrong right there, First of all it's the law to pay child support rather you like it or not
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Cheri, It is not the law. It is up to custodianal parent, if he/she wants him/her to pay a child support. A custodianal parent can request for child support and he/she will have to follow the court's order.

I would agree with netrox and Banjo's comments.

Cheri, you can make the choice to take your boys away from their father because you have a full custody with them.

Feds certify Friend of the Court
Child-support crackdown pays off for Wayne County
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haha I hate Friend of the Court. I went there numerous times.
 
It's sad to see children suffering, and they always think they are in the middle of the divorce. Child and children deserve to have a Mom and a Dad!




I still don't understand WHY WHY unmarried or married people get pregnant and have babies and they break up or get divorce. I thought having a children will bring the relationship closer. I guess not. To me, having a baby is more important to bring my marriage together, and I am really happy with my husband, and we are going to try for another. I cannot see how having a child would tearing the relationship up.

While back, I hate my mom and dad for getting divorce, it really pissed me off, and all I thought they were getting divorce, because of me and my sister. And when my mom remarried, I had a tough time getting along with my stepdad, it took me 10 years to get along with my stepdad. And I have no contact with my real dad.
 
Well - each situation is different. IM glad my mother divorced my biological father when I was a baby in swaddling clothes...although it did mean that I had to be separated from her and living with my grandparents for many years.

If she hadnt divorced that loser, I wouldnt have a GREAT father that I have now...he adopted me when I was 15 years old, and I consider him my REAL father.

Now as for the loser, Mom had tried for many years to get child support from him...and failed over and over and both states failed her too - 18 years of lost child support...nada, zilch, zero. For 11 years, she had to depend on my grandparents, the states, and the kindness of Central Institute for the Deaf in supporting herself and me. Of course, she found an excellent job at Ritenour, but having a deaf child...put a lot of burden on her.

So when she married Dad, it really made a difference. And I mean a big difference...you can't believe it. NO more handmade dresses, no more shoes from Goodwill, a brand new bed for me...and so on...

That is why I have great admiration for all you single parents, working hard to support your families all by yourselves...it takes perservance, courage and strength to be able to do it all by yourselves.

:applause: :applause: :applause: for all you single parents!!
 
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Cheri, It is not the law. It is up to custodianal parent, if he/she wants him/her to pay a child support. A custodianal parent can request for child support and he/she will have to follow the court's order.

I would agree with netrox and Banjo's comments.

Cheri, you can make the choice to take your boys away from their father because you have a full custody with them.



haha I hate Friend of the Court. I went there numerous times.
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NON-Custodianal Parents is not under the Law for paying child support because you don't have a court order...there's nothing for the law to do for you nor will be on your side....

Custodianal Parents who has an COURT ORDER is under the law to follow it, if the parent who expecting the child support money decide to ignore that order and let the other parent not to pay a penny, don't be soo darn surprise if it backfire you right in your face, then you will be owing thousands of dollars in child support, as I always say, ' its your own risk , take it or leave it '...

It's a LAW that both parent shall see the child unless otherwise, you CAN NOT take a child away from one of his/her parents just because YOU don't like it...

If one of the parent has full custody, I would expect them to put their feelings aside and do what makes your child happy because a child NEEDS TWO parents....

I'm so sick and tired of hearing one of the parent saying ' I'm not going to let my child see their mom or their dad ' ...then YOU are the one who hurting your child!!!! think twice before you make such a jugdement of what you think it's better for your own child when you are not listening to THEIR FEELINGS!!!!
 
Cheri, It is not the law. It is up to custodianal parent, if he/she wants him/her to pay a child support. A custodianal parent can request for child support and he/she will have to follow the court's order.
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Remember it takes two to bring a child in the world it is not right to have one parent to support a child? that sounds selfish-self center. it's like one parent get a free ride while another parent support a child. That sounds nonsense to me. :crazy:
 
Cheri.. and parents who have child with no mother or dad beings support or visit..

2 of my 6 kids are suffering with their dad.. their dad dont understand MN laws and court.. He wanted see the kids but my kids dont want to.. and listened the court order that he lost his rights but still have to pay child support...

Why? cuz my kids never forget what he did to them and me.. Also, they went throught up and down mentally emotions that they showed up the supervised center to see their dad, he didnt show up more than 20 times.. (but only 2 times he showed up after than he didnt show).. so the court overlooked his case and his cooperative.. none of it.. so the court decided the best for children's interests and safety... but still too bad that he still bothers them..
:shrugs: i did report but they said as long he didnt come to 100ft.. grr!.. should have 1000000 ft away from them.. (hehe)

the only best thing to be there for children and be netural in positive way.. not negative way can lead them stressed or anxiety...

best the luck..
 
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