Well I was used to be in the anger management during my high school because I have lot of fights with my parents, we fight like everyday. We fight because I was fighting for my independence and my parents refuse to trust me due to my irresponiblities attitude toward to my sleep time, the school, stealing, the drugs, etc, it's just that I was rebel-type teen boy.
One of the example about my anger problem, after the school during I was sophomore, I walked to the bus stop expecting to ride to my friend's place, but my mom drove by and told me that I have a doctor approitment and I told her that I don't want to go to the doctor approitment because I think it's unnecessary, I don't remember why I have to go to the doctor, but I finally accept get in my mom's car and we continue fighting over the doctor approitment, I have been kept telling her that I am willing to pay for the cancelation fee which my mom refuse to allow me to do so. Till we parked at the clinic's parking lot, right after I got out of the car, I told my mom "You're damn lucky that I am not going to hurt you", I was beating on my backpack on the concrete floor and destroy alot of things inside the backpack include the backpack itself, my mom was crying because I scared her. After that, she finally let me go and didn't go to the doctor approitment.
Anyway, while I was used to attend the anger management, I find it just okay, but not help my situation with parents that much so I decide to go to the consuler instead and again it seems doesn't help neither because my parents kept gaining their "parential power" over me which cause me fighting with them more.
How did I solve my own issue with parents? I decide to change my room into a "mini studio apartment" which have the little living room with tv and couch, a bed, also I even buy my own foods and put them inside my closet, also I got a car so that I don't have to use my parent's living room, their foods, their cars, etc. The reason why I was doing this because I was trying to make things that I need turn into disconnect with parents which my parents can't really do anything with it.
The lastly I would ever seriously fight with my parents was the first month of my Senior Year with my dad. At the morning, my dad want me to go to Seattle to work with him for his business which I refuse to accept because I have to go to the school, but my dad refuse to allow me to go to the school, we kept fighting in the house till I finally tried to run to my car, but my dad chased me and got in the car. We both was in the car and I have been asking him to get out of my car because he was making me late for the school, it was like 5 min I have been asking him to get out of my car so I was very fed up with him, then took my heavy keychain then smashing on my dad's leg with my key and we fought in physcially, till my dad finally choked me with the seatbelt then I stomped my dad's face with my keychain then my dad backed off from me and I took my backpack, then got out of the car. I walked away from the house and the car, I kept walking for like 45 minutes to a supermarket, then called my mom and telling her what happened. After that, I went to my friend's place and stayed there for like 4 days without my parents knowing, I bet they have been looking for me those days. I came back to my parent's place and my parents was home. We didn't talked at all till next day, my dad apologized to me and he promised to not try to force me to do whatever he want me to do. My parents finally recognized my independence.
That is what made my Senior Year in the high school goes very smooth while my Freshmen, Sophomore, and Junior years was the worst, I don't steal anymore, rarely use the drugs except for smoking the cigarettes, I also own a car and drive, buying my own foods all the times, many things that I do on my own. Also after the graduate, I moved out immedately to stay away from the conflict with parnets. Independence is all I want and I had fought for it many times, I even was arrested over the Diet Pepsi, there's lot of things I fought over little stuff with my parents..
Sometimes it's better to think about the solution instead of creating the emenies. Also I notice when the fight become more serious, it's better for me to walk away from them to calm down, but in the notice, they don't always leave me alone so sometimes I have to lock myself inside a room to keep them away from me. Just my advice
