Children need be spank???

Children need be spank for misbehave?

  • Yes: Explain why?

    Votes: 20 47.6%

  • No: Explain why?

    Votes: 19 45.2%

  • Not sure

    Votes: 3 7.1%
  • Total voters
    42
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I voted no. I think that behavior can be carried too far by parents and end up with severe emotional scars to children.

I think you can find a lot of ways to discipline your children without hitting them.
 
I would vote no. But at sometimes, a simple smack on the rump is needed (with ur hand), and a verbal/sign "NO"! I ground my boys, and take away priviledges when they misbehave or break the rules.
 
I voted "Yes" Spanking on the bum is acceptable, spanking is not a form of abuse. I've been spanked when I was young and spanking didn't do me any lasting damage. I turned out just fine. :) I've spanked my boys when they were younger only when it is required, but nowadays spanking isn't needed.
 
I voted yes. Use the hand spank instead belt whip. I don't believe in belt whip because it's abusive.

If the child is being bad in dangerous stuff like run across the street. The car would spank child go to the heaven. The child would run out of house without ask parent where is child go. The parent thought the child is miss. The child is play hide from parent to scare them. It's okay to be spank child to learn the lesson. The stranger would kidnap the child.

For me I rather put my child in timeout on naughty stool for ages minute. I don't want put my child in room for punishment. The room is for enjoy.

I hate my dad put me into room with door hook in to lock it. I did bang on the door real loud. I don't want be same with my kids.

The hand spank should be light instead hard, punch, kicking, and hit.

My dad never use the belt whip on me. He used the hand spank on my buttock. It was hurt but not really bruise cause scar at all.
 
I voted yes. I only spank them for serious misbehavior to show them I mean business. It is rare.
 
Whether someone decides to fairy-dust it or not, it's still hitting your kid. I don't ever intend to spank my future kids (if I decide to have any at all). There are many alternatives. :)
 
I never spanked my kids. I'm trained as a teacher and I believe that discipline means teaching kids to make the best decisions about their behavior. It takes more time and energy to teach the kids how to behave but positive reinforcement works. My kids are well behaved. My teen got three "pleasure to have in class" remarks this report card. My younger child is very sweet, too.
 
I vote yes... I only spank my son if he's in serious trouble, that he has misbehaved badly and didn't listen to me after few fair warnings. But most of the time I just give him warnings and put him in timeout. I've been spanked as a child and that didn't harm me, I just turned out fine.
 
I voted "no." I think there are other ways of disciplining children. Even though not all spanking is physical abuse, I think it's a slippery slope from spanking out of discipline to "spanking" out of anger, which is physical abuse. I'd rather stay away from that slippery slope and use other techniques such as time out or temporary loss of privileges as a way to get my point across.
 
I was spanked as a child, quite often if my father didnt like what I was doing. But it didnt affect me, I think it should only be used in bad situations like Pinky said, if a child is playing dangerously near a road or is running across the road.
Timeouts, naughty chairs/ corners should be enough
 
CJB said:
I voted "no." I think there are other ways of disciplining children. Even though not all spanking is physical abuse, I think it's a slippery slope from spanking out of discipline to "spanking" out of anger, which is physical abuse. I'd rather stay away from that slippery slope and use other techniques such as time out or temporary loss of privileges as a way to get my point across.
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Did you read both of website??

The first link about spank children with discipline. This article does not intend to either promote or discourage spanking, but rather is intended to give parents correct instruction on using non-abusive spanking in discipline.

You don't want be spank your children. It's your decide. You can use discipline without spank.
 
I voted "not sure", but what I really mean is "sometimes." I think spanking can be very, very effective for some children, but it isn't necessary for all children. It really depends on the child's personality. I was spanked a couple times when I was very little - we were sent to our room for 15 to 30 minutes before we got spanked. It made certain no one ever hit us in anger. Plus, waiting for it was 1 million times worse!
My sister, on the other hand, was frequently spanked from about 3 to about 5. After that, she was better punished by having treats taken away. Before that, she wasn't old enough to think about consequences so that method wouldn't have worked. My parents found that a much more effective punishment for me was to tell me that they were disappointed or that I'd hurt someone's feelings. Knowing that I made someone sad always made me feel really, really bad and I'd apologize and try to make it better.

I think spanking is most effective not in hurting children, but in shocking them. That's why waiting to be spanked was so miserable - because the thought was more terrible than the brief sting. I have a friend whose father hit her with a belt buckle and left her with a scar. To me, that's child abuse and is never acceptable punishment!
 
I voted not sure. I can see both sides of the issue. I was raised with corporal punishment and all it did was make me afraid of my Dad. I'm intimidated by him to this day. Therefore, I think that spankings by the wrong person can be abusive. I don't think it's the technique itself, but the person applying the technique that makes it abusive.

There is a time and place for it. I see nothing wrong with popping the butt of a wayward two year old once in awhile, but there is something very wrong with humiliating a 7 yrs old. It's all in the circumstance and how you appy it.
 
I can see both side of the issues:

My mom always made me sit down and talk things out whenever I get in trouble, but whenever people talk to me, i keep thinking I am in trouble or something like that to this day. :\ The only time people ever talked to me personally (outside of classes and such) verbally before I went to post-secondary... wass whenever I got into trouble. I actually feel threatened when people talk to me for some reason-- yet I don't get that with typing or texting.

My stepdad only hit me with a belt buckle once, and I don't even remember it.
 
Hmm.. I was spanked ( with a belt) like every day... :P I hated when i was a kid.. but now i guess i know why... I think it helped me be the person i am now.. although.. MAN IT HURT..
my father would also punch me in the face and make my nose bleed if i disrespected him.. but... eh.. i got over it.
I did come from a very strict family background... with Lebanese ancestors.. duh.. my father was used to harsh punishment.
 
violet said:
Hmm.. I was spanked ( with a belt) like every day... :P I hated when i was a kid.. but now i guess i know why... I think it helped me be the person i am now.. although.. MAN IT HURT..
my father would also punch me in the face and make my nose bleed if i disrespected him.. but... eh.. i got over it.
I did come from a very strict family background... with Lebanese ancestors.. duh.. my father was used to harsh punishment.
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:shock: You've been whipped with a belt and punched in the face? He should be charge with assault.

I had reported on a person that I used to know for years, she used a wooden spoon on her son and he developed bruises on his arms. I couldn't sit back and watch this go on, so I called child abuse hot line and of course her child is no longer with her. If I did nothing to protect that child, God would only know what would had happened. It does not only takes a village to raise a child, it also takes a village to keep a child safe. ;)
 
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