How many kids do you have/want to have?

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I have one son, who will be 20 on May 19th, I'm good with one, but who knows what the Lord has...I do think about adopting kids one day or having a home they can call there own, cared for and Loved ! Kids are great, they keeps us down to earth reminding us of the kid in us, keeping us younger !

Adella
 
I want one - three kids. It depends on how involved the father is. I wouldn't want 3 children if my husband has no time to spend with them. I like Jiro's idea though.
 
I have two hearing boys, 14 and 9 years old. They're my life I wouldn't trade them for anything in this world. ;)
 
VamPyroX said:
That's a good idea... have one kid and see how it goes.
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That's what I told bf. He's ok with it and very understanding if we only happen to have one. It's just me, who is worried about his inner desire for having two children. I guess we'll just see how it goes after the first one... :D

Jiro said:
3 kids.

1. daughter to be as first-born
2. 2 boys with about 5+ years apart from 1st sibling so that daughter can take care of them.. which will give us a huge break :D
3. if my future wife said that she's DONE after 1st kid, no big deal :lol:

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Does that mean you want to have girl, not a boy? :giggle: Obviously I'm for a son, and bf wants a girl :roll: I'm not pregnant yet and we're already arguing (in a funny way) about that matter. We'll both have to go along with what comes our way, right ;) Boy or girl, it doesn't matter.

paperclip said:
I want one - three kids. It depends on how involved the father is. I wouldn't want 3 children if my husband has no time to spend with them. I like Jiro's idea though.
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That's exactly what I told bf. With two kids I want him to take more time off for his family! He's a workaholic, I know he is devoted to his job so I accept his choices. I want him to be there for the kids whether we have one or two!!!!

Jamie
 
The truth is I never wanted kids for the longest time. I wanted to travel, to have a serious career, and to dote on my neices and nephews as the favorite aunt.

Then I got pregnant. At first I was shocked...and not exactly thrilled. I grew to love the idea of this little one growing inside me. Then I got cancer. And the baby died.

After that all I wanted was to have a baby...and after four losses (I carried to 4 or 5 months before losing them), I gave up. It was heartbreaking and parts of my soul died. Then one day I was told I was pregnant again...and I said, no. No more. I wanted an abortion, but the doctor refused. Six months later, my daughter was born. And my life was amazing after that.

I said that was IT. No more kids...too much heartache. So I envisioned my life with just her, and I was completely happy.

Then about four years later I was raped...and through that experience, I became pregnant...but I didn't know until I was at nearly five 1/2 months. Because of my medical history, an abortion was not an option. It was a surreal, painful, shocking, and lonely experience.

And I'm glad it happened. Because the second child taught me that with the storms come a beautiful rainbow.

Do I want more rainbows in my life? Why not!
 
Adella said:
I have one son, who will be 20 on May 19th, I'm good with one, but who knows what the Lord has...I do think about adopting kids one day or having a home they can call there own, cared for and Loved ! Kids are great, they keeps us down to earth reminding us of the kid in us, keeping us younger !

Adella
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This is a wonderful idea... and there are so many kids who need a home of their own... :) :)
 
deafbajagal said:
Then about four years later I was raped...and through that experience, I became pregnant...but I didn't know until I was at nearly five 1/2 months. Because of my medical history, an abortion was not an option. It was a surreal, painful, shocking, and lonely experience.
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:shock: Sorry to read that... I know sorry probably isn't the strongest word to let you know how I feel, but it comes from the bottom of the heart! :hug:

Same goes for your miscarriages... :( I hope I don't have to live through one because I can only imagine how heart-ripping this is. All I know is that a friend (not a close one) lost her baby at 8 months... I was just utterly speechless and I seriously didn't know how to express myself the first time I saw her... Yet again, sorry, felt like such a weak word to say... :shrug:

*sigh* Anyway... children are the greatest no matter what! I am glad you have been graced with two beautiful and amazing children! I'm sure they make you smile and laugh on a daily basis. Nothing else matters but your and their happiness and the love you have for each other

Jamie
 
Well if your not sure your ready for a kid then get a puppy because if you can't handle a puppy you ain't ready for a child and make sure before you have a child to get your stuff in order that means get a house, get a steady job with health benefits, and at least 2 vechiles (1 for mom 1 for dad) because if you get a kid before you get those things it'll be harder when you have a child draining your wallet.... the first 2 years are the most difficult and expensive.... diapers, formulas, doctor apts for shots, baby food, on top of lack of sleep all kinds of stuff
 
I have a child who's over 5 years old and one on the way by mid summer. I would love to have 3, but I'm really done with 2 due to my age.
 
deafbajagal said:
The truth is I never wanted kids for the longest time. I wanted to travel, to have a serious career, and to dote on my neices and nephews as the favorite aunt.

Then I got pregnant. At first I was shocked...and not exactly thrilled. I grew to love the idea of this little one growing inside me. Then I got cancer. And the baby died.

After that all I wanted was to have a baby...and after four losses (I carried to 4 or 5 months before losing them), I gave up. It was heartbreaking and parts of my soul died. Then one day I was told I was pregnant again...and I said, no. No more. I wanted an abortion, but the doctor refused. Six months later, my daughter was born. And my life was amazing after that.

I said that was IT. No more kids...too much heartache. So I envisioned my life with just her, and I was completely happy.

Then about four years later I was raped...and through that experience, I became pregnant...but I didn't know until I was at nearly five 1/2 months. Because of my medical history, an abortion was not an option. It was a surreal, painful, shocking, and lonely experience.

And I'm glad it happened. Because the second child taught me that with the storms come a beautiful rainbow.

Do I want more rainbows in my life? Why not!
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:hug: about your experiences.


One of my friends had 3 children...2 died from a rare blood disorder and it destroyed her marriage. She recently remmaried and tried for more kids with her current hubby since he doesnt have any. As of 2 weeks ago, she had her 3rd miscarriage with him and is devasted. My heart just breaks for her and your experience is almost like hers but different but what u described about feeling as if a part of u died is must be what my friend is probably feeling now. Thanks for sharing it because it helps me to understand better what my friend must be feeling now. I feel that saying sorry is too awkward and I know I cant say, "I know how u must feel." cuz I do not so I have no idea what to say to her. :(
 
JamieLynn said:
That's what I told bf. He's ok with it and very understanding if we only happen to have one. It's just me, who is worried about his inner desire for having two children. I guess we'll just see how it goes after the first one... :D
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That's what they all say...

"I want 4 kids!"

"I want 5 kids!"

After the first kid, they start to hesitate. Some even change their minds.
 
VamPyroX said:
That's what they all say...

"I want 4 kids!"

"I want 5 kids!"

After the first kid, they start to hesitate. Some even change their minds.
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After the baby I will be with it for half a year and then bf will take over half a year parental leave. I would like to work part-time after six months staying home if possible.

I don't see myself either working full-time or part-time having 3-4 kids. Neither does my bf...

Jamie
 
I have my own 4 grown up children and I don't want anymore babies after that. I am satisfied with all 4 kids. :)

I want to travel and get the experiences. Meet new deaf friends from different states and all.
 
Maria said:
I have my own 4 grown up children and I don't want anymore babies after that. I am satisfied with all 4 kids. :)

I want to travel and get the experiences. Meet new deaf friends from different states and all.
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That's what I would love to do when both of my kids grow up. Iam afraid if I have more kids later when I am in my early 40s, I would be too old to be able to do that.
 
JamieLynn said:
Does that mean you want to have girl, not a boy? :giggle: Obviously I'm for a son, and bf wants a girl :roll: I'm not pregnant yet and we're already arguing (in a funny way) about that matter. We'll both have to go along with what comes our way, right ;) Boy or girl, it doesn't matter.
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because boys are idiot :laugh2: and daughters nowadays are much more matured even at such young age so it's preferable to have a daughter as a first-born and then have 2 sons several years later so that daughter can take care of them which would cut some slack for parents such as babysitting. It's most likely that both of us will be working full-time.
 
shel90 said:
That's what I would love to do when both of my kids grow up. Iam afraid if I have more kids later when I am in my early 40s, I would be too old to be able to do that.
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Curious to ask, if you don't mind : Are you sterlized or on birth control ?

Travel and get the experiences are the best when there's no more kids to drag. It would be lovely to spend the time with a spouse alone and travel together. You will be amazed how it feels just the both of you without kids. I just love that feelings! Of course, all my 4 kids are always in my heart and always will. I love them all the same dearly. :)
 
Some day in the future, I'd love to have two kids. :)
 
deafbajagal said:
The truth is I never wanted kids for the longest time. I wanted to travel, to have a serious career, and to dote on my neices and nephews as the favorite aunt.

Then I got pregnant. At first I was shocked...and not exactly thrilled. I grew to love the idea of this little one growing inside me. Then I got cancer. And the baby died.

After that all I wanted was to have a baby...and after four losses (I carried to 4 or 5 months before losing them), I gave up. It was heartbreaking and parts of my soul died. Then one day I was told I was pregnant again...and I said, no. No more. I wanted an abortion, but the doctor refused. Six months later, my daughter was born. And my life was amazing after that.

I said that was IT. No more kids...too much heartache. So I envisioned my life with just her, and I was completely happy.

Then about four years later I was raped...and through that experience, I became pregnant...but I didn't know until I was at nearly five 1/2 months. Because of my medical history, an abortion was not an option. It was a surreal, painful, shocking, and lonely experience.

And I'm glad it happened. Because the second child taught me that with the storms come a beautiful rainbow.

Do I want more rainbows in my life? Why not!
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That's a very touching story, something good came from your two pregnancies. Now, you have two beautiful kid to adore :)
 
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