hardest things to do in Relationship

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things in arelationship is trust while we are riding in the clouds oflove, we learn to trust people very quickly, but sometime this trust is given touch too quickly for the wrong reasons. real trust takes time and effot to build between two people this is the any relationship. but trust takes the brief of moments to destroy in any relationship or more than one occassion. i have seen a very trusting parntership break apart in a matter or hours or mintues. THE WORLD of high communcations has made it easier to form realtionship over the last years. once took a month, even ayears to build a realtionshi[ past the stage of simple, but now with tty phone,instant message.chat rooms, and emails. its can be matter of days for two people to get to know each other well and form a relationship. In some ways this has brought a lots of people into World which wouldnt has been possible in the past those meek people thans used to sit in their home can now annoymously , join in a chat
with annoy, individual, trying carefully to build bridges of trust. working towards a meeting the trouble with all these systems is that people dont take times that used to be invested in getting to know another person. oour realtionships and meetings are become hardand fast affairs, with little or no investment of time. the age of technoly has also given us the means and tools to break realtionship ever so quickly. alittle play of sexuall harrassment are dangerous sointerent are sometime are not safe so pleae take your time to know more about each other before meeting a realtionship..JJNBL
 
It's important to make friends first ... gettin' to know each other as friends and, then if one likes other, they both could start datin' before goin' this far.

I like to be myself when the trust involved. My friends kept tellin' me that I am too self-confidence.
 
CyberRed said:
I like to be myself when the trust involved. My friends kept tellin' me that I am too self-confidence.
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Who would you be if you weren't yourself?? :scatter: I like self-confidence! :P
 
I wish the other person felt that way. There are a lot of times when women tell me that they won't date me because we're already friends and that friends don't date.

I look at it this way... who else is better to date and be in a relationship than your best friend?

Here's a common definition of a "best friend": Individuals in a friendship relationship will seek out each other's company and exhibit mutually helping behavior.

In this case, both of them seek each other's company because they want to or are alright with it. They are willing to help each other when needed and also perform expected behavior.

A lot of people say, "I won't date him/her because he/she is my best friend."
Seriously, isn't there anyone else you can trust more than your best friend?
 
VamPyroX said:
I wish the other person felt that way. There are a lot of times when women tell me that they won't date me because we're already friends and that friends don't date.

I look at it this way... who else is better to date and be in a relationship than your best friend?

Here's a common definition of a "best friend": Individuals in a friendship relationship will seek out each other's company and exhibit mutually helping behavior.

In this case, both of them seek each other's company because they want to or are alright with it. They are willing to help each other when needed and also perform expected behavior.

A lot of people say, "I won't date him/her because he/she is my best friend."
Seriously, isn't there anyone else you can trust more than your best friend?
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I've been told that by women. Then when I end the friendship or move away, they run off and marry some guy on rebound. Two women I know did that, one just divorced husband #2 a couple years ago.
 
pek1 said:
Who would you be if you weren't yourself?? :scatter: I like self-confidence! :P
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Who would I be, if I weren't myself ? Err.. umm - let me think *thinkin'* The answer is none. There's ALWAYS Rose and, that's ME. Just one Rose and no one else. Is that a good enough for you ? :scatter:
 
I've seen many i mean MANY people jump into a relationship too quickly because they want to be loved! So They need to realize there are lot of things they need to CHECK out first before form or jump in a relationship with somebody because IT can affect your life BIG TIME!!!! I know loved by is GREAT feeling but think HARD before you get hurt.... check things out first before you put yourself in this!! :)
 
For the guys, having friendship with women is great but it also kills any chemistry buzz between you and the woman. The best way is to go ahead and date them as possible lover/mate and take it slow. Date awhile and check each other out, kiss/ makeout, etc to get the chemistry going... then decide whether to make commitment/marriage vows.

Yes, too many people get carried away with feelings of love and lust. Best to slow down and take it easy....build up friendship as well as lovers. ;)
 
pek1 said:
I've been told that by women. Then when I end the friendship or move away, they run off and marry some guy on rebound. Two women I know did that, one just divorced husband #2 a couple years ago.
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Ditto. Happened to me too. (except for the marriage part, but that almost did happen)

Sometimes, I'll be sitting with some female friends. They start talking about the kind of they they want to be in a relationship, married to, and having kids with. They also talk about avoiding those who are college dropouts, drunkards, potheads, and abusive pricks. Later, they end up getting knocked up by college dropouts who are drunkards, potheads, and abusive pricks. They also stop talking with everyone including their own friends and move elsewhere. Sad. Eh?
 
LisaMarie said:
I've seen many i mean MANY people jump into a relationship too quickly because they want to be loved! So They need to realize there are lot of things they need to CHECK out first before form or jump in a relationship with somebody because IT can affect your life BIG TIME!!!! I know loved by is GREAT feeling but think HARD before you get hurt.... check things out first before you put yourself in this!! :)
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What if it isn't "love" but just to be with another?
 
Vampyrox, some of things you've said here are so true with me also. You may have been friends with a girl for years, and one day try to take relationship to next level, and they say they don't want to ruin friendship. The other end of the 'scope' is they say they want to be friends before get in a relationship......

How can any guy win?

To be back on topic, I will agree that trust is probly the hardest thing in a relationship, and it can be broken down so quickly and take so long to get back. In my 'perfect world', people wouldn't lie, and then it would never be issue... but in reality, it seems everyone needs to lie for some stupid reason or other.... and we honest people are made to be fools because we trusted.
 
VamPyroX said:
Ditto. Happened to me too. (except for the marriage part, but that almost did happen)

Sometimes, I'll be sitting with some female friends. They start talking about the kind of they they want to be in a relationship, married to, and having kids with. They also talk about avoiding those who are college dropouts, drunkards, potheads, and abusive pricks. Later, they end up getting knocked up by college dropouts who are drunkards, potheads, and abusive pricks. They also stop talking with everyone including their own friends and move elsewhere. Sad. Eh?
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Yeah.
 
best formula on relationship building

Hello Jumping in a quick scheme relationship is not going to work at all!!! for young people tend to do that, but not all of them!
whenever you jump in a quick scheme relationship, you are literally giving your and the partner no concrete foundation. it is just same concept as building a house. would you want to bulid a house without any foundation like making sure you have at least few feet deep in ground to start a concent???:crazy: that is like a quick scheme in building a house and that would not meet the regulations and etc. so look at the concept of a house...just same with a relationship... you want to set a I MEAN VERY HIGH STANDARD rules at the scratch of beginning a relationship and let the season of friendship be the concrete and reflect on the APPERICATION and RESPECT and then comes TRUST and let it flow naturally. you want to
use the SEASON of your SINGLE to explore things in life and enjoy simple things and let that be the time to allow yourself to develop maturity and respect and trust in the relationship with him/her!!!!
next thing is love.... many many people have no idea what love is meant for:confused: LOVE is not compeletly based on FEELINGS!!!! i bet you are PUZZLED::dunno: LOVE is often not understood in young people!!! LOVE is what you can do for your partner in the relationship then that leads to FEELINGS and LOVED! ACTIONS and THOUGHTFULNESS creates LOVE FEELINGS!!!!!! that is how it all works!!! there is none shortcut to it unless it is LUST and USING them!!!!
LOVE build one other and encourage and support the other in THICK and THIN TIMES!!!!
Once you build a strong relatioship from being friends and what i explained above on few things then you will see and the friendship will grow stronger and either stay as strong friends OR it can lead to next level in the relationship to boyfriend/girlfriend then marriage! you will appericate it more and MORE and MORE and you dont want to just jump in a quick schem relationship and mess with other people (her/his) heart, because if you do you will hurt them and yourself and end up regret it! stay with SMART LOVE WAY not STUPID QUICK SCHEME CHILDISH LOVE... that is not the way it works!!!!!!!!!!:wave: and Good LUCK in your relationship and be smart!!!
 
i am taking my time in relationship i don't see that get involved in realationship develop fast
 
I agreed with this one with Smileman's. I learned what is real love about. I first learned from and realized that my love is diffiult how much do you love more and share for who you are in love with. It is not about sex and feeling. Love in relationship is more like completely without worry and patient with safisfy. I feel that I am still grown up and made some mistakes.
 
I agree you need to be friends before you can be lovers. My hubby and I were very close friends beforehand. He was just as awesome as he was back then. Nothing changed, infact it only got better.

He wanted to be more than "just frriends." Myself, I had a time hard with trusting anyone. I didn't even trust myself to make the right decisions about a guy since I was so hurt in the past. Eventually I realized he is a man who is true to his word. He told me even we were just close friends, if you need me you know where to call. Or his other saying would be. " Anything for you."

Well I took him up on the offer one day. I needed him. He was there within 20 mins. Then another time, he prove his consistant word that he wasn't doing it just for the sake of winning me over.

Still to this day, he contiunes to be there. Supporting us as a family, mentally, emotionally, phsyically, finanically and spiritually all in a whole.

Like I said friends and then lovers. :cuddle:
 
I hate it when some guys said lets go steady... but wait a min? we havent been friends long enough? I want to be friends first and get to know each other and go from there then build into a strong friendship which grew into a relationship that would be solid and for better n worse. you know? but not many do know the right way to do this dating and going steady etc. I find thats pathetic. of course i have learned alots but now i am wise and careful .. I dont want to make mistakes like in the past... maybe thats why im picky.. lol :)
 
I totally agree with you, Smileman. I'm happily married and have wonderful relationship cuz of strong trust and foundation even though we kinda quickly got married 15 months later. Are you happily married, or are you speaking from your experience?
 
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