Valentines Day Rant

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The day after Christmas, I noticed that the stores already stocked up on Valentines Day merchandise. What is up with this ever increasing commercialism on holidays, especially Valentine's Day?

For me, while growing up, Valentine's Day was always nervewacking, wondering if the cutest guy in my class would send me a Valentine. Each of us had to make and decorate a shoe box and place it on upper left corner of our desk. Each morning, I sweated it out by peeking inside the slit to see whether I got more Valentines or not.

On the day of Valentines Day, we all had to show to each other how many valentines we got or whether we got one from that particular popular guy or whether we got any secret admirers. In high school, the girls had contest to see who got the most flowers or chocolates. I won a few of these but I always felt horrible about these girls who never got a single rose or card, etc.

To this day, I still feel pressured and tense with these unrealistic expectations. Sad to say, it does affect our self esteem.

I already noticed a few signatures with Valentines Day greetings or how Valentine Day will suck this year on AD.

I am curious to know if any of you really enjoy Valentines Day?? These of you who are lucky enough to have a beloved one, I am sure you guys enjoy it but does your expectations ever get met?

This year, Valentines Day will suck for me but I am trying not to let all that society pressure get to me. Your thoughts on Valentines Day? Did you guys get humiliated while growing up or whatnot?
 
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It will suck for me, but maybe this year will be different as Im at uni...

I never liked valentines day mainly cos Ive never had anyone to share it with, typically I broke up with boyfriends before Valentines day :dunno:

When I was growing up, I was one of those who never got a card, I was too shy around boys so never got noticed :tears:
 
Well, Valentine's for me isn't really about going out with your date and spend the romantic night in town. I have two boys who I would spend my Valentine's Day with, I buy my boys a basket with bunches of Chocolate candies on Valentine's Day. If I have nobody in my life to share all those romantic, cuddles or passion kissing with, I have my boys to share my Valentine's with, I love both of them to death and that meant more to me, I would take them out just have fun instead of sitting at home being sad and depressed on Valentine's Day. Because really to me, it isn't about having a boyfriend or a husband to use Valentine's day for, It can be spend on somebody You love. ;)
 
oh well. i do get many time valetine's day.. but right now i am single and see who like me and send me hehehehe... i am FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! ;) :giggle:
 
Meg said:
I already noticed a few signatures with Valentines Day greetings or how Valentine Day will suck this year on AD.
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It is my entirely fault. My aim is lousy!

Meg said:
I am curious to know if any of you really enjoy Valentines Day?? These of you who are lucky enough to have a beloved one, I am sure you guys enjoy it but does your expectations ever get met?
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Yeah, it had met my expectations. All of my exes gave me nice gifts and such for Valentine's Day (of course I gave them some gifts, flowers, or whatever as well). My latest ex gave me the Valentine's Day card with 'hint' (lovemaking) and she did that at same day :D

I have the feeling that this year probably will not suck for me but I will see, I guess... Of course I had my own 'bad' times during Valentine's Day in my young time but I don't let it bother me or pull me down.

I was going to say something but I couldn't remember what I want to say... I guess I will add more whenever I finally remember.
 
My bf and I agree on this: St. Valentine's Day is a stupid holiday. Why this day only to show how much you love this person or some people, when it should be an everyday thing to remind them that you love them? Love should be an everyday thing, and it's queasy on the stomach to see all the Valentine Day commericalism in the aisles.
 
kuifje75 said:
My bf and I agree on this: St. Valentine's Day is a stupid holiday. Why this day only to show how much you love this person or some people, when it should be an everyday thing to remind them that you love them? Love should be an everyday thing,
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That is entirely true. Honestly, I have no problem with Valentine's Day and whatsnot. I usually remind my lover how much I love her. I have this strange philosophy, I usually treat anything and anyone as if tomorrow will be the end of world. In other words, I mean it well when I said to my lover about my feelings, love, and whatever.

You know, some people would say the same thing about Christmas' Day or Birthday... why these day only to show how much they care about these people when giving these gifts? Why not every weekend? Why not every month?

Honestly, these holiday days are about same. I just go flow with these holiday days as part of culture.
 
kuifje75 said:
My bf and I agree on this: St. Valentine's Day is a stupid holiday. Why this day only to show how much you love this person or some people, when it should be an everyday thing to remind them that you love them? Love should be an everyday thing, and it's queasy on the stomach to see all the Valentine Day commericalism in the aisles.
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I agreed, We do not need Valentine's Day to remind us who we love, have to spend that special day of romance on Valentine's day when you can do that every day through the years to come. ;)
 
Magatsu said:
You know, some people would say the same thing about Christmas' Day or Birthday... why these day only to show how much they care about these people when giving these gifts? Why not every weekend? Why not every month?

Honestly, these holiday days are about same. I just go flow with these holiday days as part of culture.
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You got that right. My bf believes the same for Christmas, but I just like decorating the house and making things beautiful. LOL Even though we don't celebrate the birth of Jesus or anything, it's nice to make the house look beautiful when one is cooped inside a house during a very cold season.
 
interesting topic....

Yeah Valentine's Day gonna suck for me this year.. I never really had a good valentine's day and I guess Valentine's Day is my last favorite time of the year. :dunno:
 
kuifje75 said:
You got that right. My bf believes the same for Christmas, but I just like decorating the house and making things beautiful. LOL Even though we don't celebrate the birth of Jesus or anything, it's nice to make the house look beautiful when one is cooped inside a house during a very cold season.
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Heh. Out of curiousity.. I hope it is ok for me to ask but is your bf a JW? (Jehovah's Witness)

Magatsu said:
I was going to say something but I couldn't remember what I want to say... I guess I will add more whenever I finally remember.
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Ah I remember now. Thanks to kuifje75 for one of his statements.

Like what kuifje75 and I discussed recently, I usually gave my lover the flowers, cards with poems, cute dolls, etc etc time to time... Women love that kind of things (as in surprise) from men. When I was with my latest ex, I used to write the poems about her or.. our love, etc.. She loved it.

We (men and women) don't have to do that on Valentine's Day.. we can do that at any time to remind each other that we love each other.
 
Yay!! Single Awareness Day! :ugh2:

But think about it, I think holidays are made for people who forget.
 
Aw :grouphug:

I know how you guys feel about spending Valentines Day alone, must hurt not having someone to spend it with....I remember being in that situation alot of times with my ex husband, he did not like going out or doing anything on Valentines Day, I would be sitting in the living room wondering what its would be like to actually go out and enjoy a romantic dinner with candle lights, a movie or anything just for the two of us without taking our children with us, or just staying home watching a dvd, making a candle light dinner etc and that's something I missed though out the years, but now that I have someone to spend this special day together as any loving couple would ...

I don't mean to say this just to hurt you girls, and I do know how it feels being alone on this special day but one day you will have someone to spend it with and you could never feel alone again! ;).... hang in there girls, dreams do come true!
 
Magatsu said:
Heh. Out of curiousity.. I hope it is ok for me to ask but is your bf a JW? (Jehovah's Witness)
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:lach: no, he is not a JW. He's a buddhist and came from a Communist country where religion was more or less discouraged. Still, some people in his background do celebrate Christmas, albiet a bit differently from American Christians.
 
kuifje75 said:
:lach: no, he is not a JW. He's a buddhist and came from a Communist country where religion was more or less discouraged. Still, some people in his background do celebrate Christmas, albiet a bit differently from American Christians.
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Ah gotcha. Sorry if I offend you with my question. Anyway thanks for responding!
 
Myself as "Anti-Valentine's Day. Let me tell ya why.

1.) dumped twice by my exes (both committed relationship) on Feb 14th in different year.
2.) most businesses love st. V cuz of PROFIT alot of money!!!
3.) st. v is not really legal holiday for us to have one off day like thanksgiving and christmas.
4.) St.Valentine was a priest. Make me wonder why dont we honor other saints instead of very few.
 
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After the teacher stoped makeing us give valentines to eachother I never got any. I still gave one to cute chicks I liked dumb move cuz I never got anything out of it. So yea Valentines is a waste of money I hate that holiday. I don't give anyone anything.



Valentines day :rl:
 
I agree with Kuifje and Lasza's observations -- it HAS become too overly commercialized, altho i have nothing against Valentine's Day (it is nice to get attention from the partner on that day)
 
Remember getting the valentine's day cards from almost all of your classmates in elementary school? My point is valentine's day is not necessarily reserved for someone who you are in love with, you can show your family and friends how much you love them. It is a tradition in my family to give each other something to show the love. It makes me feel good showing others how much I care about them. You guys should do that to help yourselves feel better.
 
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