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DreamDeaf

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You know -

In an earlier thread, whose title will remain unnamed... someone was put down for living with his parents...and I had a moment to reflect on this.

You know... I still live with my parents. And I'm in my mid-40's.

Reason?

I have been paying off bills that were incurred during my chemo treatments and recovery from cancer - the insurance did not pay the full amounts and I missed so many days from work that I did not get a full paycheck... I fell behind on my bills and eventually ended up deep in debt.

My parents were very understanding - they allowed me to move back in from my apartment and roommates from hell, and live there rent-free with the understanding that I would use at least 80% of my paycheck to pay off the bills. I have been with them for nearly 5 years, through one move, through several deaths in the families, etc., etc., and now I am nearly debt-free and looking forward to moving out in October of this year.

Just because some of the members here still live with their parents, does not mean that they may be free-loaders. There may be other reasons for this kind of situation, and no one has the right to put down anyone for that.

Always ask before you point the finger.
 
:gpost: DreamDeaf. ;)


I've said that some members here lives with parent also, instead some seems to be attacking one or two person(s) for living with parents? :confused:

It's like this, who cares? We all don't know the situation that each person's has and It's really none of our business who lives with whom. It's not our place to judge either.


Just my two cents. ;)
 
So? Who care?

My husband lived with his parents until he married to me when he was 30 years old. His brother moved out from parent´s house to rent an apartment on the same time as my hubby move out after married to me.

I would not mind if my children want to live with me as long as they wants or until they are married. I support them with their saving.
 
This was just about 3 years ago and I was 27, Just thought I'd include a few comments, I lived with my mom for several months before i moved out on my own. I had moved back home from another city that was 4 hours away. I didn't have a place to live right away so my mom offered for me to stay til i got my feet back on. We all have reasons to why we have to stay with our parents for a while.
 
Yeah, there is nothing wrong with living with your parents for a long time,
if I or someone want to go out there and work for a living, and
get their own place and car, then that is cool.
Evenually people who live with parent(s) will go out and work.
Nobody wants to be homeless...
if Parent(s) die, then yeah those people will of course have to work.
 
I totally agree with all of you ...I don't even mind my children living with me even if they are old enough to be able to live on their own...It's none of our business what they do in their life or if they still live with their parents or not, it really don't effect me at all....

It's like you can't tell someone how to live their life, it their life, let them live whatever they please to....
 
Who cares if your living with parent/parents

I will always be here for my kids if they need to stay longer or to stay until they get their feet down..

I wouldn't care what other say about oh its time for you or her or him to get out.. and have a life.. Who cares

Dreamdeaf.. you and I have share a few PM about this chemo as you know my son went thru.. If my son was 40 yrs old I would rather him living with me and have his health taken care first, and if he need help with his budgets I would make sure he gets it done.. My parents helped me even though I wasn't living with them but they do help me out if I need I would pay them back too. My mom need my help when she lost her driver lic due of DWI ( tsk tsk tsk on her).. anyhow.. that's what its all about FAMILY helping eachother... and HECK to what people think about whos living with who...
and you also don't need to explain people Smile but I am proud of you for standing up to defend yourself too :)

HUGS HUGS Dreamdeaf..
Wendy
 
:werd: DD

I know a lot of older people who are living with their parents, and all of them have reasons for doing so, they are not lazy or trying to live an easy life.

Congrats on managing to get rid of your debt DD!! :applause:
 
My mother lives with me! I am 27. Actually we found a house together when my ex moved out, and my mum didn't like it when she lived alone so we decided to save on both our money (we both work, & ofc I pay my share of the bills) and be there to support each other and share one home. It's great for my daughter to have two parental figures in the home, not just me. She loves her Granny very much! I am also diabetic (type 1 diabetes - so I need insulin to live, not the other kind you hear about all the time in media) so it is good for me to have someone else adult around just in case anything happens for me to need help. That's never happened, that I couldn't help myself, but it's still safer not to be alone anyway. Mum has had health problems too, and it meant I could take care of her through that.

Sometimes it's not even that someone has moved home to parents again, just that they and a parent have chosen a place to share for their own reasons, or that a parent has moved in with adult children too - I have a friend who's dad moved in with her and her partner when her mum died and her dad couldn't keep house on his own. He wasn't coping alone. My cousin and his dad share a house too, and they both work together at the same factory. Sometimes it just makes sense to support each other and combine resources and get one place. Lazy or not working, has nothing to do with it for many - that's jumping to conclusions. I have a successful career. I think it's best to 'give people the benefit of the doubt' and imagine they must have reasons, if they tell me or not.
 
Look at Housing prices WAY TOO EXPENSIVE!!! And When you buy a house you pay HUGE PROPERTY TAXES on it.Thanks for fools who voted for the democratic party clowns in local governments.
 
Oh for the love of...!!

*deep breath* okay...I do not have to post here...*repeats after himself* I do not have to post here...I do not have to post...I do not have to post here.

okay please excuse my post and continue on with this thread, please.
 
ravensteve1961 said:
Look at Housing prices WAY TOO EXPENSIVE!!! And When you buy a house you pay HUGE PROPERTY TAXES on it.Thanks for fools who voted for the democratic party clowns in local governments.
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Can you keep politics out of good threads? You ruining a good thread. Ravenboy. make your own thread... shoo shoo... (Opening the exit door for Ravenboy). :wave:
 
Cheri said:
Can you keep politics out of good threads? You ruining a good thread. Ravenboy. make your own thread... shoo shoo... (Opening the exit door for Ravenboy). :wave:
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don't even bother, cheri girl...you aren't the only one who've been telling him to leave the politics out of such threads and he's still keep at it...so, just do what I do. DON'T POST wherever he posts.
 
Steel said:
don't even bother, cheri girl...you aren't the only one who've been telling him to leave the politics out of such threads and he's still keep at it...so, just do what I do. DON'T POST wherever he posts.
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Yes sir. :thumb:
 
ravensteve1961 said:
Look at Housing prices WAY TOO EXPENSIVE!!! And When you buy a house you pay HUGE PROPERTY TAXES on it.Thanks for fools who voted for the democratic party clowns in local governments.
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u should thank for the low mortgage rates these days ... and an offer of interest only payment mortgage ( good for few reasons.. don't try this if you know for sure u're not living for more than 5 yrs)


i have lived with my parents just because i'm going to college.. it helps my stable life of not worrying about paying rent, etc.. all at one while going to school.

if i'm going to move somewhere else.. i'll be moving back to my parents to have my house sold.. and live with parents to build up my budget,.,. paying off all my debts, then save money for a good 20% down payment for a new house somewhere else. which gives an advantage of lower interest rate and lower point ...
 
Steel said:
Oh for the love of...!!

*deep breath* okay...I do not have to post here...*repeats after himself* I do not have to post here...I do not have to post...I do not have to post here.

okay please excuse my post and continue on with this thread, please.
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LOL!! :laugh2: I've been there before believe me, it's not easy but you're doing a good job!!
 
yeah well I still am with parents but it doesn't mean it must be a bad thing to do first of all california is expenvise to live alone and i should look for a roommate but I have hard time trusting people those days so I am just better off to stay with family til I feel confient to able to live on my own and all so.. I don't think living with parents is bad as long u don't have to pay bills that's all but of course just have to pay rent that's about it.. :)
 
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