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I have noticed that when I visit my deaf friends' house, expecially those who's family communicates with them in sign because they cannot talk or don't wear any hearing aids/CI, that family seems a lot closer to that deaf person and they all talk a lot. But I'v noticed with my family who only communicate in spoken language are not close to me as the family who signed to their son/daughter.
I hope you know what I mean.
Since I do love my family of course but they don't talk to me all the time as they would to my sister and brother, maybe it's because they seem to talk about music and things I would'nt know about, but I always think they don't know what to talk to me about.
Anybody felt the same??
It may just be me
 
No matter what their interests are, there always plenty to talk about with your family. I have a big family and no matter what their interests are, they still find something to talk about. But on the other hand, I seen men and women in my family don't talk to each other very much, but I tend to talk to the guys in my family than the women.

but around me, yeah, it seem there is nothing to talk about.


this is one of the example why I keep encouraging ASL to newly diagnosed deaf family.
 
Sometimes I have a hard time talking to my teen son. We share some interests but he has more in common with his dad. That doesn't mean that I don't love him and want to spend time with him. Sometimes I just have to hug him and tell him that I love him. Maybe it's a good idea to share an extra hug? Could you spend some time together quietly?

If I were your mom, I'd want you to talk to me about how you feel. Maybe you could share how you feel in a nonthreatening way? If my kid told me that he wanted to spend more time with me, I'd be ecstatic!
 
I don't mean about spending time together, I mean just talking to each other. I feel that she doesnt talk to me as much as my siblings(hearing).
 
Lissa said:
I don't mean about spending time together, I mean just talking to each other. I feel that she doesnt talk to me as much as my siblings(hearing).
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I have noticed that. My older daughter has gone out of her way to become a good signer. So even though they started on an equal ground in that I taught them both sign each night at dinner, I talk a lot more with the daughter who signs better.
 
Lissa said:
I don't mean about spending time together, I mean just talking to each other. I feel that she doesnt talk to me as much as my siblings(hearing).
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I know exactly how you feel because I been there. It's like feeling left out because you can't get the same type of communication from your parents.
 
I don't have the closest of relationships with my parents since being deaf. I don't blame them, its probably me. I get crotchety and grouchy often, like to just be left to myself.
 
I understand what you're saying. Do your parents sign? My idea was that spending time alone together would give you uninterrupted time. If it's just you and a parent, then the parent has to communicate with you (unless she just sits there and stares at you!).
 
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I don't have the closest of relationships with my parents since being deaf. I don't blame them, its probably me. I get crotchety and grouchy often, like to just be left to myself.
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Yeah, I'm a bit like that. I guess we just have to live with it
 
Lissa said:
I have noticed that when I visit my deaf friends' house, expecially those who's family communicates with them in sign because they cannot talk or don't wear any hearing aids/CI, that family seems a lot closer to that deaf person and they all talk a lot. But I'v noticed with my family who only communicate in spoken language are not close to me as the family who signed to their son/daughter.
I hope you know what I mean.
Since I do love my family of course but they don't talk to me all the time as they would to my sister and brother, maybe it's because they seem to talk about music and things I would'nt know about, but I always think they don't know what to talk to me about.
Anybody felt the same??
It may just be me
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Not just you, very common.

I am thankful my parents use sign language.
 
No, my mum does not sign. We use spoken language but we don't speak much
 
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I notice myself that I am more close to my mom, sister, and brother more than grandparents, aunts & uncle, and cousins. It is cos of the communcation, obviously...

But I'm really happy that my family do know the sign language. I won't trade my family with anyone. :P
 
May I be your honorary mom? I don't have a daughter.
 
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I notice myself that I am more close to my mom, sister, and brother more than grandparents, aunts & uncle, and cousins. It is cos of the communcation, obviously...

But I'm really happy that my family do know the sign language. I won't trade my family with anyone. :P
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You're lucky to have a family who can sign
 
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Thanks, Lissa :)

Sally - Why? I'm curious. Honestly, nobody ask me like that before. lol
 
I have two sons. The last boy was supposed to be a Chinese girl but I got pregnant right after I got approved by the adoption agency. I couldn't handle two babies at once so I decided that another couple needed the baby girl more than I did! I'd love to adopt now but I don't have the energy or the resources. I'm mid 40's now.

I've always wanted a daughter and it looks like I will have to wait until I get a daughter in law (and if I'm lucky a grandchild!). I'm just one of those women who always wanted to be a mother. I figure that I'll always be mothering someone even if it's not a biological relationship. I really miss my grandma because I was really close to her. Closer than with my own mom.
 
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Mmmm..... very well. You have your good reason, so I'll think about that. :)



EDIT: But, on another hand, you have to realize that you and I don't talk to each other so often. I don't want to have a relationship when there is a lack of communcation in between of two persons. But, again, ill think about that. ;)
 
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Ok. It's entirely up to you. I've got my own kids for now. It'll be hard when they leave for college! I already mother people around here too much! LOL!
 
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Heh heh. It would be nice. :P
 
I'm very close to my mom. She is using sign language to communicate with me. My dad know sign language too. He is in the heaven now. My brother used to know sign language a little bit. Until he moved out of moms house when he was 18. He is totally forget to use sign language with me. We are live far away and not get spend time together for long times. My stepdad didn't know sign language. Some my cousins know sign languages and not at all. I felt left out because my third cousin is deaf with CI. He didn't use sign language because his mom never want to learn sign language to communicate with him. Her parents are lazy to learn sign language to communicate with me and their grandson. They always use speak language.

My husband know sign language as well. His sister, nephew, niece and cousins know sign language a little.

My husband and I agreed to teach our baby to learn sign language so early! We want our boy to learn so quick and be smart. He will recommend his parents to learn baby sign language for basic to communicate with our son. My mom will be happy to use sign language to communicate with him too. We will show my third deaf cousin and his mom and grandparent to see how is our son is smart and know sign language so fast. It will make them feel stupid and realize. Baby sign language is very important!
 
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