How many of you do well-being checks?

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VacationGuy234 said:
Look, all other issues aside, if you communicate with someone on a regular basis(every day or other day) being cautious and calling the police, after not hearing from them for two weeks, might be prudent.

I can't say I keep in touch with a lot of people on that basis, but if I had that frequency it would set off a red flag.

Better to be safe than sorry..
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Precisely what I do-- I maintain daily contact with my family, and not getting an answer was starting to make me feel uneasy, because 2 weeks with no answer IS a red flag.
 
DeafDucky said:
boy I'll say that was poor choice of words "they ARE in their 50s..."! My parents are mid-70s now and they are effin' more active than I am! I have gone weeks without contact with them when I lived away (further than 4 hours)but we do try to via email when we remember- mainly dad and me since mom doesn't "DO" computers. They're in super shape- and one of my siblings is nearby (really nearby lol) plus mom's twin has now moved to the same town.

As for 'being the oldest=must be the responsible one', Not necessarily. Whomever lives closest or is preferred by the parents/older relative is responsible- hell ALL of the family 21 and up should share in the responsibility. Hell I'm the oldest and I'd rather one of my siblings deal directly with any people like hospitals or whatever- mostly because in a situation like that I may not be able to hear what the eff is going on. I'll do it if needed but I'm not about to take the martyr route either.

I would not have gone so far to call the cops on my parents. I'm familiar enough with the neighbors here (having lived here twice now) that I can call them to check- most of them look out for each other as it is. If something happens I know I'll get called.

Aren't there organizations that can assist with checking in rather than tying up police resources? At worst some sort of LifeAlert system might come in handy if you are really THAT concerned.
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Not in that region, no. Closest one is in Carbondale, 100 miles away. The next closest is in Springfield, even further away-- 150 miles.
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
Not in that region, no. Closest one is in Carbondale, 100 miles away. The next closest is in Springfield, even further away-- 150 miles.
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Don't be silly. You can get life alert in the smallest towns out in the boondocks.

If there was a problem it is not hard to get one of those systems.
 
Bottesini said:
Don't be silly. You can get life alert in the smallest towns out in the boondocks.

If there was a problem it is not hard to get one of those systems.
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That's probably true, but I'm not knowledgeable about how they work, nor do I understand how emergency services would be notified with a press of a button, although I'm safely assuming there has to be some kind of GPS or something in these, so it'll make it easier to locate them, and if so, that makes sense. And I :dunno: where I come in if it gets activated.
 
I would assume that you'd be listed as 'emergency contact' when the system is set up etc. The push of a button gets transmitted to their 'call center' where the location is already logged into their system, they then call the local police, ambulance or whatever to go check on them.
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
That's probably true, but I'm not knowledgeable about how they work, nor do I understand how emergency services would be notified with a press of a button, although I'm safely assuming there has to be some kind of GPS or something in these, so it'll make it easier to locate them, and if so, that makes sense. And I :dunno: where I come in if it gets activated.
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Why not you know everything else? :hmm:
 
ChicagoBlue2 said:
Actually they know me-- I grew up around that department.
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From any of your previous posts I'm not surprised...

You need to quit acting like someone's going to die, you're seriously injured, or another natural disaster. My parents are in their early 50s (I was an unexpected baby). They had me later in life after my older brother and sister moved away. They'd freak out about anything until my mom had a panic attack over nothing did they realize they couldn't control but just live it. You don't quit you'll wind up down the same road...
 
Someone in their 50's is not old. My parents are in their 50's and are perfectly capable of living independently without assistance of any kind. If my parents being in their 50's expected some sort of assistance at that age, I'd be inclined to believe they were lazy! My grandmother is 74 and lives quite well independently. Someone in their 50's is not old!

You sure do call the police a lot. It's only a matter of time before you're arrested for misuse of emergency services. For being paranoid of being arrested all the time, you sure do abuse the services! If something were to happen to your parents, I'm sure as responsible adults they have some sort of way to know you would be notified. Stop treating them like they're retarded children and maybe they'll want to talk to you more! Good lord I can't fathom what my parents would do to me if I did something like this! :shock:

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My MIL now has one of those Life-Alert buttons and such. She has 3 people of her Emergency contact list. There is the button on her wrist like a watch. There is one she can wear like a necklace as well as 2 base units in the house, one in bedroom and one in living room.

Press the button, talk into unit or into room, they call the people on the contact list or 911. If you press and do not respond, they call the contact list or 911. MIL has had to use her's quite a bit as she falls in the middle of the night.
 
Some good news-- my stepmom is doing much better, and we talked for a short time today. Sounds like she's in good spirits, which was great to see.


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ChicagoBlue2 said:
Up the tracks is an understatement. By Amtrak, the trip takes 3.5 hours and 201 miles, and then there's the 30-mile drive to my parents' house, so close to 230 miles and 4 hours total transport time, and the fact that my Dad works everyday but Saturdays, he rarely gets any time off, and the same goes for my stepmom-- she rarely gets any time off, either. Then only way I can see them is when both of them are off at the same time, which is very rare. I only get to go home 1-2 times a year.
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I am curious.. why not you live with them? :hmm:
 
Oddball said:
I am curious.. why not you live with them? :hmm:
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Maybe they don't want him to. I am hoping my kids won't be living with me when they are in their 30s! Lol
 
A Nihilist said:
Um.... why not? Is their house too small, or you just want to get out of nest?
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Because A) No deafies where they live, and B) I wouldn't last long down there. I am happy where I am now, and they know it.


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A Nihilist said:
Um.... why not? Is their house too small, or you just want to get out of nest?
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From the sounds of it they shipped him off to a mental health home cause he was trouble.
 
ncff07 said:
From the sounds of it they shipped him off to a mental health home cause he was trouble.
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Nope, not even close.


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No way in high-hell would I take care of a 30-yr-old....only if he lost his job...or was deathly-ill...and only until he got back on his feet.
 
rockin'robin said:
No way in high-hell would I take care of a 30-yr-old....only if he lost his job...or was deathly-ill...and only until he got back on his feet.
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My parents wanted to keep a close eye on me, and I wanted my independence, and after a 4-year struggle, my Dad and stepmom eventually realized I was better off here in Chicago than I would've been down there, and they let the issue go. Since then, there's not been any problems.


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