Marrying a Prison Inmate.....

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A friend of mine told me that her sister married a prison inmate, and he is to be released in 2020.

She's not very happy about it. She said her sister met him thru penpals for inmates.

I don't undy why anyone would want to marry a prison inmate. Does anyone know? Or can explain why some women take this avenue? I can undy someone marrying someone that has been released from prison, but not someone who is still incarnated.
 
It's fairly common. I guess that these women want to "rescue" someone. It seems like a very codependent thing to do. I wouldn't be happy if someone I cared about did it.
 
if they met thru penpals:confused:

i do no a couple that planned their wedding b4 he was locked up and still had it but just chaged the venue. he is doing 25 years


i think shes mental but good on them
 
It's incomprehensible to me but there are many women who do that.
 
Saviour complex.

Not touching this with a ten-foot pole... only because I am stupid enough to fall for those things too!
 
Maybe if the inmate has a really long sentence it's a fear of intimacy thing? Like a woman who keeps having affairs with married, unavailable men? And if she gets the man to leave his wife, she gets a cheater. Not a prize!
 
I googled it and found this link: Reasons to Marry a Prisoner Answer

Generally women who marry prisoners that they met through the mail or on their job while the guy was already in jail tend to be shy, have low self-esteem, consider themselves to be outsiders, have been victims of abuse, and they hunger for an emotional relationship.

Reasons Why Women Marry Prisoners They Really Don't Know

•Identification with aggressive personality

•Rescue fantasies

•An act of compassion

•A way of showing sympathy for a political cause or for an outcast

•A way to be the center of attention and in the limelight

•Fills need to be needed and to feel important

•A desire for danger or thrills

•Out of a sense of rebellion

•As a ticket to citizenship

•Fills void caused by failure of, disappointment in, or lack of romantic relationships

•Allows marriage and motherhood without having to deal with a husband everyday
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Maybe she want safe sex!! She sure will not be getting any for a long time!
I think is have to do with women having a low self esteem. She want someone to give her attention and does not care where is come from! I think the woman need some help , so she can be able to have a real
relationship and not one with some guy she does not know! This is not healthly! Does she have a lot of money , the guy could be getting her to buy him things .
 
There are various reasons that women choose to marry inmates, or even to become involved with them at any level. It varies based on the woman. Leave it to say, though, that the reasons are never healthy ones.
 
I, for one, will never understand why one would want to be romantically involved with a prisoner, or much less, to marry one.

It just seems a bit far fetched to do that especially when they know that prisoners are in there for a reason; and yet, they want to have the "high" of wanting to change one for the better. With that, it is all for the wrong reasons. Evidently, that can cloud the best of their judgment.
 
There's a small chance they may have just fallen in love. I don't want to judge the inmate either until I know for sure he hasn't been falsely accused.
 
many million prisoners who got lock-up for years and fight for love!!

im rather not married prision dues laws reason but my family must have approve as good man than bad or stranger people..
 
CJB said:
There's a small chance they may have just fallen in love. I don't want to judge the inmate either until I know for sure he hasn't been falsely accused.
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Falling in love, via penpals??...My friend told me he was a "habitual offender"....drugs/selling drugs/ breaking & entering and so much more. He was also a "suspect" in his brother's drug death. She did not know him before he was incarnated. And I bet my bottom dollar, he has denied the charges, and probably made her "feel sorry" for him.

Nah...i would say she is "an idiot" for doing this!
 
rockin'robin said:
A friend of mine told me that her sister married a prison inmate, and he is to be released in 2020.

She's not very happy about it. She said her sister met him thru penpals for inmates.
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:shock: I believe there's something pathologically wrong with your friend's sister, How could she married an inmate that she has not physically met before deciding to get married?
 
rockin'robin said:
Falling in love, via penpals??...
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Certainly possible. People fall in love through letters and email all the time.

My friend told me he was a "habitual offender"....drugs/selling drugs/ breaking & entering and so much more. He was also a "suspect" in his brother's drug death. She did not know him before he was incarnated. And I bet my bottom dollar, he has denied the charges, and probably made her "feel sorry" for him.

Nah...i would say she is "an idiot" for doing this!
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I don't know if he made her feel sorry for him, and I don't know how she sees him and so on. But I was just saying there is a small chance that they actually are in love. Some people have an "actions does not equal the whole person" mentality that allows them to love someone who has committed a crime, because they don't see the person as a criminal, but the actions as criminal. Of course I don't know the reason for their wanting to marry, I'm just speculating as much as the next person and throwing out more possibilities.
 
Psychopaths are really good at charming and manipulating people. For whatever reason, these women are buying the con. If an inmate is a psychopath (many are), he will only use people without any conscience. If your friend is involved with an inmate, you'll need to be around to pick up the pieces. No about of talking will convince a friend in this situation, though. The woman has to decide for herself that she's done being victimized, just like in domestic violence. It's hard to watch a person you care about put herself in these situations.
 
I knew this lady down the street from my mom who had a daughter who started dating an inmate who was serving life sentence. I cant remember if they got married or not but I remember the lady telling my mom how frightened she was for her daughter's life. I will have to ask my mom what happened with them. Was so long ago.

I dont think there is really a clear explaination to why each woman seek out relationships with prisoners.

I wonder if men do the same to women prisoners? :hmm:
 
shel90 said:
I knew this lady down the street from my mom who had a daughter who started dating an inmate who was serving life sentence. I cant remember if they got married or not but I remember the lady telling my mom how frightened she was for her daughter's life. I will have to ask my mom what happened with them. Was so long ago.

I dont think there is really a clear explaination to why each woman seek out relationships with prisoners.

I wonder if men do the same to women prisoners? :hmm:
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Yes, they do...remmy Charles Manson?...That one woman that stabbed Sharon Tate so many times...(her name slipps me)...she appealed and appealed, but was denied freedom, and just recently died in prison....

She was married to a millionaire while in prison, then got divorced, then married again to a Lawyer!...Makes me wonder also why someone would want to marry a woman who commited such a gruesome crime?...Publicity, perhaps?
 
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