Bi Question

LuvsInk said:
That sounds to me like you were in transition and finding out who you were. I was married and thought I was bi. Eventually I realized that I too liked women better than men and am also a lesbian.
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Well actually when I was BI, I didnt care what I wanted from my life. All I wanted was men and women till I met a woman who is pure lesbian. She made me realized abt being myself, what I want, what should I do with my lifestyle - Straight or Lesbian?? I had to look back and see what made me really happy? straight or lesbian? I realized Lesbian is since the women treat me good and respect, the men didnt, whats more the men didnt want to settle down. I was in love with one or two men. They didnt. So I fell in love with woman who helped me with my life. Thats how I love women more. ;)
 
Sometimes, I sees that women like women prefer men. Sometimes, I sees that men like men prefer women. I not know why they put this in relationship between men and women. I read book about that lesbain show herself to men when she was man's world. I know God only know why.

You know DreamDeaf is my signature other and prefer BI. I am gay because I not conside myself lesbian. I feel like BI toward men and women, too. That is just expression path.
 
MizzDeaf said:
Sometimes, I sees that women like women prefer men. Sometimes, I sees that men like men prefer women. I not know why they put this in relationship between men and women. I read book about that lesbain show herself to men when she was man's world. I know God only know why.

You know DreamDeaf is my signature other and prefer BI. I am gay because I not conside myself lesbian. I feel like BI toward men and women, too. That is just expression path.
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I don't quite understand what you mean about this.
Your significant other is BI and you are...
1) female but you don't consider yourself as a lesbian but as gay?
2) you see yourself as BI toward men and women?
I'm a little :confused:here.
 
I'm streight, and happy that way, sorry. But I will support you guys. Just as long a guy don't hit on me. If so, then I just might have to hit him.
 
Smiley i never understand that with men. WOW what are you afraid of? If you are not interested just say so. You would do the same with a woman you are not interseted in. Why do you need to hit some one? No is quite suffiecent. Besides most gay men aren't really interested in straight men, yeah we say oh he is hot but actually go after you. No why waste my time on some one i can't have when i can have a gay man. The fear is really not warrented.
 
I have no problem and I joke around with it, but the hitting part is if the guy goes to far for my confurt. Also, it will have to be if I know the person or not.
 
Southern said:
Smiley i never understand that with men. WOW what are you afraid of? If you are not interested just say so. You would do the same with a woman you are not interseted in. Why do you need to hit some one? No is quite suffiecent. Besides most gay men aren't really interested in straight men, yeah we say oh he is hot but actually go after you. No why waste my time on some one i can't have when i can have a gay man. The fear is really not warrented.
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I am with you on this one, I don't like to see any violence forward gay, lesbians, and bi people. If a woman who's lesbian or bi hits or flirt with me I would feel flatter, I will not get upset and try to punch them. ;)
 
Sorry, just a confurt level and I get defencive at that poiint and reactions kick in. I have no problem and if a guy asks me if I am gay and that I look good, that is fine. But if he just starts goofing off and goes to far and I let him know before, then my reaction takes over.
 
Handsome_Smiley said:
Sorry, just a confurt level and I get defencive at that poiint and reactions kick in. I have no problem and if a guy asks me if I am gay and that I look good, that is fine. But if he just starts goofing off and goes to far and I let him know before, then my reaction takes over.
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Gee, I wonder how many straight women out there have guys continue to hit on them after they've made it clear they weren't interested? Maybe if more guys out there would think how they'd feel if a gay guy continued hitting on them after they said "Not interested", we'd have less date rape, etc.

HS, you might want to re-think the whole violence/bashing thing. Typically, anytime someone who's bashed a gay person uses the whole "gay panic defense" (ie, "Your Honor, he was hitting on me, and it made me uncomfortable, so I beat the shit out of him, and um... golly, it went too far, and now he's dead"), it doesn't typically hold much water in the court system.

Violence is seldom the best policy. I know you're in the military, and there's a certain culture of violence that you live in every day... but there is such a thing as going too far.
 
It would depend on the relationship and how long we were together.

If we were together for a long time and she had always led me to believe that she was straight by talking about how she thinks bisexual or lesbians are disgusting or how she could never imagine herself with another woman, then suddenly told me that she was bisexual all along... then I would feel betrayed.

If we were together for a short time and were still in the period of opening ourselves up from time to time, then I would be understanding and talk about it with her.
 
If my husband just told me that he realized he is bi, I wouldnt feel betrayed because it is not like he knew along and kept it as a secret from me. If the opposite, ohhh I would be devastated cuz it would mean he didnt trust me enough to share his secret with me.
 
shel90 said:
If my husband just told me that he realized he is bi, I wouldnt feel betrayed because it is not like he knew along and kept it as a secret from me. If the opposite, ohhh I would be devastated cuz it would mean he didnt trust me enough to share his secret with me.
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How thoughtful of you Shel, there are indeed lots of people in straight relationships who do have queer attractions but don't want to say anything for fear of being looked down upon or getting a hostile reaction, and then if they say something their partner gets mad about the betrayal instead of feeling the compassion you describe...
 
operatorally said:
How thoughtful of you Shel, there are indeed lots of people in straight relationships who do have queer attractions but don't want to say anything for fear of being looked down upon or getting a hostile reaction, and then if they say something their partner gets mad about the betrayal instead of feeling the compassion you describe...
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Well..I may be understanding but I dont think I will be able to stay with him if he ever does confess he is bi because I DONT want to share!!! LOL
 
It is best to tell your partner truthfully and talk openly about sex relationship. My husband likes look thru porn site and I don't mind. I look thru it too. We don't hide from each other. Hiding secrets from each other is asking for trouble. That what happen when my ex cheated on me while I was carry my son 19 yrs ago. He stated that He NEEDED sex but it''s more than that. I couldn't trust for years and still don't trust him today.
 
if i were bi ppl need to accpet me about my feelings but i won't cheat or have affair behind my love one back cuz it will hurt him or her like betrayl to them i will always love my love one no matter who i am he or her might love me the same

i always accpet ppl who is lesbian, gay and bi and i respect them
 
moonflower said:
if i were bi ppl need to accpet me about my feelings but i won't cheat or have affair behind my love one back cuz it will hurt him or her like betrayl to them i will always love my love one no matter who i am he or her might love me the same

i always accpet ppl who is lesbian, gay and bi and i respect them
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same here
 
Cheri said:
I am with you on this one, I don't like to see any violence forward gay, lesbians, and bi people. If a woman who's lesbian or bi hits or flirt with me I would feel flatter, I will not get upset and try to punch them. ;)
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You don't mind them kissin' ya ? :lol: How about acceptin' their french kissin', if you feel flatterin' by them ? :giggle:
 
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