Annoying ignorant hearing people stories

Don't let the miserable people make you miserable, Sunny!
 
Sunny, a fabulous mood even though the Canucks lost to the Oilers? lol ;-) And I would tell those hearies, "I may be deaf but not blind too, take your fight somewhere else." I hate when people fight around me, ugh!
 
After reading all of these, I have to say, I have tears streaming down my face.

To be honest, when I stumbled across this website today, it was the first time that it dawned on me that I could finally be a part of a community of people that understand me. One that I truly belong to.

I was born HoH, because my mother experienced problems during labor and I was strangled in my umbilical cord (long enough to turn me blue, and lose oxygen to my brain long enough to profoundly affect my hearing forever.) Up until Kindergarten, everybody thought I was just ADHD, but then when my hearing loss was recognized, I obtained my first pair of hearing aids.

I've moved all over Colorado my whole life, and never spent more than 2 or 3 years max in any school. Can you imagine what it was like to constantly, almost every single school year, be introduced as "Meet Lillian, call her Lily, she wears hearing aids!"

I was tormented by my peers beyond belief as a kid, and all through middle and high school. In third grade, a few girls used to make the most twisted, ugliest faces at me and use that mock-retard voice and ask why I wasn't in special ed with all the down-syndrome children. Since I'm smart and have usually been in Advanced reading, english, etc. classes, hearing kids would get jealous that I, a "disabled" person, was able to excel in class without the use of a student aide or constant help from the teacher.

(this is my first post on this site, sorry it's so long, everyone.) :shock:

Since we moved around so much and the towns we lived in were small, my parents (however ignorant of them) thought that since I had hearing aids, I was fully part of the hearing community. As you all know, this was not the case. I was always "different" to everyone else, and most kids growing up see "different" as a contagious social disease that, if you're nice or friendly with "different", will prevent you from climbing whatever social pyramid everyone was so concerned with.

I had no friends, for a long time. I never had the chance to associate with other HoH or Deaf people, or learn sign language even though the doctors told my parents that any day, or upon an accident, I could entirely lose my hearing overnight. But, rather than go the hard way and learn ASL alongside me just in case this happened, I suffered more and more as my hearing has been lost over the years.

In 2006, an ex-boyfriend of mine had a poodle, who literally ate my $8,000 total hearing aids. Up until 2010, I survived almost entirely with lip-reading and empathetic friends.

I dropped out of school (an alternative high school, which I attended with another HoH girl that had an interpreter. I was so jealous, I wish I could fluently understand ASL)

It was the first day back from winter break, and we were all sitting in a huge circle in the classroom. The teacher asked me a question, the last word, the vital word to the question, making no sense to me without my Aids. I repeatedly tried to understand him, have him repeat it slower, and finally after five tries, he just started laughing AT me. you can tell that sick, sad, gnarly difference between being laughed at and being laughed with. and the class of 20 students broke up laughing with him. I cried, and dropped out until 2010.

I now have a 4.0 in my college classes, studying to be a Medical Assistant. My current teacher is spanish, and although I have NO predjudice whatsoever (how can I? I know how it feels. we all do.) SHE'S the one that has a discriminative attitude towards me. for three reasons:

1. I'm white, unlike her favorite students.
2. I'm smarter than her favorite students, and get better grades than them.
3. I'm smarter and make better grades with a DISABILITY.

I believe it's because of the above three reasons why she tries so hard to make it harder for me. I've walked out crying so many times because she'll walk around the BACK of the classroom during lectures, purposefully face the blackboard, so that when I ask for a repeat she can say that "I'm using my hearing loss as an excuse to slack off and not pay attention." and "I should try harder because with a hearing aid I shouldn't have a problem."

Sorry, MS. IGNORANTANDTOTALLYWORTHLESSHUMANBEING, that I'm making your life so hard. Go ahead and take your 10 or 15 minutes repeating everything you said to fully hearing-capable students that truly choose to slack off and not pay attention, while letting me try ten times as hard as them to understand everything and make it seem like 2 minutes to explain something to me is JUST SO HARD, when I'm paying $20,000 to go to this school.

I resent my parents for not extending to me the opportunity to be a part of my own community, and forcing me to pretend to be normal and always have to try so hard to catch up to the hearing world instead of being able to just be myself and be accepted by people just like me.
 
sunny_signs said:
I hate be in room two hearies who think "oh Sun deaf, we can fight all we want, she never know" then fight forever. I see your expressions, read your lips, feel tension...DUH!
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When things like this happen around me, I tend to walk out. I don't like witnessing stuff like this.
 
Hi TheExistential,

This is one of my favorite threads at AD also. I'm out the door but I just want to say do a few searches with the AD Forums's search box on

note taker
CART
student disability office

and see what comes up.

You DO NOT have to put up with that nonsense that horrible teacher is giving you.

Welcome to AD!
 
Welcome home, I found this site myself only a month ago and can relate to how u feel on many points. This site has such a good mix of different backgrounds personalities enjoy....
 
THExistential said:
After reading all of these, I have to say, I have tears streaming down my face.

To be honest, when I stumbled across this website today, it was the first time that it dawned on me that I could finally be a part of a community of people that understand me. One that I truly belong to.

I was born HoH, because my mother experienced problems during labor and I was strangled in my umbilical cord (long enough to turn me blue, and lose oxygen to my brain long enough to profoundly affect my hearing forever.) Up until Kindergarten, everybody thought I was just ADHD, but then when my hearing loss was recognized, I obtained my first pair of hearing aids.

I've moved all over Colorado my whole life, and never spent more than 2 or 3 years max in any school. Can you imagine what it was like to constantly, almost every single school year, be introduced as "Meet Lillian, call her Lily, she wears hearing aids!"

I was tormented by my peers beyond belief as a kid, and all through middle and high school. In third grade, a few girls used to make the most twisted, ugliest faces at me and use that mock-retard voice and ask why I wasn't in special ed with all the down-syndrome children. Since I'm smart and have usually been in Advanced reading, english, etc. classes, hearing kids would get jealous that I, a "disabled" person, was able to excel in class without the use of a student aide or constant help from the teacher.

(this is my first post on this site, sorry it's so long, everyone.) :shock:

Since we moved around so much and the towns we lived in were small, my parents (however ignorant of them) thought that since I had hearing aids, I was fully part of the hearing community. As you all know, this was not the case. I was always "different" to everyone else, and most kids growing up see "different" as a contagious social disease that, if you're nice or friendly with "different", will prevent you from climbing whatever social pyramid everyone was so concerned with.

I had no friends, for a long time. I never had the chance to associate with other HoH or Deaf people, or learn sign language even though the doctors told my parents that any day, or upon an accident, I could entirely lose my hearing overnight. But, rather than go the hard way and learn ASL alongside me just in case this happened, I suffered more and more as my hearing has been lost over the years.

In 2006, an ex-boyfriend of mine had a poodle, who literally ate my $8,000 total hearing aids. Up until 2010, I survived almost entirely with lip-reading and empathetic friends.

I dropped out of school (an alternative high school, which I attended with another HoH girl that had an interpreter. I was so jealous, I wish I could fluently understand ASL)

It was the first day back from winter break, and we were all sitting in a huge circle in the classroom. The teacher asked me a question, the last word, the vital word to the question, making no sense to me without my Aids. I repeatedly tried to understand him, have him repeat it slower, and finally after five tries, he just started laughing AT me. you can tell that sick, sad, gnarly difference between being laughed at and being laughed with. and the class of 20 students broke up laughing with him. I cried, and dropped out until 2010.

I now have a 4.0 in my college classes, studying to be a Medical Assistant. My current teacher is spanish, and although I have NO predjudice whatsoever (how can I? I know how it feels. we all do.) SHE'S the one that has a discriminative attitude towards me. for three reasons:

1. I'm white, unlike her favorite students.
2. I'm smarter than her favorite students, and get better grades than them.
3. I'm smarter and make better grades with a DISABILITY.

I believe it's because of the above three reasons why she tries so hard to make it harder for me. I've walked out crying so many times because she'll walk around the BACK of the classroom during lectures, purposefully face the blackboard, so that when I ask for a repeat she can say that "I'm using my hearing loss as an excuse to slack off and not pay attention." and "I should try harder because with a hearing aid I shouldn't have a problem."

Sorry, MS. IGNORANTANDTOTALLYWORTHLESSHUMANBEING, that I'm making your life so hard. Go ahead and take your 10 or 15 minutes repeating everything you said to fully hearing-capable students that truly choose to slack off and not pay attention, while letting me try ten times as hard as them to understand everything and make it seem like 2 minutes to explain something to me is JUST SO HARD, when I'm paying $20,000 to go to this school.

I resent my parents for not extending to me the opportunity to be a part of my own community, and forcing me to pretend to be normal and always have to try so hard to catch up to the hearing world instead of being able to just be myself and be accepted by people just like me.
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I can hardly wait for your second post. Bravo!!! Welcome home Lillian!
 
THExistential,
I grew up all around colorado too... not staying in one place in one school for more than a year or two... I do know how it feels...because this is how I grew up too... if you ever want to chat let me know... where in CO did you grow up? I was never allowed to meet with any d/hh people when I was growing up either... and wasn't allowed to use any ASL... maybe we have met and just don't know it.
 
My hearing boss wanted me to start using my voice because apparently she can't understand ASL and she has a deaf brother... I'm no voice in public by choice and she should respect that... But nooooo! Oh and her deaf brother vouched for her by telling me that deaf people who don't use their voice are not equal to the hearies. So if I want to be an equal... I should turn on my voice. I was silently fuming, but I nodded my head and walked away.
 
@ THExistensial - Hi! Welcome. You are pretty lucky to live in Corpus. You want to learn asl? Del Mar has an excellent program, as does the Deaf Resource Center on McArdle, just off the SPID. They have ASL classes, training to use VP, lip reading practice and a small (100 or so) video library. There are many, many deaf events there. Have a need for hearing aids for school? They also contract for CART and note takers at no cost to you. The Deafness Resource Specialist is there too! Check it out!
The Deaf and Hard of Hearing Center » About Us

My kids live in Corpus. There are lots of nice deafies there to help you along. There are deaf churches, outings to beaches, bowling and the new water park. They also sponsor some good job fairs. If you like volunteering you may check out the Coastal Bend Silent Club and the Corpus Christi Silver Silent Seniors program is a nice bunch. It's like a senior center for deafies. They like volunteers.
This is the October calendar of events listed for the McArdle center.
http://deaf-hh.org/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2011/09/October-2011.pdf

Since you are becoming a med asst, you may be in classes with my niece. She too is studying that. She is also fluent in asl as she grew up with deaf friends and I always enjoy visiting with her when I am in CC. She also takes some terp classes since she wants to be a medical interpretor or a nurse who can interpret - either way - she is awesome.

If that isn't enough to keep you busy, you are very close to Austin - well it's a day trip - and the deaf events there are just too many to number.
Welcome to AD and now go find some fun in your deaf friendly real life town. :)
 
Wirelessly posted (dorothybaez)

Okay, here's mine. When I have to tell someone I am HOH, and they respond with, "But you're so pretty."
 
Ok... so from yesterday...
I went to see my ENT because my Audi was concerned that my hearing had dropped so quickly recently... (in 4 months left ear dropped 10 db and right ear dropped 20 db)... so my audi really just wanted to know if there was an underlaying cause to it or not... so when I first called (using my vp) to make the apt... they told me they couldn't get me a terp... that I would have to bring one with me... after politely (or at least in my head) reminding them that the ADA states I want one, they give me one... they said they would call back. so I got the the apt yesterday... the terp was there... it was great... but then in the paperwork i needed to fill out... there was one... very... insulting question... "what is your primary language? 1. English 2. Spanish" ... really... out of all the languages that are used here... they only put 2? I show my terp, who has 2 deaf kids herself, and she gets mad too... then when I tell them that it is insulting... they say... but isn't ASL english? ggrrrrrrrrrrrr no... its not... its very different...
Then we get into the office... and they start talking to my terp... tell her this tell her that... no talk as if the terp wasn't there... why don't you use your hearing aids all the time? why don't you voice? does your voice change after you eat? WTF... Then the doctor comes in... and he starts talking loud so that "i can hear him"... thats why the terp is there...

so the ent... not so great of a visit... but the terp was good! (trying to look on the bright side of things) oh!! and the ENT didn't even mention a CI!!!
 
ASH345, your ENT has idiots working there. Great about the interp.

I'm an ASL student and here's my ignorant hearing people story:

When people at work found out I was studying ASL and wanted to become an interp, this is what I got:

1. Why don't Deaf people just write stuff down?
2. All Deaf people read lips.
3. Do you have to learn Spanish too? :confused:
4. Well, it'll be really, really quiet.
5. Isn't it just a lot of flapping your hands in the air?
6. Isn't that what closed-captioning if for?
7. Do you have to learn braille too?
8. Are there still Deaf people? Didn't they all get that hearing thing?? (they meant CI - took me a while to figure out what they meant)
9. Are you going to be working on the show Switched at Birth? Or with Marlee Matlin?

I always thought my co-workers were idiots; now I know it for sure.
 
shel90 said:
Hey everyone...got into a little spat with my hearing husband...so I need your opinion.

He says that the VP is not a phone.

I say it is a phone but a different way of using it.

He says that the telephone is a phone and VP is not.

I say that deaf people use it to call so yes, it is a phone.

Who is right?

Dont worry about letting me down if you disagree with me. Just be honest.
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Warning, I'm not an expert on this stuff at all, I just looked up some info about VP because I didn't know how they work, technologically-speaking!

Hmmmm, I think it depends on what you both mean, how you're defining a telephone. I mean VP not a telephone in the traditional sense, because VP on a computer uses the internet for transmission. It's not really a phone, because it doesn't transmit the same type of signals, since telephone only transmits sound and videophone transmits image. Also, I can use my computer/the internet to call another hearing person and talk to them and it's like talking on the phone, but it's not the same as calling someone with a telephone...simply because I'm using the internet -- unless you're connecting to the internet via telephone line like in the ~old days~, then I guess technically it's sort of the same, but I'm still talking into my computer, and not into a phone, so it's still *not a phone*. But if you're talking about how people now use video on cell phones to communicate, then yes it's communicating via telephone, in my opinion haha! However, I read that originally VP was transmitted via phone lines...but since the advent of the internet it's all been switched over.


Haha I'm curious...why were you arguing about this? I mean who cares if it's the same as a telephone, VP serves the same purpose...communicating with someone not in the same place as you! :P
 
I asked the lady at Walmart to repeat what she says then she starts doing this exaggerated hand movement and over enunciating her words making her look like the bigger idiot or better yet the bigger butt head.

In the back of my mind I was laughing so hard I think I might have LOL'ed a little.

However the lady at Macca's in Booneville was STUNNING!! I need to get their address and write to them thanking them.
 
Wirelessly posted (dorothybaez)

Bottesini said:
dorothybaez said:
Wirelessly posted (dorothybaez)

Okay, here's mine. When I have to tell someone I am HOH, and they respond with, "But you're so pretty."
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:lol: That doesn't make any sense at all!
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Like being attractive helps me hear better.

It's also amusing when strangers tell my husband and I how great it is that he married me.....
 
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