Marriage or not?

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MilitaryGirl83

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Would u want to get married or not?

For me right now. I am married but seprated and in the process of the divorce.....I don't want to get married again because I don't want to go through another one. I want to have a partner who loves me very much...lives with me and the kids..have a dog and just be happy growing old together :D.
 
I think marriage (or any sort of long-term intimacy) requires a lot of emotional maturity. Not only that, but it's also really important to understand your needs and then find someone who clicks with those needs while you satisfy theirs. That takes a lot of time!!! Then you also want to have your nest set up, you want to be stable and able to take care of a partner and possible little cute, adorable, lovely little children who scream and throw oatmeal in your new Louis Vuitton purse.

If you look at the really big picture, it's not easy at all meeting these conditions. I hold the women I date to very high standards because I know that I could never denigrate myself by settling; it's better to be single than in a relationship and unhappy.

So I'm taking my fine time. What am I doing in the meantime? Enjoying life, taking to the mountains with my snowboard and chuckling at corny, cheesy Vogon-like poetry written by smitten lovebirds.

(Then when I write my own corny, cheesy Vogon-like poetry, you can snicker and giggle at me)
 
:wave: WildKaTReSS --

I would like to marry again -- but, it's hard to make this decision at this time bein'. Me and bf were almost gettin' engaged. Told him that I am not ready to get engaged. I would feel whole a lot better if, I remain single for a while, so this way I don't have to go through ups and down like before when I was married. I don't like men tellin' me what to do or how to run my life. I am happy with my life the way it is. :)
 
For me want to marry isnt easy way casue hate to get divcore to pay for it when have a kids there isnt easy.. my mom got divcore last year finally about the time! cause she was been sprated for 7 or 8 yrs till finally cause she went to court to make who winning till she won and got divcore. so now her ex hubby is my ex step father had to pay support child which of my sister till my sister age 18 .. right now she is 16 yrs old 2 more years to go then her dad will stop support child at 18. that is why I rather stay longer in marriage not divcore. :)
 
I've never been married and no, I don't want to get married, but again never know what the future would bring.
 
I enjoy being single but one day would like to have a wife to call my own and start a family and buy the whole farm. :)
 
Yes I would marry again because I do not believe in cohabitating anymore. I got divorced 10 yrs ago this month. I've had 2 past long term relationships including cohabitation. Living together just doesn't work for me anymore (it's been 2 1/2 yrs on my own now and I'm lot happier). I believe that my next marriage to the one who will enter in my life will be a long lasting one until death do me apart...
 
Wildkatress, I do understand your not wanting to remarry while you are processing through a seperation. But dont be so quick to make a decision - time will heal and you will find yourself wanting to marry someday. :thumb:

I ve been divorced 6 years and I thought I didnt want to marry again - I was adamant against it because my first marriage was a nightmare.

But time healed my anger and pain - now I am engaged to marry and I cannot wait. I am much more emotionally mature this time to handle a life time commitment so I look forward to being married soon. It is a commitment I am willing to take.
 
Before I didn't want to ever get married again because I didn't want to go thru a nasty divorce, but when I met RR, he was just it for me, so now we're engaged and I sure can't wait to marry him...

One day when the time is right, you will know in your heart that you're ready to get married again....
 
marriage depends on anyone's opinon and if they want to get married then let them do so. if they dont want to get married, but still loves eachother and just be there for eachother and all then let them do so.

there's not even a law that you have to get married just because she's pregrent or that you love her and that she doesn't love you, etc...just because some people believes in love doesn't mean they believe in marriage also. marriage is a whole different story and is much more complicated.

sure I've noticed alot of people here say they wanted to get married and all just because marriage is fun, but later on it wont be because it'll be even more complicated in you lives for taxes, bills, staying together longer than spending time with friends and families, and lack of trust and increase of stress, etc...everything you name it.

Just because you feel the person is totally right for you doesn't mean you have to marry him/her.

love is priceless and everyone should deserve love and if love is priceless then marriage should be pricless too but if not...then just go along with love, as it is still the most important thing in life anyway.
 
I stay officially RETIRED from marrying again! I've had 2 years of hell that is called a marriage. It aint easy when ya marrying at a late age like I did with so many habits acquired from being so single and carefree ingrained into me.

Live together I dont mind at least I can walk away without much courtroom bullshit unless she hits me with a palimony suit. Divorce aint so easy with lawyers and negotiations...AUGH!
 
Your right!
In reality, it takes TWO to make relationship work. Without both side satisfying each other the relationship WILL be ruined, often its permanent. If one can't satisfy others and expect to stay in relationship is really selfish to each other and will lead to breaking point one way or other. So, other word, it is SO important to know that both of each other can satisfy EVERYTHING, especially communication and sex!

^Angel^ said:
One day when the time is right, you will know in your heart that you're ready to get married again....
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I have been married since 1972.

Hubby and I are very, very happy together. :hug: We love each other more as each year passes by.

I have no desire to be single again.
 
I had a marriage once and i had my own mistake for taking too fast on the marriage and it's becoming so hard on me and this guy for our kids. I just want to have the chance to be friends for our kids's sake.

For me to get married again it will not gonna happens much later.
 
sablescort said:
I stay officially RETIRED from marrying again! I've had 2 years of hell that is called a marriage. It aint easy when ya marrying at a late age like I did with so many habits acquired from being so single and carefree ingrained into me.

Live together I dont mind at least I can walk away without much courtroom bullshit unless she hits me with a palimony suit. Divorce aint so easy with lawyers and negotiations...AUGH!
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there you. another good example like that in this thread.

at least you should be glad that you can do whatever you want with your whole life and all.

your now the ladies' man! :D
 
Reba said:
I have been married since 1972.

Hubby and I are very, very happy together. :hug: We love each other more as each year passes by.

I have no desire to be single again.
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My parents got married in 1972 too and they're still married.
 
i think im the only person in the world who has no desire to get married....or to even have a long term relationship.


im perfectly happy being single, there is no need that i have that i have to look to someone else to fulfil for me(minds outta the gutter, this isn't penisarium). i find having a girlfriend hinders my life and keeps me from making decisions i want to make and expierencing things i want to expierence.


sometimes i get lonely...then i talk to an ex-gf and remember why im single to begin with. most girls think im an asshole because i won't commit, and im very open about it...i suppose that makes me an asshole, we are what we are i guess.

that said, im not totally 100% opposed to the idea....if i happen to meet that *one* peron in a bazillion that does it for me, i would get married, but im way to cynical to believe that will ever happen.
 
Ariakkas said:
i think im the only person in the world who has no desire to get married....or to even have a long term relationship.


im perfectly happy being single, there is no need that i have that i have to look to someone else to fulfil for me(minds outta the gutter, this isn't penisarium). i find having a girlfriend hinders my life and keeps me from making decisions i want to make and expierencing things i want to expierence.


sometimes i get lonely...then i talk to an ex-gf and remember why im single to begin with. most girls think im an asshole because i won't commit, and im very open about it...i suppose that makes me an asshole, we are what we are i guess.

that said, im not totally 100% opposed to the idea....if i happen to meet that *one* peron in a bazillion that does it for me, i would get married, but im way to cynical to believe that will ever happen.
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:werd: not everyone is marriage material. When you get so used to being single for a long time, marriage is like entering the "Twilight Zone" and you find yourself pretty overwhelmed with the things a marriage demands out of you. I did sure as hell learn it the hard way for sure.
 
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