Disrespect Towards Dead

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VamPyroX

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Recently, someone died. Let's say her name is Jane Doe. Now, there's this gal I know who's been going around claiming that she was friends with Jane Doe and that she've been talking to Jane Doe through Sidekick. However, Jane Doe never had a Sidekick. It makes me wonder if she really knew Jane Doe. They weren't the same age. They weren't part of the same circle of friends. She never mentioned Jane Doe. Out of the blue, she says she was friends with Jane Doe.

Is she lying just to make herself look famous and popular as being the gal who know the girl who died? That's disrespecting the dead! Jeez! That's worse than some dumb broad claiming to have Elvis' baby!

What do you think?
 
Sometimes people latch onto weird things like that to feel self-important. Hopefully they are not saying anything bad about the departed person - just riding on their coat tails.
 
I'm with you Vampy, That's disrespectful. I guess people like that just want to have a self-attention.
 
Wow, I acutally never heard of anyone who have done that, but yeah that would be disrespecting more of wanted to draw attention from the others, not such a nice thing to do....
 
Vampy,
I know what you are referring to and there is some deep psychology that goes into it. A google search returned some interesting thoughts. Anyhow, I dont think they mean to disrespect the dead in any way, and are looking for attention. As Morrigan said 'just riding on their coat tails.'.

I was in a similar situation where a friend of mine was killed. There was another guy who was familiar with my friend and had met him on several occasions. When my friend died, however, the other guy would make it sound like they were the best of friends and old drinking buddies or something when they had only met on a handful of occasions.

Also, when my sister passed away a year ago, there were a few people that came forward to talk about how close they were and all the things they did together...none of which was true. Yes, its sad, but goes to some deep rooted mentality of wanting to be the center of attention (IMO).
 
Taylor said:
Vampy,
I know what you are referring to and there is some deep psychology that goes into it. A google search returned some interesting thoughts. Anyhow, I dont think they mean to disrespect the dead in any way, and are looking for attention. As Morrigan said 'just riding on their coat tails.'.

I was in a similar situation where a friend of mine was killed. There was another guy who was familiar with my friend and had met him on several occasions. When my friend died, however, the other guy would make it sound like they were the best of friends and old drinking buddies or something when they had only met on a handful of occasions.

Also, when my sister passed away a year ago, there were a few people that came forward to talk about how close they were and all the things they did together...none of which was true. Yes, its sad, but goes to some deep rooted mentality of wanting to be the center of attention (IMO).
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Somehow I think you are a liar. You do not google thoughts. You express it.
Hey copper, hey copper.
You are not the only one jaded.
 
if the person is claiming to be a friend of Jane just for attention...thats really really low. to try and take pleasure out of someone's pain. i just lost a friend as u guys know, and it still sends that empty pain when i think of her name.

its not just respect towards the dead its about having morals.
 
I agreed with you, Cheri.

Thats disrespectful. Same thing, thats what I thought abt that, "people like that just want to have a self-attention." Geez! Thats so crazy!
 
Beowulf said:
Somehow I think you are a liar. You do not google thoughts. You express it.
Hey copper, hey copper.
You are not the only one jaded.
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OK....I don't get your response. I don't remember my exact search term, but here is a similar google search that reveals some strange stuff about people lying.
 
Taylor said:
OK....I don't get your response. I don't remember my exact search term, but here is a similar google search that reveals some strange stuff about people lying.
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Thank you for link, Taylor... I´m interesting to read about psychological... I´m going to read them tonight... :thumb:
 
Yes I´m agree that it´s hypocritical and low self-esteem when a person (A) who is not close to other person (B) and then other person died then A suddenly said nice thing about B person and say how good person she/he is.... close friends... etc... It´s fake and 2 faced... *shake my head*


Example of all
I doesn´t get on well with my step-mom for years... (long story) I got a letter from my sister telling me that step-mom died of lung cancer... All what I do is gave my Dad sympathy message and pray for him. It´s about respect, I show Dad.
I got other letter from my sister telling me that he is upset that I didnt attend her funeral and didn´t say something nice memory about her. I was like Huh? why should I false to say something nice about her after what she did to me terrible? I told my sister that I thought my sympathy message is good enough for him or what? I told her that I don´t want to talk anything.. Why should I? Should I false to be nice about her? My sister understood and accept it because she know what it is after what we had through with her but my Dad can´t accept it. We fall out... and 10 years later then we make up peace... We visited him in England in 2000. It´s his first time to meet my sons. He thought he want to talk me about his dead wife. I told him friendly to not talk about this. He understood and accept immediately... *phew*

Don´t talk anything is better than give him bad memory about her or fake him.

Something like that... I´m sorry to hear about this & feel for you etc if I didn´t know them well or don´t meet them in real life..

Example about Tongue-Fire.
I said something about her and donate a flower for her because I know her thru posts... I love her recipes and funny lady etc. It´s difference.
 
i have most of the time it is for a con job, watch out for anything that my show she want something form the family or friends of the jane doe.

d
 
dar said:
i have most of the time it is for a con job, watch out for anything that my show she want something form the family or friends of the jane doe.

d
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You're right. Sometimes, it's a con job. In this case, I think it's just for attention.

It might give you attention, but people will eventually find out that you're lying when your lies turn on you. For instance, one guy claimed to have been friends with this other person who died. He was talking about how they went to parties, bars, clubs, etc. How they always played drinking games. However, it turned out he was lying when someone proved that the dead person was allergic to alcohol and doesn't drink alcohol.
 
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