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Rebound relationships never go anywhere - it may help that person feel temporarily better from her/his previous heartbreak but it doesnt help that person heal long term.

Time and spending time alone helps the person get over the previous relationship so can get into another relationship with open & healed heart, not on rebound. Most go on rebound out of desperation and fear of being alone.

They say that for every five years of marriage, it takes one to two years to recover. So never never date a man who just got out of divorce :giggle: but make sure he has recovered and that you are not his "rebound" to avoid heartbreak.
 
Hey Gemtun, I hardly not post here for few days. I experienced stress and pressure at work and home I felt inside was discomfort last June and since many months ago and talked with management several times. My managment recommended me to find pastor. Delay or slow of divorce gave me horrible. I hide myself not want anybody to know. Hurry and confuse involved stress and pressure started to fade when my divorce was over. I seem in recovery for while maybe longer and still feel of my love one you know... What few mess I have done. Divorce was not easy.
 
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yeah i will never rush into a rebound relationship ever again.. it sucks big time... sigh..
 
starrygaze said:
Love of me inside is still you. Yes I understand and be honest with you. I can't post here cuz I am afraid that my post might be privacy harm?
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It is not my business, but it sounds like you are still obsessed with Ginger. She does not want you anymore. Move on.
 
It would depend on the other person. If that other person has changed or improved, then I probably would go back to her. If she still hasn't changed, then I probably won't. :dunno:
 
Ginger.. Starrygaze was your bf or ex husband??? he is still in love with you...
 
Gemtun said:
Rebound relationships never go anywhere - it may help that person feel temporarily better from her/his previous heartbreak but it doesnt help that person heal long term.

Time and spending time alone helps the person get over the previous relationship so can get into another relationship with open & healed heart, not on rebound. Most go on rebound out of desperation and fear of being alone.

They say that for every five years of marriage, it takes one to two years to recover. So never never date a man who just got out of divorce :giggle: but make sure he has recovered and that you are not his "rebound" to avoid heartbreak.
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that goes for guys who are recently sepearted from wives too? just wondering :ugh3:
 
wildzerica06 said:
that goes for guys who are recently sepearted from wives too? just wondering :ugh3:
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Oh yes - it applies to either guy or woman

I always tell my girlfriends my golden rule: Never date anyone who just got out of marriage or relationship a few months ago - set up a rule. For example if it was a year long relationship/marriage, wait six or more months....or if two years relationship/marriage, wait one year...so on. Who wants to deal with their baggage? You werent paid to be baggage carrier :cool:
 
Starrygaze: I understand but you got to focus on your healing process from your own divorce. From what I read, it was 15 years of marriage so please do take many years to focus on yourself and heal, before offering yourself to another lady cos if you rush, that lady will be stuck with your unresolved issues, etc.

Hang in there, you ll make it but not just right now :)
 
yep sigh.... nothing i can do about it.. :( even tho his divorce was final recently.. jeez..
 
just like when i dated starrygaze i knew he was married still yet we still had affair.. i knew that was wrong.. then finally he got divorced in feb.. or so i thought he asked me to marry him.. i said yes.. then later found out he is not divorced yet? that upset me so i told him its better to break engagment off as he is not divorced?? everything mess up.. sigh
 
When I was single and dating around, I set up rule not to date married men. Just too much heartbreak down the road and the wife and me would be getting the short end of the stick--not enough attention/love from the same man. Best to date someone who is single and available (hopefully he isn't lying abt his status).
 
SmileyGin said:
just like when i dated starrygaze i knew he was married still yet we still had affair.. i knew that was wrong.. then finally he got divorced in feb.. or so i thought he asked me to marry him.. i said yes.. then later found out he is not divorced yet? that upset me so i told him its better to break engagment off as he is not divorced?? everything mess up.. sigh
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that sucked big time... he shouldn't lie to u :roll: but at least it is the best thing u did was to break the engagment off... so and yeah about affair eh.. nobody is perfect so I still think u are cool even tho u had been thru alot ;)
 
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