I have to comment
Lana, Even tho I am away and in "mend" I read your words and I have to reply. I can feel the pain he has already inflicted on you. I know that pain as well. You say he makes you feel like...... well you know you are not any of that. He has hurt you body, mind and most of all spirit. If he chose not to value you in the past and cheated, he was more interested in his own personal, physical and self esteem needs then yours. Please, I can tell you are caught in what is called the cycle of "abuse". It doesn't always mean he hits you, he may not, but what you described so painfully as his loving you and things being good and then fights and accusations and you turning it all on yourself....that's the cycle. You want to stay in touch with his MOM I understand that you have formed a bond over time with her but she knows her son. You need to be honest with her and make the break, Perhaps she will stay in contact discreetly, but that should not be necessary. Let her decide, You, my friend will go on suffering and this will affect you in so many ways, I am sure you know what I am talking about. Your own self esteem is most important, I don't know you, but do know these circumstances, I am afraid you need to find the courage in yourself to face the most painful decision and "let him go". You make the decision, you take control , I know its gonna be hard but take back a little of your own oersonal power and start with telling him who you are!! Do some serious work on YOU. You have been damaged by this person, you don't really want him, you want him to want YOU! It would validate you, you believe, but it will NOT! You will never be able to stop the cycle, that's his hell, let him live in it. You Deserve better and you know it, stop hoping for a miracle, please. Face the reality of the sitution and stop pretending. I wish you strength and I pray you find it, ONLY YOU...can put an end to this situation, please think about what I have said and take back some of what he has stolen from you. You are a blessed child and allowing someone to create such pain and turmoil in your life can not be your path! Peace sister, Be brave, Do what YOU already know you must! Happiness will find you when the time is right,smile, hugs, please know you are surrounded by others who will love you for the gift you are...
Peace to you..Midnight