*sigh* im worried about my sister

thank you everyone for your support, I just hope shes okay. hopefully ill get at least some information by tonite.
 
Hi Spice,

I sure hope she is all right...a few suggestions...your grandparents may have been misinformed in the first place and she is not actually in any hospital. OR, she checked in anonymously, or under a different name for security or insurance (or lack of insurance) reasons. When a person disappears like that, there is USUALLY an issue...

Her husband's rudeness and how he answered the phone would also alarm me. It signals that there has been a recent disagreement or a fight - it is possible that she took off on her own for a few days or whatever, so she could cool off a little bit. I don't know her at all...is she likely to do something like that? Take some time to herself and cool down?

At any rate...I do suggest doing what everyone else has advised. If you have not found her by now, maybe it is wise to call the police and see if they can help you in your search. It is possible she went to a friend's house to talk, or she's with someone and has asked that someone not to reveal her whereabouts. Go ahead and give your local (or her local) police a call and let them know what is going on. I believe her husband may know more than he is letting on - his lack of cooperation concerns me. Let the authorities do their job and let them deal with asking the questions. It will give you some peace of mind...or at least, more people will be looking for her.

Can also try co-workers in addition the the police. Doesn't hurt!

I hope you find her, Spice. *hugs* I will be thinking of you and your sister.

-Malfy
 
^Angel^ said:
...I also happen to agree with Shiva, you can get information as whether the patient is staying at that hospital, if you are a family member, and They would had given Spicy that information if her sister was a patient at that hospital....I've done it many times myself and I had no problem at all...
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It depends on how each hospital interprets the HIPPA policy. Some hospitals will not give any information over the phone because they have no way to verify that it is actually a family member calling. Some hospitals refuse to even give information about patients to the police when they are searching for a suspect. Sometimes it just depends on who answers the phone. Some strictly follow the law, some don't.

I just wanted to explain that because someone might think, "Oh, the hospital said that (Name) is not checked into the hospital, so now I don't know what to do." I recently experienced that situation with a client. The client had a long stay in the hospital, and would have appreciated visitors. But some friends and co-workers tried to visit, and were told that there was no patient that name. The hospital even told the terp that there was no patient! But the patient really was there, the whole time.

Also, sometimes the patient or family requests no information given out. So you can't always depend on calling hospitals for information.
 
:hug: Spicegurl -- i can understand ur concerns -- i would call the cops to ask them to check the welfare of ur sister -- ur sister should at least be able to understand that u were worried enuf to actually call the cops asking them to check on her welfare

hope u hear from ur sister soon!
 
Oh dear, I understand how you feel, :hug:

Your brother-in-law has no right to scare you off in phone converstion, that´s how it got you wondering why your sister is in hospitail. I´m surprised that your grandparents won´t tell you.

Yes, Shiva is correct that hospital staffs are not allow to give you the details because you are not her husband or parents.

Yes, I´m agree with others that you ough call the police to find out either your sister is ok or not.
 
Reba said:
It depends on how each hospital interprets the HIPPA policy. Some hospitals will not give any information over the phone because they have no way to verify that it is actually a family member calling. Some hospitals refuse to even give information about patients to the police when they are searching for a suspect. Sometimes it just depends on who answers the phone. Some strictly follow the law, some don't.
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I think you might have misunderstood me Reba, I did not mean it as finding information about the patient I meant was to call to see if this person is a patient at that hospital, if not, then that person would look in the phone book for another hospital and call that hospital to find out if the person is a patient there, it goes on and on until someone finds the right hospital, I've seen it happen all the time, and no one that I know of ever had a problem getting thru the hospital by knowing if a name of a person happen to be a patient there, I already know about the information about the patent like " why the patent is there etc ", of course that information can not be given over the phone....


Btw Spicy, I'm wondering if you heard anything about your sister yet?...
 
^Angel^ said:
I think you might have misunderstood me Reba, I did not mean it as finding information about the patient I meant was to call to see if this person is a patient at that hospital, if not, then that person would look in the phone book for another hospital and call that hospital to find out if the person is a patient there, it goes on and on until someone finds the right hospital, I've seen it happen all the time, and no one that I know of ever had a problem getting thru the hospital by knowing if a name of a person happen to be a patient there, I already know about the information about the patent like " why the patent is there etc ", of course that information can not be given over the phone....
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You were clear, and I understood you before. :)

I was also referring to just calling a hospital and asking if a certain person is there. The hospitals are not supposed to give that information, not even to police. Some hospitals follow that law, some do not. Sometimes it just depends on who answers the phone at the hospital. That's the problem when trying to find someone. :(
 
Finally i got news!

I called my sister's home and her husband answered. He apologized for last time i called as it seem i called at wrong time it was during an agruement between my sister and her husband. and now.. shes in jail... long story... to make it short she did a felony crime and shes on probation and cuz of that she might have broken some rules. Her husband feel he cant tell me without her permission which is something i understand completely. Grandparents wasnt home but from her husband.. grandparents are supporting her which is very good thing. my sis will need all support she can get... so now shes probably is going through lot of crap that an addicted person have to go through. At least shes okay probably very very scared but shes okay. Im gonna write her a letter cuz i cant call her at jail :(

im really relieved that shes okay and even more relieved that shes getting help for real now.
 
i am glad to hear that your sister alright, except jail ..oh man!! i hope things go well with her! :)

TOF
 
Honestly i feel so much better knowing shes okay now... but same time i feel bad cuz she have to go through so much crap :( i know how it is for an addicted person to go through stuff cuz i have been through that before.
 
i know what you mean.. *addicted* ain't easy to go away from anything what you stuck with ..... just hang in there, your sister will be fine thou.. i am sure that she can handle herself to dissolve her plms! :)
 
yea im sure she will since she will get so much support... I just wish i could do more than a letter :-P
 
SpiceHD,

She will be fine and it takes a while for her to get back to "normal", maybe for a long time. I'm glad she's getting the help she needs. You could do mind reading with her, if we EVER can do that. I'm relieved that u feel better now.

P.S. You're barely online, even on AIM. :P
 
Hey Spicehd-
Your sister will feel sesure if you write her a letter... she would need to something to hear from anybody.. being lonely in jail and it's scare her.. so it's best way to send her a letter and show love to her.

she can build some postive in her thoughts
 
I'm glad that you know whee your sister is at. Being in jail is not fun.. I hope she would clean up someday, who know?
 
CoolieFroggie said:
Hey Spicehd-
Your sister will feel sesure if you write her a letter... she would need to something to hear from anybody.. being lonely in jail and it's scare her.. so it's best way to send her a letter and show love to her.

she can build some postive in her thoughts
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i do agree with that, it is very good idea. I do love get letters from family members and friends but for some reason I hate writing a letter lol...
 
I am very glad that you know where your sister is now. I am also glad that your brother-in-law is communicating with you now.

I hope that your sister does get the help that she needs.

Yes, send her cards and letters. Even short cards that just say "I love you" are encouraging.
 
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