I don't know what to do,

Cheri said:
Thanks everyone for your feedbacks and support. :grouphug:

Levonian and Steel, I don't like guns and wouldn't even touch one. They creep me out. :)

^Angel^, Didn't want to worried you, I am fine now. And if he comes back, I will do what prostock19 suggested, He only wants my son's father not me. I don't owe the money because, I never brought drugs in my lifetime.


I am trying to move forward and let the early day passed, the problem is solved, My son's dad is out and I felt less worried, but same time worried about this other person who says he is coming back. But, I am going to think positive and hope a positive solution would go smooth. :P

Thank-you all again for some great suggestions.
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WTG Cheri. It will make a big difference with him being out of the house. I'd like to say chances are you will not get a return visit from this guy with the father out of the house.
 
Taylor, I didn't see your message until I hit submit, Do you think calling the Police is kinda too late now? What are the chances are if the drug dealer has a warranty and get arrested would it might comes back and haunt me later, more likely to pissed that guy off for getting him arrested, might come back and hurt us?
 
Cheri said:
Taylor, I didn't see your message until I hit submit, Do you think calling the Police is kinda too late now? What are the chances are if the drug dealer has a warranty and get arrested would it might comes back and haunt me later, more likely to pissed that guy off for getting him arrested, might come back and hurt us?
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It wouldn't be too late to call them. Depends as far as a warrant goes. They would have to catch him at your house. Do you know the name of the guy? My concern was more towards getting the information you need from your local police and acting accordingly. If he has a warrant (and knows it) he wouldn't want to have any involvement with the police, and its another reason for him to stay away.
 
Taylor said:
It wouldn't be too late to call them. Depends as far as a warrant goes. They would have to catch him at your house. Do you know the name of the guy? My concern was more towards getting the information you need from your local police and acting accordingly. If he has a warrant (and knows it) he wouldn't want to have any involvement with the police, and its another reason for him to stay away.
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No I don't know this guy, never saw him before. I might as well call them in the morning I am too tired to deal with it tonight. But; thank-you for your suggestions, greatly appreciated it. ;)
 
Cheri, If I was there with ya. I would have tell you to call the cop cuz I have been working with the police dept for 4 yrs and have seen alot. But not heck of alot cuz it a military place. DoD Police for 4 yrs. So I have read the report many times. Not easy of course like Taylor said different state of different laws and how they handle the situation.

Hugs and I am glad you got rid of your exh out of the house. I would do the same thing if it happened to me.

:hug: Stay safe and lock your door all the times.
 
Taylor said:
A book I recommend checking out is The Concealed Handgun Manual. It has some great information in regards to gun ownership, and proper handling of guns.
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And don’t neglect to read and own a copy of In the Gravest Extreme by Mas Ayoob. This is the single most definitive book on the subject of responsible gun ownership ever written. Even if you don’t adhere to everything that Ayoob suggests, at least remember his cardinal axiom and keep it dear: if you shoot somebody in self-defense, call an ambulance first, the cops second, and your lawyer third.
 
That looks like a decent book. I'll have to check it out one of these times.

There is a good quote on the description of that book that I like and I believe.

For example, you're walking down the street and someone insults you. Do you get into it with them, or just keep going? He explains that since you are carrying a firearm, it is your responsibility to avoid having to use it, if possible. So getting into an arguement with some punk because he called you a name, which could escalate into something which might cause you to draw your weapon, must be avoided. Legally, it could be devisitating.

But he doesn't shy away from using it when absolutely necessary. One carries a firearm for a reason, and that is to avoid death or serious injury.
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The only time I would ever pull out my weapon is if my life was in danger. If somebody confronts me and I have the opportunity to leave, I will take it. My goal isn't to get into any altercations, nor is it to hurt somebody.
If I'm in my house and somebody breaks in at night, I still wouldn't want to shoot the person. If they see that I am armed, and they leave, then the weapon was still effective even without having to fire it.

Besides, my state law says that I can really only fire if backed into a corner. If they come through my front door, I'm expected to retreat to the rear of my house. If the assailant continues, only then can I use my weapon.

In a previous post, I mentioned an intruder in my house...It was a gun that saved me from being harmed....and I didn't have to fire it. I can assure you that had I not had the weapon, there would have been an physical altercation.
 
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I would suggest calling the police and seek for protection. Because any drug dealers can resort to seller's family threatening to get money or to do something with them to really break that seller's morale. Also turn BOTH them to the police, in order to protect your family.
 
Happy you get it away from dangerous. Hope not come back and get lesson next time. ;) :hug:
 
I was just reading this now for first time, Cheri. Im worried about you...keep the door locked at all times and say prayers. I will pray for you and your boys safety. When does your apt lease expire? Will you consider moving into new place where the boy's father will not know where you live?
 
I just called and used IP Relay to contact the police, they are on their way over now.. :nervous: I had to call because I cannot be able to sleep tonight, knowing I cannot hear if someone try to break-in. :(
 
Youi did the right thing

Cheri that way the police will have a report on file that is the main thing. So that wy in case trhings go wrong then, you have them report on file the more you do the more they can keep them away. rather than word of mouthetc. you did the right thing.Your kids are more important.Way to go kick his ass out(sorry i meant the father ).
 
Ptl!!!

You did the right thing.. Cheri..

I went thru horrible few years back, I still regret it, but the main thing in my life is KIDS.. I have 4 darling innocent children that time, they witnessed everything what i went through with their dad.. I waited too long, didnt call police that I should have called.. Like Taylor said.. "history calling from your home".. so i can have proof and put him in jail long enough instead of 4 days cuz of hes insanity..

After, I get used to police around me, the more I have police around, the best safest feelings to have them around even they give you hard time or harsh.. cuz they are doing their job..

I agreed with you Cheri, TOTALLY.. I couldnt sleep at all unless Police or friend or family member come over and stay with us for couple days to get things straight out.. because now days.. they can come back for pay back even you are nt involved... its like they repay your ex to you.. its not fair..

I am praying for you and your kids AND safety.. I hope they give you what you needs.. if you still not feel safe, You always can go to your sister, or women shelters for couple days.. till that dealer put away or something like that..

I wouldnt worry about your ex.. after all he put you through like this.. even his own kids.. oh man!.. Cheri.. hes not worthless.. he should have know better not to give out address at your own home not his.. even kids in your home.. I thankful to Lord that your kids & you are safe when the dealer came to the door.. whew..

Please update.. but take your time.. You and Your kids come first.. :ily:
Huggs.. ! :)

Psst.. Prostock and Taylor.. Thank you very much for the best detail informations... Huggs..
 
Cheri said:
I cannot hear if someone try to break-in. :(
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Don't you have a dog?!? :eek: You know that I have normal hearing in one ear, and even I consider the dog to be an essential component for household security.
 
There was 2 police officers came over and I explain what happened earlier yesterday afternoon, and One officer asked me questions such as the description of the drug dealer which I couldn't tell him everything cuz I cannot remember everything he was wearing at that time, cuz it only took up to like 15 mins face to face. I filled out my statement stating what exactly happen step by step, The other officer asked me about my son's father his name his social security number, date of birth and He asked if my son's father ever agression/violence toward to me or my children during his drug habit I said no because, he wouldn't come home when he out every weekends. I told both of them how frighten I was for my boys and for myself, He said my statement would be made anonymously and stay confidential. And he would want me to call them back if the Drug dealer ever show up again. They will come out and hide and when the drug dealer leaves they will follow him out of my area. He also asked if there was vehicles coming and going all hours I said I don't know. He wants me to come at the police station in the morning or afternoon and speak with an investigator and look at photos of the person who I saw that came to my house. And he also said that there will be a park police car across the street at Tommy's pizza until 5 am and wouldn't have a problem tonight with the drug dealer coming over again. I felt so much better. Both officers were so kind and very supportive.
 
Nice goin' Cheri.

Hopefully that everything will be better tomorrow morning.
 
Wow, all of that happened to you!? Damn! Well, I'm glad that everything's alright for now. I hope they catch that bastard! :nono:
 
Cheri said:
There was 2 police officers came over and I explain what happened earlier yesterday afternoon, and One officer asked me questions such as the description of the drug dealer which I couldn't tell him everything cuz I cannot remember everything he was wearing at that time, cuz it only took up to like 15 mins face to face. I filled out my statement stating what exactly happen step by step, The other officer asked me about my son's father his name his social security number, date of birth and He asked if my son's father ever agression/violence toward to me or my children during his drug habit I said no because, he wouldn't come home when he out every weekends. I told both of them how frighten I was for my boys and for myself, He said my statement would be made anonymously and stay confidential. And he would want me to call them back if the Drug dealer ever show up again. They will come out and hide and when the drug dealer leaves they will follow him out of my area. He also asked if there was vehicles coming and going all hours I said I don't know. He wants me to come at the police station in the morning or afternoon and speak with an investigator and look at photos of the person who I saw that came to my house. And he also said that there will be a park police car across the street at Tommy's pizza until 5 am and wouldn't have a problem tonight with the drug dealer coming over again. I felt so much better. Both officers were so kind and very supportive.
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Two Thumbs up. This is the exact reason I encouraged you to contact the police department....
 
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