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I noticed with online forums, people sometimes cant distinguish when one member is being blunt or just attacking.
Can we talk about the differences and maybe help each other to become better improved at recognizing when someone is being blunt or when someone is attacking you?
My take on this...when someone makes a comment about me or an inaccurate something about they have never had personal experience with, I will be blunt with the person and sometimes it results as someone else thinking I am attacking them.
I am sure there were a few times, I probably could have changed my wording. For me, attacking would be me calling the other person insulting degrading names or threatening them. Like "You are so stupid" or "If you do this, you will regret it."
Being blunt is like "Please do not put me in the same category as this person or I dont appreciate you telling me to do this or that."
Your thoughts on how we can improve on recognizing when one is blunt or when one is attacking/threatening each other?
Just was curious to your views and how you viewed the difference between both and maybe help me better understand why some people respond as if I was attacking them when I, in my mind, wasnt.
If anyone feels this thread could start a flame war and bashing each other, let me know and I can have it locked before that happens. It wont hurt my feelings.
Can we talk about the differences and maybe help each other to become better improved at recognizing when someone is being blunt or when someone is attacking you?
My take on this...when someone makes a comment about me or an inaccurate something about they have never had personal experience with, I will be blunt with the person and sometimes it results as someone else thinking I am attacking them.
I am sure there were a few times, I probably could have changed my wording. For me, attacking would be me calling the other person insulting degrading names or threatening them. Like "You are so stupid" or "If you do this, you will regret it."
Being blunt is like "Please do not put me in the same category as this person or I dont appreciate you telling me to do this or that."
Your thoughts on how we can improve on recognizing when one is blunt or when one is attacking/threatening each other?
Just was curious to your views and how you viewed the difference between both and maybe help me better understand why some people respond as if I was attacking them when I, in my mind, wasnt.
If anyone feels this thread could start a flame war and bashing each other, let me know and I can have it locked before that happens. It wont hurt my feelings.