Right, I agree!
Eve, you are not a cop or DHS social worker. Ok ? Just lay off the personal questions just like Raykat stated. Just let it go and leave it be. I've seen some transgenders have their kids ( around here in this AD ), but you never interrogated them.
He can say no to reunion with his birth mother if he like to. It's up to him.
I beleive the adoptive children deserve to know the truth about their birth mothers. You can not hide children from the truth, they will find out the truth later from someone else and hate you for keep the truth from them and lost their trust on you. No matter either it's negative or positive but adoptive children still has the right to know the truth.
WW is hoping to reunion with his birth son since he know his son is an adult. Sure, he will accept IF his birth son don't want to do anything with him. It's up to his son. This is life, we have to face when there're negative and positive in our life.
I would say the same with adoptive parents as well. How do adopted children feel after learn that their adoptive parents bought them?
It's bad if the adopted children are being negative to know about their birth mother's trasngendered, homosexual, etc. etc. etc. to make them bitter person. I would positive my adopted children about their birth mothers and explain them why they are transgender, homosexual, why they decided to give them up to me for an adoption, etc. Its about open mind with common sense and positive then they will know what they stand.
Like what I said before, they deserve to know the truth and then decide either they accept the reunion with their birth mothers or not. It's up to adopted children but it also up to birth mothers, too for not want to reunion with their birth children, too.
You think it's easy but it's not really easy for some birth parents. They are being "force" to give their babies up for severe reasons, like no money to raise their children, teenager with no support from their parents, etc. Yes some birth parents are willing to give their babies up for an adoption and forget their birth children. Some birth parents doesn't. Each mother is different.
They contact Adoption Agency to find out about their birth children and get them to contact birth children then is up to birth children either they want to reunion with them or not. Many birth children or parents contact Adoption Agency to reunion each other.
WW's decision because he prefer to give his baby a good home with loving parents than keep his son then made him unhappy. WW never thought about "selling" for money as he went to Adoption Agency. It's Adoption Agency who told him about money due medical expenses, etc. What he did with Adoption Agency and lawyer is a legal in America. He and his wife struggled with money to raise their second son and decided to give their 3 days old second son up for an adoption and force to take money to be survive themselves because nobody support them to be survived. I can see that he has no choice. It's very sad and hard life, WW had through..
I am a birthmother and as such I am so very thankful and grateful that I have been allowed to find my birthson, Sean and find some semblance of peace regarding him, his existence, and how his life has turned out. Life can indeed hold many wonderful surprises and be filled with much if you are lucky. In fact what you may find if you look is a life filled with Joy
Let me get this straight, Eve.
WW answered some posters' questions about money issues. It's medical expenses.
WW stated in his previous post that he was an unfit mother that's time and can't acheive to raise his first son that's time he already was pregnant with second son and decided to give his first son up for an adoption and beleive it's better for him to have a better life, his first son deserves. I
Try to understand where WW come from.
That's right. If the son wants no contact, he needs to be left alone.
IF they want it. Someone's version of the truth should never be forced on the child.
"You" who? The birth parents or the adoptive parents? To whom are you referring?
If they want to know. No one should force themselves on the children.
If the son requests a "reunion", that's up to him. I'm not even sure such a meeting classifies as a "reunion" since there never was a relationship between them in the first place, be that as it may.
Who will tell them? Why do they need to know?
Why would the adoptive parents tell the children that? The adoptive parents don't know everything about the birth parents, so they can't tell them all that.
That's right. Some birth parents don't want adult children knocking on their doors 20 years later either.
I never, never said that, and you definitely don't know what I "think."
I owe WW no respect. She hasn’t earned it. As far as I am concerned, SHE was born with a vagina and until I know differently, SHE will always be a SHE to me. If SHE doesn’t like it, SHE can ignore me. If SHE wants to use “He” then SHE can do whatever she wants, but that doesn’t mean I have to ignore my own senses to pacify HER desires. So, if you want to leave the transgender issue alone, then by all means, do so.Liebling said:
Nobody said it was easy. And, nobody said they were bad people. I think it is commendable for a young mother to make the difficult choice of adoption when it is done in the child’s best interest. But leave the reunions bilateral (BOTH parties sign the registry so that it isn’t just one party forcing the reunion and knowledge upon the other).Liebling said:
anyway