Parents/Anyone Embarass You & Your Deafness?

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VamPyroX

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Have you ever had your parents or anyone embarass you relating to your deafness? I'm not talking about being rude directly to you, but involving you with your deafness in a way. Here's an example of what my dad did to me.

I was at the mall and my dad saw this deaf couple walking by. He quickly walked up to them and dragged me along with him. He got their attention and started signing horribly telling them, "Hey, did you know that I have a deaf son? *pointing at me*" Jeez! Mind your own business! Sometimes, I'll have deaf people come to me saying, "Oh yeah, I think I saw your dad. He was telling every deaf people he meets that he has a deaf son." Boy, was I ever embarassed!? :Oops:

That's like saying, "Hey, did you know that my son's retarded!?"
 
Yep, I was at the cook off I saw deaf guy and lady were using signs and arguing and I saw him called her a B word and I was like *Gasp* and then they came over to our booth and my Step mom said "My Daughter knows signs she deaf!" My face got red cuz they knew I was watching them and the Lady got embarrassed and asked me did you see what we were saying? and I was like *gulp* umm yes I wanted to say "Hi" but, then I saw you guys into a heat of argument so I didn't want to Disturb you Guys and They End up Laughing about it... :thumb:

Later I told My Step mom U got a big Mouth and She said I didn't know you were watching their Conversation LOL!
 
YEA I HATE IT


That time i went to mall with my brother and we saw deaf couple is yelling at each other and my brother ask me what they are talking about so i told my brother what they yelling about they were yelling about who pay for dinner to eat and they were yelling about who buy the things .
So my brother come to them and say hey my sister is deaf and she know what you guys talk about and ask them they are allight and later on they talk to me like what thirs problmes and ask me what i think i say well i don't know and i think i should stay out of it and my brother was like whoa they still yelling each other will they got over with it i say i don;t know don't ask me and DON'T EVEN DO THAT AGAIN !
 
Bah! When I was a senior in HS, I took sociology 2nd semester. Well on the first day of class my teacher told us what kind of things we'd be learning, how different cultures work and whatnot. Then she said, "As you can see, Jamie here is deaf. Hopefully she'll give us an idea of what her culture and her life is like." I went red with embarassment and slight anger. A couple people waved at me (they had class with me first semester) and she said, "oh I see some of you know her already! Wonderful!"

I approached her after class and I was like, you can't do that without asking me. I didnt appreciate it at all. She felt bad and never put me on the spot again. :) Ofc she said "oh well I thought it would be okay because it is interesting and I know your culture is different than hearing culture..." "No Mrs Marrs, its still not okay to do that." :)
 
pinkster said:
Bah! When I was a senior in HS, I took sociology 2nd semester. Well on the first day of class my teacher told us what kind of things we'd be learning, how different cultures work and whatnot. Then she said, "As you can see, Jamie here is deaf. Hopefully she'll give us an idea of what her culture and her life is like." I went red with embarassment and slight anger. A couple people waved at me (they had class with me first semester) and she said, "oh I see some of you know her already! Wonderful!"

I approached her after class and I was like, you can't do that without asking me. I didnt appreciate it at all. She felt bad and never put me on the spot again. :) Ofc she said "oh well I thought it would be okay because it is interesting and I know your culture is different than hearing culture..." "No Mrs Marrs, its still not okay to do that." :)
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:werd: A similar scenario happened to me in my AP Psychology in my high school. and in my tenth grade English class. I cannot believe those teachers think it is "good" for us that we are exposing them a different culture when it is actually NOT good for ME, the totally hermit.

The worst one, I would say, was at a local college's theatre. They were having a single-woman play about female cancers.. it was interesting and hilarious. Anyway my friends and I requested interperters and this new um... "method" where there would have a typist sitting with this BIG-ASS marquee-type electornic sign so we can read the words the actors/actresses say while watching it in ASL, (hope I am making sense oy) so when the play ended and it was time for a open-forum for Q&A from the audience for the cast... most of the questions were directly regarding with the ASL interp and how much do they help out with the equipment for Deaf etc blahblah..... the Cast have NO idea that they do have deaf in their audience and never intend to get involved with the deaf (They were a travelling play group paid by College.. totally indepedent and have no idea of this system where college will pay for their students' needs by law) so they had to ask US to answer their frigging questions! Basically, we stole the show. ;) :bump:
 
Nah...haven't had that happen to me. Phew....thank goodness my parents had enough commonsense and the sense of dignity not to embarrass me at all about 'announcing' the world that they had 2 deaf daughters. :D (My baby sister and I are the only deaf people in the entire family of both sides! :shock:)
 
RosesNY said:
YEA I HATE IT


That time i went to mall with my brother and we saw deaf couple is yelling at each other and my brother ask me what they are talking about so i told my brother what they yelling about they were yelling about who pay for dinner to eat and they were yelling about who buy the things .
So my brother come to them and say hey my sister is deaf and she know what you guys talk about and ask them they are allight and later on they talk to me like what thirs problmes and ask me what i think i say well i don't know and i think i should stay out of it and my brother was like whoa they still yelling each other will they got over with it i say i don;t know don't ask me and DON'T EVEN DO THAT AGAIN !
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Whoa! That's gotta be really embarassing! Jeez!
 
pinkster said:
Bah! When I was a senior in HS, I took sociology 2nd semester. Well on the first day of class my teacher told us what kind of things we'd be learning, how different cultures work and whatnot. Then she said, "As you can see, Jamie here is deaf. Hopefully she'll give us an idea of what her culture and her life is like." I went red with embarassment and slight anger. A couple people waved at me (they had class with me first semester) and she said, "oh I see some of you know her already! Wonderful!"

I approached her after class and I was like, you can't do that without asking me. I didnt appreciate it at all. She felt bad and never put me on the spot again. :) Ofc she said "oh well I thought it would be okay because it is interesting and I know your culture is different than hearing culture..." "No Mrs Marrs, its still not okay to do that." :)
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That's happened to me here at RIT. My psychology teacher did that to the deaf students in the class. She was discussing perceptions and the issue of hearing came up. She then said, "Oh, NTID students are deaf so they can't hear things well like we can. Let me show you..." She had my friend sit at the front and close his eyes. The teacher would play with some loud toys around his head and ears, while telling the class, "See? He can't hear anything!" Boy, my friend got pissed off!
 
I remma there was one time when I attended church and I was sittin' in one of the nice chairs in a Sunday School Class with others (adults). One male teacher just completed his lecture and was askin' to pray before we were dismissed. When he was done prayin'... he came to me and asked me, if he could pray with me. I said sure. When he started prayin' behind me, I could see his both hands were about to cover my ears... I jumped off the chair and turned around, told him that I prefer to remain DEAF. He was embarrassed, because everyone was watchin'.... geez... I wrote on the blackboard for EVERYONE includin' him to read, I wrote and said "I will be able to HEAR one day when I am in Heaven!" I walked out of the church. I never went back there again. :Oops: Doh !
 
ummm plenty of times....and I think it's stupid..my parents never embarrased me...as far I remember related to being deaf. I think my brain hard drive's full.
 
Oh yeah, my step mom does it all the time at the cook-off and everytime she see someone signs or whatever, she gets all excited and say' I have two daugs who are deaf too and even pointed at us '...It's like ' MOM ' :aw:
 
oh yea i know yall feeling, thank god my mom is smart enough to not act like that but my dad SHEESHHHH i avoid him 100 percent when he hang out. Everytime he asked me if i want go out with him to club I say NO *in my mind i say HELL NO*.

One time, dad went out to club he was big mouthing about me to everyone. I was at home with brother of course. Brother pick up phone as it ringing (minding you it was midnight when phone ring) and some guy asked for me, my brother came to me say do you know this guy name blah blah i say no, then that guy say oh i am from that club which dad hang out, brother told him sorry she dont know you and she never been to that club before. When dad got home i told him off dont ever do that again. I dont like get any kind of strange calls like that. Also other event was at dad's work where he used to work for (Dr pepper company) had a picnic (sp?). We went there, dad saw there one family have deaf son, he drag me up there to meet them even I Know who that deaf son is because he go to same school as I DO.

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2 years ago I was in a class and we took turn to share what we did during our spring break. When it was my turn, I said... "I went to England and Scotland." The interpreter voiced it then sudden teacher said... "OH! My other class has a deaf student and interpreter misunderstood him and voiced "I went to a strip club!" while the deaf student said "I went to skiing resort."

I was like WTF how does that related to me? Keep that info out!! It was embarassing.
 
Few years ago , I went to the church and slip inside the church and sit and quiet while someone was trying to talk to me as greeting to welcome in church as i told them i am deaf ... then walk down and sit ... then church priest start lecture for about five min later then know what ??? same guy who greeting was run and shout stop pls preist then intro that interipter to me and that guy ask preist pls start over for his sake *point at me * so they appear did start over which burn me up and red face ... then after the church everybody come up and talk to me as i was like trying to escape out of crowd but they wouldn't let me go for awhile... so i never come back that church ever again ...
 
One time I was with my Step Mom and some Guy was talking to me and I wasn't paying attention cuz he was talking to me when My Back was turned and my Step mom Yells out and say " She is Deaf!" and Then My Step mom tagged me and told me he was trying to talk to u so I told him you are Deaf I was like thanks for watching out for me.... :Oops:
 
If my parents or friends did that to me, then I would go to a hearing total stranger and say: "Guess what?! My mum and dad are hearing just like you!" My mum got very embarrassed and realised how silly it was for her to tell others that I was deaf, unless the occasion was right for it.
 
People with ears are morons. When I was in elementary school, all the teachers were made well aware that I had to be seated on the right side of the class. I have normal hearing in my left ear, so this isn’t really a difficult concept to grasp—just stick me on the right side of the room and I’ll be just fine. Nevertheless, it was too mind-boggling for some of my teachers to understand. I wish I had a dollar for every teacher who asked me "Eric, can you hear back there"? :roll: I would just look at them as if they were idiots and think to myself "uh, gee, no—I deliberately sat on the wrong side of the fucking room so that I wouldn’t have to listen to your imbecilic prattling. You’ve known me for five years now—how long is it going to take for you to figure out which fucking ear it is"? :pissed:
 
VamPyroX said:
Whoa! That's gotta be really embarassing! Jeez!
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Yes it was and i did not go to the mall with him for a while he keeping ask me go to the mall with him i say no way
and he say why not so i told him cuz what he did it dumb things to do he still think it funny cuz they are yelling i don;t think it funny

After that for a while he say he met new deaf people and ask them if they know me they say no and he feel so dumb :giggle: now he never do that again yayay
 
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