Have you an experience like this after lost your dear friend?

[Liebling:-)))]

Have you an experience like this after lost your dear friend?


We came home from all the day outdoor swimming pool yesterday evening and found fax and mobile phone waiting. I was about turn computer on for check emails and forum posts then switch it off again after read my friend Tine’s fax.

It’s unbelievable shock for us after read her fax saying that her husband Rudi died suddenly of stroke at 12.15 pm (Sunday) aged 51. It’s terrible shock for us because Tine and Rudi is our dear friend for years. My hubby and Tine grow up together at school time… They are our dear friend.

We cried a lot and still can’t believe that he’s really dead. We don’t know what kind of stroke he died of. I guess it’s something do with hot weather? I’ll find out more anytime this week.

It hit her badly after married him for 29 years. I wrote a long and loving fax and then ask her when will his funeral held? I told her that I'll be there & here for her when she need someone to talk with. We are waiting for her reply. We want to be there to say goodbye to him.

 

[Reba]

I am very sorry that you lost your dear friend Rudi. That is an awful shock. Your friend Tine will truly need your love and support. I will pray for her.

 

[Reba]

Have you an experience like this after lost your dear friend?

The worst shock that I experienced similar to that was many years ago but I will never forget. I was in the Navy then, and I arrived at work to my office one morning. I noticed that my commander looked sad. I asked, what's wrong? He told me that my chief (my good friend) killed himself. That was the worst shock. He was about 40 years old, married, and had three children (one severly handicapped).

 

[Cheri]

Awwww

Yes, I do know how it feels I lost two friends of mine, One from high school, he commit suicide. Which shocked all of us in school. Everyone was sad that day after they heard that morning about James. Of course a lot of people have share a lot of tears together. Most of us went to his funeral, even the school provided us a bus trip to the funeral, those who knew James were allow to attend the funeral.


And another time my friend who I've known for 2 years when I was living in an apartment, she got shot by her sister's boyfriend. I posted about it last year. She was a really sweet person, It broke my heart that someone would take her life like that.

 

[horselover61]

I am so sorry to hear that. My heart and prayer will go with you and your friends and his family.

Yes I do have experienced.

One was 18 yrs old, we were in Rainbow Girls *club almost like Elks member*
together. She was on her way home from a friend's house and hit a tree. Was killed instantly. She just graduated from h.s. and on her way to college also on her way to become Worthy Advisor. She wore her Worthy Advisor dress. There was a ritual prayer from the Rainbow Girls. We were sad that she was gone at such a young age.

Another one was 34 yrs old family man with 3 kids. He was killed during the explosion unknown cause. He works for the Golf Club. It happened early in the morning. The firefighter found his body about 5 ft from the door. Guess he knew and tried to get out but too late.

Another one was in the 40 family man with 8 months preggy wife. He was related to my cousin's hubby's cousin. He died from heart attack. I was so shocked at that age and sad at the same time cuz of the baby will never met his/her dad when born.

All those it is really does affect everyone lives. We will learn something good and bad no matter what. But will cherished the good memories of them.

 

[Foxrac]

Sometime, mostly student from deaf school.

 

[kuifje75]

Oh no! I am so sorry to hear about Rudi's untimely death. I am sure that you will miss him, and always remember the great memories of the times you spent with him. It will sustain you.

I had a wonderful friend in high school called Heather (or Stefanie, her nickname in German class). She would tell me about her times when she was in South Africa (Zuid Afrika) when her family was there on missionary work. She would tell me about her "brother" in South Africa, and how she loved to speak in Afrikaans with her brother. After we graduated, we lost contact, then one time I bumped into her by accident in a bookstore in the mall. We both were surprised and chattered some. That was the last time I saw her.

One weekend I arrived home from college, and felt as if I needed to read newspaper. Somehow, I was reading the obituaries, and saw the obituary of Heather. I was shocked. She had gone on to study at Boston College, and did missionary work in Albania. Then she had leukmia, which led her to die at the age of 22. In the newspaper, it said: "Heather loved conversing with her brother in Afrikaans." It brought me back great memories. The sad thing was that I had missed the funeral only by 2 hours. (I read the newspaper two hours after her funeral.) It's odd to think that she is not living with us anymore.

Moreover, I had a wonderful boss in college named Lisa. She came from the same high school as I did, and we would talk sometimes about our hometowns. Later on, I was shocked to learn about "investigations on a water-taxi accident in Baltimore, which killed Vinelander mother and daughter." As I read it, it stated that the daughter was my ex-boss, Lisa. I was shocked. It does feel odd when your family and friends depart from this life all of a sudden.

Last December, my uncle had a stroke which nearly claimed his life. Fortunately, he is doing much better now. Around at the same time, my bf's uncle also died of stroke. It was just so odd. It seems sometimes deaths happen in "clusters," like one year, my uncle died, then an ex-classmate died like 2 weeks later, then 4 months later, my aunt died. It was just crazy.

 

[Cookie Monster]

*Hugs* LieblingDarling! *sending positive healing thoughts to you*

I'm sorry about your dear friend's loss and it is always those tragic events that makes us truly appreciate our loved ones much more in life, eh? Like Kootchie said, always value those wonderful memories.

 

[Gemtun]

Aww Liebling I am sorry to hear about that

I ve lost 5 people in past 2 months - the recent one last week. Not only that, but a few others too in the past year. It sure has made me appreciate life even more and I have been determined to make the best out of what I have while on the Earth.

 

[Foxrac]

Aww Liebling I am sorry to hear about that

I ve lost 5 people in past 2 months - the recent one last week. Not only that, but a few others too in the past year. It sure has made me appreciate life even more and I have been determined to make the best out of what I have while on the Earth.

I have lost several friends after quit deaf school.

 

[TweetyBird]

oh my! i am very sowwy to hear abt that..


i lost my best friend when i was 13 yrs old, she was 14 yrs old, she was in wheelchair, she has heart attack... i cried so hard cuz of i been there for her lot.. i never forget abt her.. sometime i went her grave...

 

[Foxrac]

oh my! i am very sowwy to hear abt that..


i lost my best friend when i was 13 yrs old, she was 14 yrs old, she was in wheelchair, she has heart attack... i cried so hard cuz of i been there for her lot.. i never forget abt her.. sometime i went her grave...

I sent PM to you.

 

[Cheri]

Where's my manners in this? I forgot to show my heart to Liebling. *slaps myself*

Liebling darling,

I'm very sorry for your friend's loss, I know death is something that wake us all up, knowing that someone close to you had passed on. While agreeing with some people here about good memories that you share with your friend, is always the important value to cherish for the rest of your life. Even through he is in a good place now, But he sure would be very proud of you that you are comforting his wife, being there with her through the hard time she is having right now. You're a good friend.

 

[Foxrac]

Where's my manners in this? I forgot to show my heart to Liebling. *slaps myself*

Liebling darling,

I'm very sorry for your friend's loss, I know death is something that wake us all up, knowing that someone close to you had passed on. While agreeing with some people here about good memories that you share with your friend, is always the important value to cherish for the rest of your life. Even through he is in a good place now, But he sure would be very proud of you that you are comforting his wife, being there with her through the hard time she is having right now. You're a good friend.

 

[13NRcrew]

Liebling, I'm really sorry to hear you lost a dear friend. Crying helps a lot.

Yes, I've had this happen too. My best friend died. I woke up that night in a panic, I didn't know why I was so scared. Then I found out that morning that he died. I cried so much, I didn't know my eyes could have so many tears. It felt like my heart was going to implode.

So many in this thread have felt so much pain over a lost loved one. I'm sorry there's been such sadness. But it's also good to know we've loved so many.

I'll keep you in my thoughts.

 

[sunflowergal]

Liebling, I am so sorry to hear about your friend passed away.

 

[horselover61]

Aww Liebling I am sorry to hear about that

I ve lost 5 people in past 2 months - the recent one last week. Not only that, but a few others too in the past year. It sure has made me appreciate life even more and I have been determined to make the best out of what I have while on the Earth.

Yea losing too many ppl within a short period of time is such a tragic time. It happened to me back in 1986. Two ppl I mentioned above dies same year but within month apart. So I know 6 ppl. 2 ppl from my h.s. dies, my aunt's son, my cousin's hubby's cousin, my neighbor and family friend. They all dies within 4 months time frame. That was a shocked to me. I felt so sad during that year. It wasnt the best year for me at all cuz I had my open heart surgery then 2 weeks later, my aunt's son dies in the explusion and my mom send me to my other aunt's house cuz she didnt want me to be home alone when she goes to work. I cried so hard cuz I have spoke to his wife two days before his death. I had a great time with his wife. So it wasnt all that easy for me at all.

 

[Angel]

Aw I'm really sorry to hear about your friend Liebling

I've lost a couple of friends myself too, and it's not a good feeling to lose someone so young either...

 

[Safari]

Liebling,
Truly very sorry about losing your friend, Rudi. Pray for you all. ((Hugs))

Yes, my best friend died from Lupus about 10 years ago. I was shocked and heartbroken. I sure miss her alot.

 

[GalaxyAngel]

Truly sorry lieb..

As same me2.. I've lost my two Deaf friends... When I was around 18-20's Pre-Adult.
1 Deaf Guy who is gay and used be depression becz of people always bad calling name on him.. I was very protect him for long years when in High school and out the world too. He is very truly gentle man ever I had him around. So He made his own decision and sucided. I've already miss him!
1 Deaf woman, She is pure indian and become addictive involved w/hearing peoples and having drinking.. She saw her own hearing friend chase the train but she want save her.... Too late both girls are killed by train. (I think it's frieght train) She was prevouis used to be high school as same me.. She really nice girl and dream want to meet her birth mother one day.. but never happend.

and also lost my schoolgirl (cheerleaders) 4'em were killed by trains involved with other 3 boys. That time, I was in highschool about 85's sumth'n... Barely hard remmy. Truly I miss'em and accept move on...