The true definition of a word 'dating'

Honestly, if you are with someone for a long time and you are having a sexual relationship I always call it 'in a relationship', because it is a relationship. This is the term I most commonly use.

Couples who abstain from sex and all touching , I call that 'courtship without the chaperone'.

If they are friends in a sexual relationship then I simply call them 'Friends with Benefits'

If they are just friends hanging out. 'Just friends'
 
My friend and I had this discussion 2 days ago. I disagreed with her point of view on "dating". She is in a relationship with her boyfriend and she said they are still dating. To me, they're in a relationship, period.

My mind went, "WTF?!". I had to ask her a trick question. I asked her since you said you guys are "dating", then you have the options to date others. She said no. Then I said then it is not a "dating" phase, it is a relationship phase. My opinion is that the term "dating" is as the two people are getting to know each other before it led into a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

I think she is a little confused on the "dating" and "out on a date" terms. Anyhoo, that's just my two cents.
 
DGirl101 said:
Honestly, if you are with someone for a long time and you are having a sexual relationship I always call it 'in a relationship', because it is a relationship. This is the term I most commonly use.

Couples who abstain from sex and all touching , I call that 'courtship without the chaperone'.

If they are friends in a sexual relationship then I simply call them 'Friends with Benefits'

If they are just friends hanging out. 'Just friends'
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Agreed with you 100%. BTW, I like that term for couples who prefer not to engage to have a sexual relationship.
 
Douglas said:
Everytime when you see two persons holding their hands together, or kissing, or any kind of physical activity together....why do people always say "they're dating" and/or asking them "how long have you guys been dating?" Something like that but it's really wrong use of a word dating, unless if they're just doing it for fun, out of love (not to mention that's really fuckin' selfish.)

Dictionary had never said dating has to be involved in phyiscal contact especially sexual intercourse. Whoever says relationship/courtship is the same as dating term, they're actually fucked up wrong! I see it pretty clearly is that they're abusing the true meaning of a word dating nowadays.

Dictionary.com

See # 7, 8, 14, and 18

Does these say anything that is being involved in between the lines, "french-kissing", or physical contact", or "getting laid"??
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What they're doing a phyiscal contact that is more than just holding hands is called relationship or better word that almost no one used to call nowadays: courting/courtship. Don't confuse relationship with dating. They're seperate definition but most of the people nowadays think both are alike. That's fucked up. I mean, I felt so offended when some people or friends asked me, "Oh, is that your date?" when they looked at my boyfriend and I together especially we kissed or hugged or whatever like that...because it seems that made them think we were just doing it for fun (ahems, you know, like friends with benefits.) Boy, got me really pissed off...I was telling them like "Excuse me? That's not nice! We're not dating! What's wrong with you? We're not using each other." Big :ugh: I really wanted to punch their face.
Get my drift?
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Douglas said:
Shel90, reply to your quote,

That's wonderful! What they're doing is right. That is pretty much courting thing. Whether it or not they're doing on purpose relating to God's will, if this has nothing to do with it, then it's still good thing no matter what.
Your co-worker and her fiance are closely in the same shoes with my parents' experience.
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lololololololol................lollllllllllllllllllllll

A God fearing man cussing, projecting violent thoughts... just so lol
 
Mrs Bucket said:
Wow, when hubby and I first met each other, I was so all over him!

I couldn't wait for us to get to the hotel room, poor hubby! Just entered Canada and I was all over him!

Now if a couple is set to be married and has dated two years, not held hands or kissed, oh boy! Who knows if they learn that he/she has sexual preferences that he/she may not even like!
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Knowing them, they probably will work hard to meet each other's needs.

I, for one, MUST do all the sinful acts while dating. :lol:
 
of course... dating is something u can get to know some1 ;) of course rules are meant to be broken now.. but several people I know they don't really show that they are into each other til they got pregnant last year.. I was like eh... but yeah now people are getting pregnant instead of getting married first... :roll: but of course everyone have needs.. so if it's with a fuck friend or whatever then u are gonna be happy in end but left confused in end i think.. hm oh well I am not gonna explain why ;)
 
DGirl101 said:
It looks to me that she is saying that she does not understand why the word 'date' or 'dating' is used for those who are in a sexual relationship. A Date is referred to an arrangement or a person whom has an appointment or occasion with another, and Dating is referred to to make a date with; go out on dates with.

Date: I have a date with my brothers best friend, we are going to Don Jose'.

Dating: I have been dating my brothers best friend for a few weeks.

In the past centuries, 'courtship' or 'courting' was refered to Men who called upon the women, with intent to marry, but must get to know her, and is most often chaperoned by the woman's immediate family.

Nowadays, it is rare that couples who are together abstain from sex or kissing or holding hands. (Like shel90's friend. :) )
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:thumb: agree
 
I agree.

I think the word "dating" is too loosely defined.

A couple could be going out on dates, but not be in a relationship. So, they would be "dating".

A couple could be in a relationship. That would also be "dating".

If I went out with a couple chicks at different times, I would tell people... "I dated her." Yet, some might assume that I was actually in a relationship with them.

That's why when people ask me how long I've been dating someone, I don't respond using the word "dating". I respond with a more accurate answer with something like "We've been going out for lunch and dinner for a few months." or "We've been in a relationship since a couple months ago."
 
I detest drama. I do not concern myself with this kind of thing nor do I waste my time thinking about terminology or technicality of some words like relationship, dating, courtship, cohabitation, etc. So should she.

that's just me. Unfortunately - I encounter drama on nearly daily basis but not as much as ya'all :) I don't start the drama. I end the drama.
 
Simple, if you have to call to retrieve an article of clothing you left behind......twice....
you are dating.

If SHE calls to retrieve an article of clothing........you are now engaged.

If her kids spill kool aid on your couch.........you are married.

:lol:
 
TXgolfer said:
Simple, if you have to call to retrieve an article of clothing you left behind......twice....
you are dating.

If SHE calls to retrieve an article of clothing........you are now engaged.

If her kids spill kool aid on your couch.........you are married.

:lol:
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:roll:
 
Douglas said:
Everytime when you see two persons holding their hands together, or kissing, or any kind of physical activity together....why do people always say "they're dating" and/or asking them "how long have you guys been dating?" Something like that but it's really wrong use of a word dating, unless if they're just doing it for fun, out of love (not to mention that's really fuckin' selfish.)

Dictionary had never said dating has to be involved in phyiscal contact especially sexual intercourse. Whoever says relationship/courtship is the same as dating term, they're actually fucked up wrong! I see it pretty clearly is that they're abusing the true meaning of a word dating nowadays.

Dictionary.com

See # 7, 8, 14, and 18




Does these say anything that is being involved in between the lines, "french-kissing", or physical contact", or "getting laid"??
:rme:

What they're doing a phyiscal contact that is more than just holding hands is called relationship or better word that almost no one used to call nowadays: courting/courtship. Don't confuse relationship with dating. They're seperate definition but most of the people nowadays think both are alike. That's fucked up. I mean, I felt so offended when some people or friends asked me, "Oh, is that your date?" when they looked at my boyfriend and I together especially we kissed or hugged or whatever like that...because it seems that made them think we were just doing it for fun (ahems, you know, like friends with benefits.) Boy, got me really pissed off...I was telling them like "Excuse me? That's not nice! We're not dating! What's wrong with you? We're not using each other." Big :ugh: I really wanted to punch their face.
Get my drift?
:mad:
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Your worried about nothing-this is why America is too caught up in the political correctness crap.
 
DGirl101 said:
Honestly, if you are with someone for a long time and you are having a sexual relationship I always call it 'in a relationship', because it is a relationship. This is the term I most commonly use.

Couples who abstain from sex and all touching , I call that 'courtship without the chaperone'.

If they are friends in a sexual relationship then I simply call them 'Friends with Benefits'

If they are just friends hanging out. 'Just friends'
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You've said it all...95 %correct. :)
 
Lighthouse77 said:
I know some people do courting (or whatever the name) where they do stuffs together around the girl's parents. If that what you do, I can see how you get to know the person.

oh btw, you should make sure your boyfriend is sexually attracted to you (a normal feeling between two people rather you are dating or not) . And not the controlling abusive type. You'll never know what type he is and your marriage will probably will not work out.
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Hey, it doesn't have to be required by woman's parents approving -- what it used to call courting but two can court together without parents' requirement to chaperone or do stuffs together with daughter/son or whatever...I mean, over 18 years old is on her/his own (living far away, not living with parents, or parents are deceased) we're way old enough...it's sooooo easy to get to know a friend or friends for a while (sure it can take some years at its best) to find whether this person isn't type for you rather than end up having series of relationships with boyfriends (too many break-ups.) If this person you find is a good type for you, so call it serious friendship first with discussing about getting into relationship later, if not then simply remains great friends. Ta-da, no problem. Ha, relax....have you noticed that we've been together for nearly 5 years (yea - 4 years sleeping on same bed)...heck, he's not controlling abusive and not a sex freak. Love or sex? Take your pick.
 
Douglas said:
Hey, it doesn't have to be required by woman's parents approving -- what it used to call courting but two can court together without parents' requirement to chaperone or do stuffs together with daughter/son or whatever...I mean, over 18 years old is on her/his own (living far away, not living with parents, or parents are deceased) we're way old enough...it's sooooo easy to get to know a friend or friends for a while (sure it can take some years at its best) to find whether this person isn't type for you rather than end up having series of relationships with boyfriends (too many break-ups.) If this person you find is a good type for you, so call it serious friendship first with discussing about getting into relationship later, if not then simply remains great friends. Ta-da, no problem. Ha, relax....have you noticed that we've been together for nearly 5 years (yea - 4 years sleeping on same bed)...heck, he's not controlling abusive and not a sex freak. Love or sex? Take your pick.
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I'm talking about him being in the closet homosexual or perhap a molester (which does happened to quite a few people). If you two get marry, then you are stuck either no sex at all (which only happen when a person's sexual desire is somewhere else although they can have sex with you with a purpose) , feeling hurt and betrayed, and have no choice but divorce. You don't have to touch, kiss, etc. to know he or you have a sex desire (or sexually attracted to each other). It is very normal to want it. Afterall, we wouldn't be having kids if the desire isn't there.

so since you two do see each other without parents or other friends, then you two do go out and do things like people do when they are dating.
 
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in my opinion... dating can lead to getting married but for me i don't find that funny but now i learned something new just today :P whether I am dating or not... I have to watch what I am doing anyway.. :roll: I'm just getting tired of being annoyed cuz of the reason I'm getting older ugh
 
there is sure no question that different people think

different. To me the best date would be the one that did not happen and we ended up in the car in the driveway for three or four hours kissing and laughing and kissing somemore just happy to be together. No strain on the billfold, no wear and tear on the vehicle, no twists and turns of fate dealing with people, just some nice harmless steamy windows and a good look at the garage door that might need some paint next summer. People might talk but let 'em.
 
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