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Liza

Liza

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A few of my deaf friends have a problem with alcohol from their RIT and gally partying days. I was shocked to learn that a friend, uh, couldn't live without alcohol (drinks beer everyday actually) but he doesn't think it's a problem as long as he moderates it... and even told another mutual friend that she doesn't have a problem and that AA support groups are stupid, and that she can just moderate her drinking. But I know that she gets "crazy" whenever drunk... being physically abusive to her GFs and other friends.

I do drink a few times every year and I don't think about it.

Do you think some people do have issues with drinking and that there is actually an alcoholic disease? If so, what constitutes such a thing?
 
Liza said:
Do you think some people do have issues with drinking and that there is actually an alcoholic disease? If so, what constitutes such a thing?
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yes i do think some ppl do have issues with drinking and YES there is actually an alcoholic disease as its recognized by the medical professionals/psychologists -- i had an ex gf a few years back who herself has a drinking problem, admits she has a problem, has gone to get help and STILL drinking :roll: her drinking had lead me to dump her (among other issues but this is the BIGGEST reason tho)

drinking a couple times a year isnt "alcoholism" -- i would categorize that as "social drinker" -- i drink on occasions myself when i feel up to drinking a couple beers
 
My father is an alcoholic.. He drinks the hard stuff everyday, all day... bourbon, whiskey, etc.. and most of the time he is drunk and doesn't think clearly. He's been in accidents because of driving drunk, even on a motorcycle. :roll: Also, he forgets a lot of things.. memory loss from the accidents and alcohol. Because of that, he now gets grand mals seizures sometimes, I was told he recently had one.. probably didn't take his meds for the seizures. I did tell him to go to rehab and try to quit drinking, he kept telling me he would, but he has never made any action to do it. His parents are alcoholics too and they influenced him on drinking when he was a kid. :\ I never see him that often because I don't want to be around him when he is drunk and I don't want my 2 sons to see the way he acts and drinking in front of them.
 
I think the definition of "alcoholic" is still very vague. They say that when you drink, you have a drinking problem. I don't really think so. I have friends who like to drink but doesn't always drink. He drinks when he goes to parties. Sometimes, when he drinks at parties... he overdoes it and gets really drunk. Yet, I wouldn't really call him an alcoholic. I am also an occasional drinker as well. I drink when I feel like it and it's usually when I'm at clubs or parties. Other than that, I don't drink. I might have a drink or two when I go out to dinner with friends but that's pretty much it. Just because I drink doesn't mean I have a drinking problem. That's why I think the definition of "alcholic" and "drinking problem" is still very vague.
 
Alocholism is run in the family as "genes". Some of my family members struggled with this disease.

My mother is 3rd generation AA. Same to her twin brother who also have same problem. I tried to uddy her and other relatives about why did dangerous addiction robbed my family. Seem too complicated than I thought. Ofc, I don't uddy how it worked cuz myself don't inheir AA genes.

I do remmy my mother told me she drank more after her niece's death in 1996. She cannot deal with nightmare dreams often. So she started drink more more to prevent more nasty dreams and many reasons.


Same to my fave grandpa who also have alocohol addiction for 50+ years. He's great man for treat his family wonderful. He's great dispcline and treat me. He won't be same without drinking any alocohol. Made me feel like alocholism enjoy muppet my family most of my childhood.
 
Yes. I have seen some Deaf people drinking hard core alcoholic beverages. I used to be a partyhead years ago, now I wean off alcohol because I change my lifestyle, etc. I know the Deaf guy drank some beers in rage and zoomed his camaro. He ran every red stoplights before collide into the building. It killed him instantly. His buddy was injured (thank god his injuries were not severe). It can happen to anyone everyday coming to drinking alcohol and drive cars.
 
Yikes...I am a reformed alcoholic and I'm not ashamed to admit it here. Although today, I don't drink heavily...like a few of you have said 'social drinkers' -- that's me now. In the past, when I was aged between 17 til 22, I snuck alcoholic drinks behind my parents. I drank every day, even in the mornings before I went to work, at lunchtime, after work.
I attended A.A. for a couple of years in Los Angeles and learnt a lot about myself and reflected what I've done in the past. I no longer drink like there's no tomorrow. I've grown up and matured since then and know alcohol can kill if drink too much of it. (Especially spirits)
 
My Ex who is the Father of My Son has an Alcoholic Issue Problem. There are times he cannot stopped I have Suggestion him to get some Help But he too Suborn. His Life been falling apart for Many Years he would not held a job longer or Live in his Resident Longer. He lose a lot. Sometimes I get tired of being there for him, Because I feel like he taking advantage of My Caring. When he needs a place to stay for a while I have let him stay with us, helped him get a job and to save up to get his own place his life back together. He did well for a while and then fell back again to the same position. Everytime he does fall back he comes running for help from me. Sometimes I feel that I should have said no u Got To learn on ur own but, the same time I Feel bad and Sorry for him and I think of My son so I brought him back to my place again. Helped him got another Job. I just wishes that he would get the help he needs on his own.
 
Cheri said:
My Ex who is the Father of My Son has an Alcoholic Issue Problem. There are times he cannot stopped I have Suggestion him to get some Help But he too Suborn. His Life been falling apart for Many Years he would not held a job longer or Live in his Resident Longer. He lose a lot. Sometimes I get tired of being there for him, Because I feel like he taking advantage of My Caring. When he needs a place to stay for a while I have let him stay with us, helped him get a job and to save up to get his own place his life back together. He did well for a while and then fell back again to the same position. Everytime he does fall back he comes running for help from me. Sometimes I feel that I should have said no u Got To learn on ur own but, the same time I Feel bad and Sorry for him and I think of My son so I brought him back to my place again. Helped him got another Job. I just wishes that he would get the help he needs on his own.
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I know that feeling. I have friends who have serious drinking problems, but they won't admit it. I drink a lot, but I've never let it become a problem for me.
 
Alcholic isn't great for many people who can't control their drinking problem.. I have gone thru Two people in my life.. One of them I have to put my foot down and mean it when I say something to her! One of them isn't in my life anymore..

One thing I can mention this why I want to mention this.. I know my sister who does NOT read in here but I want to say something.. When My son was diagnosis with Brain Tumor, She found out my son has tumor she relapsed again (I don't know how many time she claimed she was sober for this or this or that I am tired to hear that) Anyway! She kept on pushing me over and over saying that she promise to be sober and will give us a ride to his treatment she want to know when she will do this ?? I told her Please do not push me. She would kept on asking finally I got fed up one day and told her "I Know you are drinking" She said "NO I AM NOT DRINKING I AM JUST ASKING YOU WHEN CAN I DO THIS SO I CAN LET MY BOSS KNOW" I was like omg I can't believe this.. I know her talking, and I know how and when She does that and so I told her "Don't you ever ask me again and when I am ready I will ask you.. but not now!"
She said "ok sorry that I talk loud and sorry I won't ask you anymore until you ask" I said "Thank you for respecting and I know you love Sean but you know my rules, You can't drink around my children!"

She already lost " sleep over nights " because one night kayla called wants to come home I was willing to meet half way to pick both kids but couldn't go long way due of the vehicle problem and My sister refused to drive half way.. so I knew she was drinking and Kayla admit she did see her drunk and passed out on couch few times.. I was really FED UP because my children see their father begin drunk all the time, Now aunt begin drunk it was enough! so I had to put a wall between us.. I told her that She can VISIT my kids only HERE at my home and is not allow to take them anywhere.. so She contiune to drink!
Not only that but there was Police and ambulance coming over (any homes My home, my mom, her house) They really don't need to see this chit!

One time she drove kids home from HER house which is 3 streets from my home after their visit with their father few years ago.. she almost dropped my son on the front step when she lost her balance I got freaked out and realized she was drunk and she was driving I got soo pissed off and jumped in my car then drove over to my sister's old house (she also had to sell it because she was in that close to have forclosure home) and yelled at kids's father for allowing sister to drive my kids home If that ever happen CALL ME i will come over and have them come out to my truck that way I can know my kids are drive home safe no matter what! I will meet in driveway! I had restraining order back then but My concern with kids! you really can't allow this!


Wendy
 
Yes. I have seen some Deaf people drinking hard core alcoholic beverages
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I remember reading somewhere that d/hh folks have high rates of drug and alchohol abuse. I also remember hearing somewhere that oral deaf people tend to have extremely high rates of situtionally caused mental illness (and drug and alchohol abuse is considered a mental illness)
Maybe a lot of them feel like they don't fit in anywhere or feel like their family doesn't accept them the way they are....
 
Even knights have their own personal battles

I've come accross some hard core deaf and disability knights from all kinds of frontlines having some type of personal battles.

Be they alcoholics or drug addicts, many of these knights are still capable of standing tall in frontlines while their personal battles pulling hard on them.

This has to do with dealing with the sharp pressures to make positive results and the frustrations of not accomplishing them quickly enough.

I have lots of respect for deaf knights who have to deal with their personal battles while keeping the guard up for all of us.

Richard Roehm
 
Lasza said:
Alocholism is run in the family as "genes". Some of my family members struggled with this disease.

My mother is 3rd generation AA. Same to her twin brother who also have same problem. I tried to uddy her and other relatives about why did dangerous addiction robbed my family. Seem too complicated than I thought. Ofc, I don't uddy how it worked cuz myself don't inheir AA genes.

I do remmy my mother told me she drank more after her niece's death in 1996. She cannot deal with nightmare dreams often. So she started drink more more to prevent more nasty dreams and many reasons.

Same to my fave grandpa who also have alocohol addiction for 50+ years. He's great man for treat his family wonderful. He's great dispcline and treat me. He won't be same without drinking any alocohol. Made me feel like alocholism enjoy muppet my family most of my childhood.
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yea Lasza -- my dad was an alcoholic too -- was sober for only 4 yrs and relapsed anyway even tho he went thru AA programs with their so called "12-steps" -- i personally dont believe in the AA/NA programs cuz ive seen WAYYYY too many ppl relapse after having "graduated" from the program
 
i drink but i don't call myself an acholoic. (i never cld spell that word btw) i just drink when its there and when theres a party, i don't go around thinking, i need a drink, i want to drink, it's just like coke or something to me.
 
I'm glad I'm not alcoholic! Just I'd love to being enjoy to drinking during ocissican events only plus celebrate events too. By the way Good enough.

Of course, I understand some of peoples who stuck being addiction Alcoholic but still not excuse becomed into disease. Some Peoples who knew that I'm addict and cannot live without drinking therefore their head know better than that controling "willpowder" as can they have brain enough to think. My guessing, Whoever cannot think and all wants drink! That major problem.. their weakness spot!

I'm sorry!
 
I do believe alcoholism to be a disease of some sort. Definitely not one you can catch from others since you are the one making your own choices here - but you can certainly be influenced.

I could have easily become an alcoholic myself. About seven years ago, I was bar-hopping...wasn't of legal drinking age, but my companion was. She used to spare NO expense while we were at this local place - used to keep my glass fully replenished with Absolut Vodka or some other interesting-sounding drink. I wasn't too drunk, but my judgement was severely impaired at times.

I did choose not to drink after a while though. Yeah, it's kinda fun to get that buzz going - but today, I won't do it unless I'm planning to stay at home. I only drink with my husband, and I won't go over my one-drink limit at social events, or family parties or such. I am perfectly content with my Diet Coke. :)
 
Send to Betty Ford Rehab Center for alcohol treatment. They have a really good programs.

Being an alcoholism is not good.. It is a disease!! Drinking beers, hard liqours, etc are not healthy. I drinks, but I don't drink everyday. If you drink everyday, your organs like livers, colon, panacreas, etc could go bad.

If you are married and have children on your own, it is not healthy at all.. Your children would see you, and they would complaining to their teachers or principals or other people like, "my mom drinks all the time or my dad drinks all the time, and it is embarassment to be with them." For your spouse, you could be lucky, and if your spouse want you to stop, you disagree, and you would go to violent abuse.
 
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My mother is an alcoholic.

I don't think it's something do with "genes" but due depression or lonely.

None of my mother's family are alcoholic but her.

Yes, my father is drunk sometimes but he's not an alcoholic as my mother but gambler.

Alcoholic means that you drink all the day from morning to night, that's how I watched my mother like this. She addict bottles to neglect me & my siblings.

I hate that alcoholic due my unhappy childhood. I do drink glass of wine or champagne sometimes during special occassion.

I was drunk around 5 times in 20 years. :)
 
CrazyRedHeadWV said:
Send to Betty Ford Rehab Center for alcohol treatment. They have a really good programs.
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Very expensive treatment there.. Alot of film stars went there for treatment.
 
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