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My dear AllDeaf friends -

I am sorry if I have not seemed like I was in the true Xmas spirit as I was last year -

As you know, my grandfather died last May and I have had a little hard time getting over that.

Now it is Christmas time, where we should be rejoicing over our blessings, our fellowships, families and the goodwill of our friends -

I have been a bit of a Scrooge lately.

My grandmother, who is the wife of my late grandfather (yes, the one who passed away in May), is now facing her Maker.

She has been ill with pneumonia twice in the space of three months, and her body is just not strong enough to recover - she is already tired and worn-out. We also know that she misses Grandpa, too, who is waiting to bring her back home.

She has been non-responsive for the last week, on a morphine drip with just enough fluids to circulate the morphine through her body - she is in a semi-comostate state at this time, and we have made the difficult decision to let her go. She is on a DNR order, established at the time Grandpa was diagnoised with Alzheimiers only four short years ago.

My parents and Aunt Judy (Mom's sister) are in Kansas with her now - so that she will be surrounded by her daughters.

We are praying for a quick, painless and peaceful end.

She has and still is a wonderful woman, who has surivived hardships and seen so much, and I know I will miss her very much.

When the end comes, I will have MizzDeaf, Cheri and TweetyBird post my messages on this forum as I will be winging my way to Kansas as soon as I can. I will be out of touch almost right after I pass Wakeeney, Kansas on the way to Hill City.

Pray for her.

Thanks.
 
Awww, I hope everything will be okay.. It's going to be tough, cause Holidays are in the corner and when death is near to the corner, that's tough. I remember my grandmother passed away on Christmas Eve, and it was the horrible day, cause we had to grief on Christmas Eve instead of having a merrier with other family. Hang in there, it will be okay...

HUGS to you!
 
Aww DD :hug: I'll be sure to keep her in my prayer, please do keep us update!
 
:( I'm sorry that you are going through a difficult time right now, You're always in my prayers and thoughts. Please do keep us update and I'll be more than glad to pass on the message to you and here in AllDeaf. :hug: :ily:


Have a safe trip and please come back in one piece. ;)
 
Sorry to hear, hope things get well for you soon! Hope the xmas spirit comes to you soonly!
 
DD,
I'm truly sorry hearing all your situation goes through ordeal a year.. Hopefully this year will come spirit for you... No matter what, I'll be very happy to prayer for your safety and families too. By the way, take care and be safe your trip..
 
I am sorry about your situation. I hope you will be ok....I have difficult time as well...due to severe stress, I lost about 20 lbs in a few weeks. Long story...I don't want to talk about it.

Anyway, enough of me... :grouphug: Take it easy, gurl.
 
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayer. Have a safe trip. Be sure to pray before trip for your own safety. The weather is kinda of crazy lately. :hug: Take it easy, girl !
 
:hug: :tears: I know that feeling. I am still going thru with my own grieve as my mom passed away 3 months ago. I missed her so much.

I will be praying for you and your family. I am sure that what your Grandma want to go see her wonderful hubby. Yea it is tough to let someone go as you love them so much.

Have a safe trip and take an easy girl. :hug:
 
I'm sorry you're going thru an ordeal. :hug: I've noticed that some of us had lost our loved ones this year. I've lost 4 loved ones this year. My grandmother died in Feb, my mother died in May, and 2 of my good friends died in August. Its been hard but I have a really strong faith in myself. I hope you can put a lot of faith in yourself and be strong!! Its not easy especially around xmas, but just think of it as a celebration for your grandmother heading with her husband again. She'd be much happier with no pain and no suffering. Hugs! I'm praying right with you!
 
So sorry to hear about your grandpa and now your grandma. Let's hope she can rest in peace very soon.
 
DD, I will continue to keep you in my prayers. Soon your grandma will meet your grandpa in heaven and they will be together for eternity. You have Mizz Deaf, cats and friends like us who support you during your grieving. :grouphug:
 
I'm sorry this has dampen your Christmas spirits, the joy of the holidays...the least you can be assured of is the fact that your good friends here and elsewhere will be thinking of you and keeping you and your grandpa through prayers, as I will keep this closely in my thoughts and prayers--


I'll keep this thread 'sticky' for the time being....


~RR
 
Huggs... DD..

Same with me, losing good friends who just passed on.. and preparing the christmas gifts are hard since we are going through hardship with tight money...

DD .. know what.. try this.. reverse scrooge mood.. try to put christmas spirits in and take off the unsmile face... smile.. say.. Merry Christmas or saying I love you.. they would love to hear... its like you are sprinkle the spirit dusts behind you to make trail... so people can look up to you..

For people who dying or terminate ill.. We couldnt help it.. we have life but we do die anytime.. I know you love your grandparents.. just remember the memories and treasure in your heart.. you know they will be in good hands with Maker... thats important.. yes, they will be sorely missed.. I lost all my grandparents when i was young.. I still not over because I want them see me grow up.. so all I know they are up above with Maker.. making wings for newcomers and sings...

DD hang in there!.. (poke-- let me go first) Merry Christmas and Love you! :ily:
 
My condolences, DD; may you and yours have an inner peace that passeth all understanding.
 
You are not the one only here. I lost my uncle in Feb. 2005 and my aunt (my uncle's wife) is very sad around this time of the year. But she knows that she has us and her family.

And

Next week is my grandfather's birthday-I am always miserable around this time of the year. I am always miserable in Feb. and Dec. because he died in Feb. 1997 and his birthday is in Dec. My family knows and when they know the time of the year, they just worry about me. I am fine and just sad once a while. I have my family and friends to keep me going and being able to smile.

That is all I need.

So you are not the only one here-we have been thru something like you have been. :grouphug: to everyone who lost their loved ones. Keep your chin and just smile that your loved ones are not hurting anymore. They are happy to be home where their hearts belong. :hug:
 
I am really sorry to hear about everything happened to you. I will pray for you.

You know I lost my dad, uncle, and grandpa this year and it will be my first christmas without them, it will be harder for me but I have to be brave and try to have a good time. I know how you felt about that.
 
Grandmother passed away early this morning, so I'll be leaving either Wednesday evening or Thursday morning to meet up with my uncle and cousins in Kansas City and driving west to Hill City for the funeral. MizzDeaf will keep you updated, along with Cheri and TweetyBird.

Thank you for all your prayers and good wishes.

It was peaceful for her, just what we wanted.
 
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