Bible Belt = more divorces

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Bible Belt areas have the highest rate of divorce rate.

"Aside from the quickie-divorce Mecca of Nevada, no region of the United States has a higher divorce rate than the Bible Belt. Nearly half of all marriages break up, but the divorce rates in these southern states are roughly 50 percent above the national average."

http://www.ncpa.org/pd/social/pd111999g.html

Half of marriages were ended! As for religion, it said:

"Religion may play a role, since some of the lowest divorce rates are in northeastern states with relatively high household incomes and large numbers of Roman Catholics whose church doesn't recognize divorce.

Bible Belt states, in contrast, are dominated by fundamentalist Protestant denominations that proclaim the sanctity of marriage but generally do not want to estrange churchgoers who do divorce."

Many fundies on this forum are already divorced and they still cling to their delusions yet they whine about gay marriages? They should be looking at their OWN marriages than to criticize other people's marriages!
 
netrox said:
...Many fundies on this forum are already divorced and they still cling to their delusions yet they whine about gay marriages? They should be looking at their OWN marriages than to criticize other people's marriages!
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I know for a fact that there is no where near a 50% divorce rate at my church. About other churches :dunno:

Let me look at my marriage . . . well, so far it's lasted more than 30 years. :)
 
I know for a fact that there is no where near a 50% divorce rate at my church.
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The 50% rate does NOT mean that 50% of your church's audience is divorced!
 
My single cousin want to get married to a Divorced man in England, my family church priest refused to marry them, so they got married at Register Office instead, and they return to the church later on for their blessing afterwards.
 
Jesus gave a permission to divorce if, one is committed adultery.
 
Jesus gave a permission to divorce if, one is committed adultery.
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But occasional adultery shouldn't be the reason to divorce, IMO.
 
I had a late friend who passed away, and she read the book the meaning of what Jesus said about divorce and the adultery and also about divorce and marry another. I won't discuss further of it. Interstesting that even what Jesus said but missing His point. I can't remember how it goes and can't remember who is the author of the book. But one I remember, as God hates divorce and have to weight the meaning what Jesus meant that relate in Book of Hosea. God hates divorce, but causing the stubbornness of His people by living in sin, God divorced them, but never end it, bec people realize they have sinned against God greatly and confess it to the Lord, God restored as He said that His anger will not last forever, bec His Love toward His people is beyond measure. All the divorce rate is many many different reasoning and most highly are not thoroughly Bible reading, but follow preachers or do their own things for chruch activities and many many other reasoning. My friend who is very active at Baptist church and his wife is very involve in catholic, they go different church and their marriage is very long and still married. To me, what's going on around me and what the other lok at doesn't change my faith, its my personal life of my relationship with God. Christians has different spiritual levels. Mixed in with secular will cause a lot ofproblem which I have seen. Also, very judgmental christians doesn't have joy in the family that I have seen also, criticize other denomination and line drawing btwn them also has problem. Joyce Meyers has awesome pointer about "Battle of the Minds" which talking about the way people act and thinks. Enuf of stinkin thinkin and enuf of neg attitutudes and enuf of blaming others and etc. Its YOU, that is each of us. I have met and I myself going thru likewise about divorces and there are differences. My divorced isn't between me and my ex wife and my children wil tell you that, its my ex in laws ripped our marriage apart. And you know what's my problem is, in spite how much I experience my relationship with God, the battle is raging, and my problem is I got my eyes off of God and focus on problems and allowing them run us over, even I put up with them soooo long and their stubborness affect my wife and my relationship which driven us apart. It is painful for my wife and myself. And we still keep in touch. My wife will lose everything if she sees me, who says? Her parents and her sis. Her sister is in other denomination and she's the one split us up and claiming see our denomination causing it, which is not so, its herself and my ex wifes parent is not a christian which destroyed our home and which lead me to another person, bec I was living like a doormat. Does that gives me excuse? No. Does that give them excuse? No. A lot asking me if I consider to talk with ex in laws, I said yes, but they refuse. They are full of hates, refuse to forgive, refuse to reconcile. Do I forgive them? Yes. Why? What Jesus done for me, I do likewise to them. My children and my ex wife and I still keep in touch without my ex wife families knows. That is the example. All have different reasonings. And I'm not authorize judgement about the divorces of each one of them.
 
My divorced isn't between me and my ex wife and my children wil tell you that, its my ex in laws ripped our marriage apart.
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Not impressed with your excuse. Sorry.
 
netrox said:
But occasional adultery shouldn't be the reason to divorce, IMO.
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If you accept the premise that marriage is to be founded upon trust, is this not one of the most flagrant breaches of that trust possible, short of a physical beating?
 
CyberRed said:
Jesus gave a permission to divorce if, one is committed adultery.
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If a person abused a wife so badly then can be divorce. GOD knows for good reason.
 
Reba said:
I know for a fact that there is no where near a 50% divorce rate at my church. About other churches :dunno:

Let me look at my marriage . . . well, so far it's lasted more than 30 years. :)
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Just because you have adhered to your marriage vows, doesn't mean that others have. You don't know what your "brother or sister" may be doing behind closed doors. In church, they may seem like the most upstanding Christian, but at home, it could very well be another story.

And, I think that's the point Netrox is making. There's a LOT of hypocrisy in our churches.
 
netrox said:
Not impressed with your excuse. Sorry.
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Did I say I make an excuse? Its in there. But I have no power and and I'm not rich at all as they are. But most voice is from my ex in laws , but long story. But not the point there. You are as bad as judgemental christians. All I see is neg and making excuses about the christianity and looking fault at them. You can justify it even you don't think you are doing it. But, same time I will not hold bitterness and grudge against your negativities or insult or whatever. Bec it really isn't worth it at all.
 
If you accept the premise that marriage is to be founded upon trust, is this not one of the most flagrant breaches of that trust possible, short of a physical beating?
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Trust is very important but you have to ACCEPT that most people are NOT perfect. You cannot make a bet that your spouse will be completely faithful to you for the rest of his/her life. So many married couples have cheated but it doesn't mean they don't love each other. Most do love each other deeply. Sometimes it takes adultery to strengthen their marriage.

If you have a real problem with your spouse cheating on you once and dwell on that, then it will cause more problems.

Once again, trust is VERY important but don't trust too much or too little. Little or excessive trust can be determintal to one's well being.
 
Did I say I make an excuse? Its in there. But I have no power and and I'm not rich at all as they are. But most voice is from my ex in laws , but long story.
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Didn't the marriage vow include, "for richer or for poorer?"

But not the point there. You are as bad as judgemental christians.
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Oh I am making a point here, hottieboi. Christians are so busy trying to create anti-gay marriage amendment and they say that it's wrong and immoral but their divorce rate reflects their hypocrisy.

If you simply just respect gays' decision to marry whomever they want, they wouldn't have issues. The sad truth is you do have an issue with the idea of them getting married just because it offends your religious belief. Since when did the Consitution say you can impose your beliefs on others?
 
netrox said:
Trust is very important but you have to ACCEPT that most people are NOT perfect. You cannot make a bet that your spouse will be completely faithful to you for the rest of his/her life. So many married couples have cheated but it doesn't mean they don't love each other. Most do love each other deeply. Sometimes it takes adultery to strengthen their marriage.

If you have a real problem with your spouse cheating on you once and dwell on that, then it will cause more problems.

Once again, trust is VERY important but don't trust too much or too little. Little or excessive trust can be determintal to one's well being.
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I think one CAN make that bet. I have seen marriages where I know there is no cheating--my parents in particular I've obviously had the opportunity to observe very closely and I know very well that they have not cheated. Furthermore, if someone has any reasons to back down from a committment not to cheat, that tells me I cannot trust them in other things. And I think that breakdown in trust is exactly why the advice to divorce in the case of adultery occurs, and I know I would definitely leave a husband who cheated.

But there's something else about cheating--it's not just a trivial dalliance. To cheat is to put the life of one's spouse at risk by potentially bringing disease into the relationship.
 
netrox said:
But occasional adultery shouldn't be the reason to divorce, IMO.
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Occasional adultery?!

Adultery ONCE is too much.
 
What? People still get married??

Didnt that go out of style a long time ago? :D
 
netrox said:
Didn't the marriage vow include, "for richer or for poorer?"



Oh I am making a point here, hottieboi. Christians are so busy trying to create anti-gay marriage amendment and they say that it's wrong and immoral but their divorce rate reflects their hypocrisy.

If you simply just respect gays' decision to marry whomever they want, they wouldn't have issues. The sad truth is you do have an issue with the idea of them getting married just because it offends your religious belief. Since when did the Consitution say you can impose your beliefs on others?
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Our marriage has nothing to do with our marriages and the vows also didn't say I give my life and vows to my wife and mom in law and I'm like I married to wife and in laws and we don't work together, my ex wife more committed to her mom than me and God did say that anyone who interfere the relationship like asunder, will suffer consequences and relationship is very important and key to build in marriage. Nothing wrong with in laws, but by severe dominate which affect the spouses and causing no commitment to each other bec others interefere lead a serious problem and that marriage is anulled or dissolve. What brought up about gay marriages? Well, gay marraige is set up by man, btwen man and wife establish by God. Again, I don't care what SOME christians are doing, that will not affect my faith in Christ. So much human strife of opinions, philosiphies and etc. No, impossible, for being commiting adultery does not make marriage stronger, but damage the trust. I learned to keep my life giving to God everyday and learn the mistakes and do not dwell on the thought of mistakes and not blame on others. Love the way of Joyce Meyers said, Kget rid of stinkin thinkin".
 
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