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I need suggestions and advice... My friend Mandy was going to see my brother in law James in NC (they are enagaged & James is in the army right now) then today her mother told her that she can't go see James now because she's concerned that he may get her pregnant or something. Besides, she is turning 18 years old on November 22nd. Help please!
 
Let her go. She's engaged. They are going to get married. If she gets pregnant, then that's something she has to learn to deal with. If you really want to help out, just give her a box of condoms.
 
VamPyroX said:
Let her go. She's engaged. They are going to get married. If she gets pregnant, then that's something she has to learn to deal with. If you really want to help out, just give her a box of condoms.
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Exactly !! *** Be sure to check each condom for any tiny hole ****

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let her go cuz they both agreed they will be married and etc. life has a way of a learning lesson holding her back will only make her rebel so let her go !
 
Y said:
Exactly !! *** Be sure to check each condom for any tiny hole ****

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And... check the expiration date!

(Yes, this is something I learned recently in a STD workshop here at RIT!)
 
i smell trouble... a guy from army..... I heard lots of story.. many guys or gals in army want to get married so they won't have to move to another base in different country. and most of them try to get a kid.. so they won't have to worry about moving too much from state to state..
 
DeafScuba,

It doesnt matter if you get married to an Army or any Armed Service personnel -
I know from experience. Both sides of my family are Army/Navy career folks, and I tell ya, they do really move around! One of my cousins has four children, and each has been born in a different state. One has had a child in Guam, and another one in the Phillippines. Also, just because you're married and in any Armed Service, doesnt guarantee that you won't be sent overseas. I've already attended one funeral for a Iran War combatant cousin, and he was married for 13 years, with two kids. So...sorry, if you dont wanna serve in the Army, dont.

As for the fact that her parents wont let her go visit her fiancee, I'm sorry, but I do agree with her parents. Look at the key word: November 22. She will be 18 then. I feel her parents would be willing to have him visit her - they just don't feel that she may be ready. She will have to prove to them that they can trust her. Sorry...I'm just giving my opinion.

Smiles.
 
i happen to agree with DreamDeaf on her comments -- keyword is Nov 22 and she would be 18 then -- and thats THIS coming up saturday
 
Also, since it sounds like she's 17 going on 18, I would have to assume that she's still in high school...if she was my daughter, uh huh...no way would she be going. She will stay home and go to school.

Also, there may be another reason...physical maturity and emotional maturity.

yeah, at nearly 18, she will probably have reached her physical maturity, but her emotional maturity would give me pause...is she old enough to travel all by herself, is she old enough to know when to say no, is she old enough to know what could happen...all those are linked to emotional maturity...so yeah, I would probably say NO either.
 
DreamDeaf said:
Also, since it sounds like she's 17 going on 18, I would have to assume that she's still in high school...if she was my daughter, uh huh...no way would she be going. She will stay home and go to school.

Also, there may be another reason...physical maturity and emotional maturity.

yeah, at nearly 18, she will probably have reached her physical maturity, but her emotional maturity would give me pause...is she old enough to travel all by herself, is she old enough to know when to say no, is she old enough to know what could happen...all those are linked to emotional maturity...so yeah, I would probably say NO either.
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Wow! Your a strongly a proective mother I am 20 myself, and when I grew up to be a teenager, my mom will never let me go somewhere FAR, and I respected her. I still accept her if she says no to other things, even though I live under my parent's roof for free. BUt maybe if they will make me pay the rent, I probably will be allowed to go somewhere overnight or go to another town for a night. My mom is tight, strongly love us, and she doesn't want us to do something bad, or something sad. I always get mad when she say "no" but I have to accept that. :D My mom is very proective mother :)
 
WildKaTReSS said:
I need suggestions and advice... My friend Mandy was going to see my brother in law James in NC (they are enagaged & James is in the army right now) then today her mother told her that she can't go see James now because she's concerned that he may get her pregnant or something. Besides, she is turning 18 years old on November 22nd. Help please!
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War Brides ROCK! ;) Seriously, it is their own decision to marry or not. Would you like it if someone in your family told you what you can or can't do? Same difference!

P.S. My sister married her husband 5 months before he left to Iraq, now he is back! And all is good with those two lovebirds.
 
Love is war! War is love! You can't have one without the other! :thumb:
 
Tell her that to be 17 yr old and engaged in this day and age is INSANE! :crazy: I hope I don't offend anyone in saying that, but, really, what is the rush. If she is soo in love, then why not wait until she's 23-4? Better, yet, 28? 17?????
...then tell her to make him wrap that rascal!
 
well, I think her mother did the right thing she is too young and there is no rush .. One of my freind marrired a amry guy he was a lot of the home and she always feel left out since he was away a lot so i think she should wait ..
 
If James was sent to some place or Iraq, tell your friend be more cautious when he gets home. My grandaunt was in so love with a man before he was sent away for war. Then he came home with different personality, she couldn't marry him. That was really heartbroken :(
 
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