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How would any of you handle it when your spouse/gf/bf/partner is away for a long period of time?

As for me....welllll, I'm going bonkers here...in other words...driving nuts(*looks at all the bits of hair on the floor that I've pulled*) while my sweetheart is away on business (cook-offs)trip. I do miss her very very much, missing her sweet lovely smile, the radiance from her eyes, the glow bouncing off her hair and especially, her heart, the 'love' she holds and the caring she has for myself and others. Wherever you are my dear, :ily: !!

Sooo, anyone? How DO you handle it?
 
Roadrunner said:
How would any of you handle it when your spouse/gf/bf/partner is away for a long period of time?

As for me....welllll, I'm going bonkers here...in other words...driving nuts(*looks at all the bits of hair on the floor that I've pulled*) while my sweetheart is away on business (cook-offs)trip. I do miss her very very much, missing her sweet lovely smile, the radiance from her eyes, the glow bouncing off her hair and especially, her heart, the 'love' she holds and the caring she has for myself and others. Wherever you are my dear, :ily: !!

Sooo, anyone? How DO you handle it?
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During my Hubby's 21 years in the Navy he was sometimes gone for months. It was hard because we could only communicate thru letters and very rare short phone calls or radio messages. Back then, there was no email or cell phones so communication was limited. Sometimes I was not allowed to know exactly where he was. While he was gone, I mostly just kept very busy. I had to do all his home responsibilities in addition to mine. I also kept active physically. I ran a few miles each day, exercised, and did lots of yard work. I was very active at church, and became involved helping other people.
 
Roadrunner said:
How would any of you handle it when your spouse/gf/bf/partner is away for a long period of time?

As for me....welllll, I'm going bonkers here...in other words...driving nuts(*looks at all the bits of hair on the floor that I've pulled*) while my sweetheart is away on business (cook-offs)trip. I do miss her very very much, missing her sweet lovely smile, the radiance from her eyes, the glow bouncing off her hair and especially, her heart, the 'love' she holds and the caring she has for myself and others. Wherever you are my dear, :ily: !!

Sooo, anyone? How DO you handle it?
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Trust and love makes the world go around, I guess...

I used to be with ex-gf who enrolled at Gallaudet while I was in other state (approx 2,500 miles apart). It was hard on me... but I loved her more than anything. Unfortunately that she couldn't stand the long distance so she broke up. Before we broke up, work and social life kept me busy all the time so it helped most.

Actually, I'm glad that she did, otherwise, I wouldn't have this chance to meet my fiancée, Nas. But right now, I'll have another long distance relationship. I'll go back to Sweden next week or so and Nas will stay here for one year (two semsters to go) to graduate from law school. Nas don't like it and I don't like it either. Nas was considering to give up her education to live with me in Sweden but we both know that it is bad idea. I cannot live with myself if she gives up her future for me. It is no way. Since it is Nas' last year at law school, they will require lots of time from her which will keep her busy most of the time. She also got a new job as japanese interpreter (used to be a freelance interpreter) for Japan-America business meetings in Los Angeles so it is huge opportunity for her.

Meanwhile, I'll work at ristorante as a manager in Stockholm, Sweden and I also enrolled at one of universities in Stockholm for Business & Economy Admin degree. I'm still working with a woman who have some kind of genetic disorder in her kidneys as part of volunteering program. These activities certainly will keep me busy and try to not think too much about Nas and her 'touches'. That's only way to keep myself sane heh. I'll see her when Thanksgiving holiday comes up.

RR, get yourself busy with any kind of activities that you'd like to be in... it will help to not drive yourself crazy with long-distance relationships. I know the feeling. Believe me.
 
Roadrunner said:
How would any of you handle it when your spouse/gf/bf/partner is away for a long period of time?

As for me....welllll, I'm going bonkers here...in other words...driving nuts(*looks at all the bits of hair on the floor that I've pulled*) while my sweetheart is away on business (cook-offs)trip. I do miss her very very much, missing her sweet lovely smile, the radiance from her eyes, the glow bouncing off her hair and especially, her heart, the 'love' she holds and the caring she has for myself and others. Wherever you are my dear, :ily: !!

Sooo, anyone? How DO you handle it?
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Well, does she have a laptop or pager or somethin' to keep in touch with you ? Mabye that will help you to feel alot better to know that she is there for you hmm ?
My b/f is away at work for 10 hours a day everyday. He carried his pager with him to keep in touch with me. It helps my b/f alot to know that I will always be there for him. He leaves his pager open at all times when ever I need him. :)

Try to discuss this with your g/f to see, if either one of you would like to get a laptop or pager. Good luck !!
 
Roadrunner said:
How would any of you handle it when your spouse/gf/bf/partner is away for a long period of time?

As for me....welllll, I'm going bonkers here...in other words...driving nuts(*looks at all the bits of hair on the floor that I've pulled*) while my sweetheart is away on business (cook-offs)trip. I do miss her very very much, missing her sweet lovely smile, the radiance from her eyes, the glow bouncing off her hair and especially, her heart, the 'love' she holds and the caring she has for myself and others. Wherever you are my dear, :ily: !!

Sooo, anyone? How DO you handle it?
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only i know that u can buy sidekick 2 and give ^Angel^ so she can use that sidekick 2 with her trip and reach with u everday.. it can help!!! :)
 
I just got back with my ex boyf. He lives in South Florida. When I was dating him 2 years ago, it was so hard and so expensive to drive back and forth. But one good thing out of it was love. We sticked around with each other for so long. Trust, respect, and communication is the number one.

What to do without going nuts-do something that keeps you so busy and take one day at a time, take one step at a time. That is what I am doing.

Good luck! :thumb:
 
I know how you feeling, Roadrunner... :(

Check this link I created about my hubby last April 2005.

http://www.alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=16262

We contacted each other via fax and sms every 2 days... It keep me busying and use hobby work... I do something to make my house pretter to welcome my hubby back from 4 weeks Spa.

Have you any hobby that you can do something... to keep you busying...




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Welcome back, Magastu.. :thumb:
 
Ahhh...she does have a sk2 (she had gotten right before leaving) and we've been able to communicate just about everyday or so, whenever she is able to get a signal out, during the times there's no signal output, it sure can be a bit frustrating and wondering if she's safe and ok. Also, she has been sooo sweet and thoughtful for sending out a beautiful gift, post cards and cards, the cards indeed warming the heart with the expression of her love. These things I truly do cherish, but it's gets really quite dull hugging a pillow!

Now now, awaiting and anticipating her return soon, not letting go...who knows for how long.... :hug: all night lonnng!! And plus....my hair will grow back too.... :D
 
Heard of "Absense makes love more fonder"?

Try to occupy yourself in your hobby or hang out in AllDeaf more, hehe :lol:
 
awwww it´s cute of ^Angel^ send something to show you how much she think of you....
 
flyfishfemme said:
Heard of "Absense makes love more fonder"?

Try to occupy yourself in your hobby or hang out in AllDeaf more, hehe :lol:
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How about Absense makes the heart grow bigger?
 
I would feel sad and miss her when she's gone for a long time, and I would feel happy to chat with her and keep each other company, things like that. I would think lot about her when she's gone for a while. :tears:
 
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I know how that feeling.

It always make me driving insane, worry, and wonder what he doing. Make me miss more daily. Make me feel lonely etc. That time, we lived diffy place, we don't see each other alike 2 weeks or one week at sometimes. We mostly communicate on text message (his celluphone and my SK). One time I was totally busy for 3 days with packed and some errands. Couldn't able talk w/ him. Which it driving him crazy, he can't ahold of me, instead, he calling me, and I did talk w/ him. He said, I don't like it at all! I must have hear from u everyday, u always bright my day! I was like aww, soon over, we will be together again.

Hang it there, and get urself busy or do something new. Maybe spend with families and friends.
 
Roadrunner said:
How would any of you handle it when your spouse/gf/bf/partner is away for a long period of time?

As for me....welllll, I'm going bonkers here...in other words...driving nuts(*looks at all the bits of hair on the floor that I've pulled*) while my sweetheart is away on business (cook-offs)trip. I do miss her very very much, missing her sweet lovely smile, the radiance from her eyes, the glow bouncing off her hair and especially, her heart, the 'love' she holds and the caring she has for myself and others. Wherever you are my dear, :ily: !!

Sooo, anyone? How DO you handle it?
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:aw: Hey Roadrunner!!!! There is a saying "Love Conquers All", there is another one "Patience is a Virtue".

But, getting back to the first one. The love that you hold true in your heart for your "sweetheart" carries you right through all the miles that you both are apart, the days that you haven't seen each other, and looking forward to her return.

For the time being, keep yourself busy. Keep communication open with your girlfriend, even if it isn't everyday. Going for walks, keeping in touch with friends, even plan a nice surprise for your "sweetheart" for when she gets home from her business trip, that should keep you busy for a few days.

All the wonderful traits you mentioned about her, keep them close to your heart, so she doesn't seem far away, but, closer than you think. Before you know it, she will be home sooner than you think.

Look forward to a joyful reunion, and feel blessed for the love that you share with her. Good luck and God Bless.
 
RR, interesting to join in climbing with me... climbing wud keep u busy ! :) how about this saturday at red river gorge in slade, ky. it is probably 5 hrs driving from ur town to there...


just thought.... :)
 
RR, I understand how you feel about your gf and that she would come back and be with you. I will pray for you to ensure that everything will work out. good luck!
 
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