Shut up and sign!!!!

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deafbajagal

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Someone please tell me what you think I should do. I have two wonderful hearing daughters - ages 6 and 1. The 6 year old sometimes will talk without signing to me. She is fluent in both languages, and she clearly knows I'm Deaf and uses signing to communicate.

How should I handle this?


(I will never tell her to "shut up" - that's just plain rude, haha).
 
That's normal coming from a hearing child, I have 3 hearing sons, and they often talk to me without signing, I'm not able to understand my 8 years old sometimes so we're working on getting them to do both, sign and talk at the same time, let them get used to it, then they will start doing it more often.
 
They're young. They will sometimes forget that they need to sign to you. Simply remind them to repeat in sign language. :)
 
My daughter is 10 and still doesnt sign back to me even though I sign to her without my voice. I keep reminding her to sign but she keeps forgetting.
 
Agree with the others. It is just the nature of a child. They forget. Infact, that used to be one of my son's favorite phrases when I would ask him if he had done something he was supposed to do yet. "Forgot.":giggle:
 
I have two hearing children. I never push them to learn to sign. We don't use sign, unless if they want to. When they ask me to learn some signs, I was happy to teach them. My daughter is learning to sign to talk with my hubby because maybe times he doesn't understand her. She would sign if she needs to speak with me private about personal matters. I never sign back.
 
That normal for children...

I do use voice and sign.. Mostly I don't use my voice while use SIGN all the time.. My children can understand me 100% I lurv my son (Riker) can sign without his voice.. LOL
Even his friends begged him what he saying? He laughed.. and also front of MIL and FIL.. They wanted him use voice all the time.. and think not very nice.. But They have to learn respect us.. because we are Deaf.. so then really not necessary use voice sign.. So!

I still enjoy my son (Riker) (chuckles)
My daughter still using her voice sort of Loud of mouth! *sigh*
My older son is still both voice and sign too.. Not even bother at all.. When Parent are here.. he'll use sign front of me while talk his sister or bro..

Pretty good respect us.. sometime not respect us.. LOL
That normal for children can may be forgot..
 
I wonder if hearing children from hearing parents who are not native English speakers face the same issue? Do they forget and speak in English to their parents?
 
restless_heart said:
I have two hearing children. I never push them to learn to sign. We don't use sign, unless if they want to. When they ask me to learn some signs, I was happy to teach them. My daughter is learning to sign to talk with my hubby because maybe times he doesn't understand her. She would sign if she needs to speak with me private about personal matters. I never sign back.
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I'm with you 100 percent, I too have two hearing children, I never once force them to learn my language just because I'm deaf simply because it isn't all about me, it's about my children and their language. It's like forcing a deaf child to speak because a child has hearing parents who doesn't use signs. It's not right in my opinion. You just got to see in their world from your own. :)

If you want your children to sign, then you got to go half way with them and speak for them. It's a two way street. ;)
 
deafbajagal said:
I wonder if hearing children from hearing parents who are not native English speakers face the same issue? Do they forget and speak in English to their parents?
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I'm sure they do. My grandmother was a native German speaker, and my dad often forgot to address her in German.
 
I do have hearing son and I dont force him to sign but sometimes I have hard time understand him. I just wish he would be able to sign to me so that way I can understand him. Time will tell.
 
we tell ethan he has to sign and we yell at him. He will sign to mom with out a problem if I am not home
 
All our five children have signed since they were about five months old and all of them are hearing. Sign language is their first language. The only time we ask them to sign 100% is during meal times. When they want to talk during meal times, they must sign. The reason for this is to keep improving their signing skills. At other times, not during the meal time they can talk with each other without using sign language and whenever they talk with me or my husband they always use sign language. I sometime use just my voice when talking with our children, other time I do not use my voice and just sign with them. Keeping in balance and they're used to different methods of communication. It turned out very well.
 
give her lot of peanut butter and she wouldn't able to speak :)

I got that idea from FoxTrot.
 
Cheri said:
I'm with you 100 percent, I too have two hearing children, I never once force them to learn my language just because I'm deaf simply because it isn't all about me, it's about my children and their language. It's like forcing a deaf child to speak because a child has hearing parents who doesn't use signs. It's not right in my opinion. You just got to see in their world from your own. :)

If you want your children to sign, then you got to go half way with them and speak for them. It's a two way street. ;)
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If the deaf person has lipreading and speech skills, then that would be fine. If the deaf person doesnt, then communication would cosntantly break down between the deaf person and the child. Some deaf people just are unable to develop any lipreading or speech skills so these are situations when the child has to sign in order for communication to be effective. MY brother has a hard time understanding my daughter so she has to start signing when he visits. My daughter is really good about signing with my deaf friends who have no speech or lipreading skills but she knows that I have them so she reverts to the language she is more comfortable with. It is so interesting to see that.
 
That remind me never to get children. ^^; I don't like the idea that children forgot to sign despite knowing I will not understand them at all.
 
shel90 said:
If the deaf person has lipreading and speech skills, then that would be fine. If the deaf person doesnt, then communication would cosntantly break down between the deaf person and the child. Some deaf people just are unable to develop any lipreading or speech skills so these are situations when the child has to sign in order for communication to be effective. MY brother has a hard time understanding my daughter so she has to start signing when he visits. My daughter is really good about signing with my deaf friends who have no speech or lipreading skills but she knows that I have them so she reverts to the language she is more comfortable with. It is so interesting to see that.
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Then if a deaf person has no spoken language, or cannot lip-reading others, then I would understand why children should be able to use signs with their parents. That would be the same goes for hearing parents to learn a new language if their deaf child doesn't have any speech skills.
 
We sign with voice with our boys since they were babies. The reason we are doing because we want them know what we are as the same as we want to know what they are.

Until they were little, they understood prefect when my hubby & I sign without voice (we thought we do it private without them know but they understood us...:eek3: - we do it private without them around). Sometimes I sign without voice to my boys.

We use German sign language and speak German, not English and British sign language. They know sign language automatic thru look at us signing like hearing children know how to speak thru look at their hearing parents.

Sometimes my boys sign to me private without their friends know... like private... My boys's friends were like :confused: and :eek3: :giggle:

Let it be natural and stay what you are, not change everything for them because they are hearing...
 
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