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... to move in, if you have a relationship with someone ? His or hers ?

Would it be easier for you if, someone move in with you so you don't have to move out, if both of you break up ... to less too much work to pack your stuff out, if the house is hers or his ?

Or what if, he or she throws your stuff out ... just because, the house is his or hers ?

Let's discuss! I think it's a challenge to discuss. :giggle:
 
It would be depend. I would rather to stay in my own home and no nagging over this or that! :mrgreen: If break up happened, then I won't worry where I'll be at!
 
Very good thread to start! Because I will need to learn what others will have to say. Ofc it's easier if I have my own place so I don't have to worry about in the future when if my (future) relationship is breaking up. However if I move in someone's house, no matter what I would rather to have a contract to sign as a "roommate/renter" for my security so this way will be safe for me. I think it's fair because I'll be paying rent and split utility bills. That someone can NOT throw my stuffs out in any way as long I'm paying to live in there. I remember watching court shows long time ago and it said by law they can NOT throw my stuff out. If they do that then we have a right to take them to court.

Well I'm new because right now I'm living by myself and my furkids since divorced. I'm NOT dating nor in relationship. I want to move out of state here and am looking for a place but would need to have roommate (not relationship).

Maria said:
... to move in, if you have a relationship with someone ? His or hers ?

Would it be easier for you if, someone move in with you so you don't have to move out, if both of you break up ... to less too much work to pack your stuff out, if the house is hers or his ?

Or what if, he or she throws your stuff out ... just because, the house is his or hers ?

Let's discuss! I think it's a challenge to discuss. :giggle:
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Maria said:
... to move in, if you have a relationship with someone ? His or hers ?

Would it be easier for you if, someone move in with you so you don't have to move out, if both of you break up ... to less too much work to pack your stuff out, if the house is hers or his ?

Or what if, he or she throws your stuff out ... just because, the house is his or hers ?

Let's discuss! I think it's a challenge to discuss. :giggle:
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yes move in. his

if someone wants to move in with my nagging mother. be no problem me moving out of his house.... I might have a yard sale.

then I will throw his stuff out, don't be throwing my stuff out, wait
till I find a truck to move my stuff.
 
LakeTahoe said:
It would be depend. I would rather to stay in my own home and no nagging over this or that! :mrgreen: If break up happened, then I won't worry where I'll be at!
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Good! I would hate to see women bein' kicked out of the house if, the house is his. If, he thinks twice about her needs and had no place to go, he should let her to stay for awhile until she could find a place of her own - that's unless, if her immediate family is not around her.

Same goes to men. :)
 
Sunshine1 said:
Very good thread to start! Because I will need to learn what others will have to say. Ofc it's easier if I have my own place so I don't have to worry about in the future when if my (future) relationship is breaking up. However if I move in someone's house, no matter what I would rather to have a contract to sign as a "roommate/renter" for my security so this way will be safe for me. I think it's fair because I'll be paying rent and split utility bills. That someone can NOT throw my stuffs out in any way as long I'm paying to live in there. I remember watching court shows long time ago and it said by law they can NOT throw my stuff out. If they do that then we have a right to take them to court.

:ty: I am hopin' that others ( ADers ) could share their opinions and experiences here.

As for me, it takes 2 and 2 to make an agreement, if one don't have an immediate family or friends around in the same area to move in. I know it's not easy. Your idea is a good option.


Well I'm new because right now I'm living by myself and my furkids since divorced. I'm NOT dating nor in relationship. I want to move out of state here and am looking for a place but would need to have roommate (not relationship).
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I am divorced, too and have a place to stay.... but, I can't live with someone who don't respect my privacy. I prefer to have my own place privacy rather than to live with someone else. It's nice to live in at someone else's house, but I have a bad experience that one deaf guy from West Virginia barged in my bedroom and snooped in my stuff. I caught him and asked him to leave. Gee -after that, I decided not to live in at someone else's house. Same thing, I don't want someone else to live in at my house for the same reason. It is hard to trust anyone nowdays.
 
The solution is, don't move in together until after marriage. Then, move into whichever of the two places is bigger and/or nicer, or better yet, move into a place that is new to both the husband and wife. A nice, new beginning together.

All those other options sound like a lot of hassle.
 
Reba said:
The solution is, don't move in together until after marriage. Then, move into whichever of the two places is bigger and/or nicer, or better yet, move into a place that is new to both the husband and wife. A nice, new beginning together.

All those other options sound like a lot of hassle.
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I agree...I know of at least 3 couples who purchased a home before getting married only to split up before tying the knot. Made things really complicated for them as far as the house goes.

If people want to move in together before marriage, best to rent a place to be on the safe side.

As for moving in "his" place..I have never been put in that postion so I am not sure what I would do. My current hubby moved into my rental townhouse that I was renting with another couple cuz he couldnt get along with his parents by living with them. Then, we bought this house together.
 
I absolutely agree with Reba here even through I didn't wait until after marriage, but I knew RR and I wouldn't throw each others out on the street etc whether I move into his, or he moved into mine...
 
Reba said:
The solution is, don't move in together until after marriage. Then, move into whichever of the two places is bigger and/or nicer, or better yet, move into a place that is new to both the husband and wife. A nice, new beginning together.

All those other options sound like a lot of hassle.
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Agrees with Reba. When I was living with my boyfriend of 6 years, we broke up and I moved out of the apartment, his new girlfriend moved in and live in that apartment, the whole time he was thinking about me because of many share of good memories of us living in that apartment, it puts a strain on his new relationship. It makes it more harder to move forward to a new beginning of a new relationship. ;)
 
Reba said:
The solution is, don't move in together until after marriage. Then, move into whichever of the two places is bigger and/or nicer, or better yet, move into a place that is new to both the husband and wife. A nice, new beginning together.

All those other options sound like a lot of hassle.
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Right, I agree. It's what I like. :)
 
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I would rather stay at my own place than to move in with my girlfriend.

I've lived with my girlfriend before. It was living hell. If we got in fights, there was no place for her to go or for me to go. I've got scars to prove it. :Ohno:
 
VamPyroX said:
I would rather stay at my own place than to move in with my girlfriend.

I've lived with my girlfriend before. It was living hell. If we got in fights, there was no place for her to go or for me to go. I've got scars to prove it. :Ohno:
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I believe ya.
 
I saw this thread yesterday and surprised because it's total different as in many EU countries.

Living together is very common in many EU countries including Germany. Before they move in and put their name together on agreement contract with lordland or whatever. Sometimes they bought together an apartment to live together.

They beleive in living together first before marriage.
 
Liebling:-))) said:
I saw this thread yesterday and surprised because it's total different as in many EU countries.

Living together is very common in many EU countries including Germany. Before they move in and put their name together on agreement contract with lordland or whatever. Sometimes they bought together an apartment to live together.

They beleive in living together first before marriage.
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But what if the marriage never happens? Then it's a big mess split up.
 
Reba said:
But what if the marriage never happens? Then it's a big mess split up.
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They have agreement contract.

Some people, I know are not hurry to get married.

Some people beleive in living together for a trial before get married because they don't want to end in messy and expensive divorce.

They get rights like married couple when they split up but being married is more advantage than living together.
 
Maria said:
I am divorced, too and have a place to stay.... but, I can't live with someone who don't respect my privacy. I prefer to have my own place privacy rather than to live with someone else. It's nice to live in at someone else's house, but I have a bad experience that one deaf guy from West Virginia barged in my bedroom and snooped in my stuff. I caught him and asked him to leave. Gee -after that, I decided not to live in at someone else's house. Same thing, I don't want someone else to live in at my house for the same reason. It is hard to trust anyone nowdays.
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My Dad visited my place, he put all of his cash stuff in his socks when he slept overnight. That jerk guy never finds his cash and credit card. ;)

By the way, his trail will be in December in the Superior court with RedHead's kid.
 
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