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:type: My girlfriend is an interpreter. We have been together for 3 1/2 years. I know she have a lot of good opportunities to meet many people to interprete for.

Sometime I have been wondering and getting strange thoughts about that. Some guys that I met at soicalizes and bars. They was like "Your girlfriend's cool.", " She's funny.", "You are lucky have her.", "Let me know when you are planning to go out. I would like to join ya.", "What's your girlfriend's phone numbers? I need her to interpreter for me ASAP!" Something that. You know what I mean. I was like...in my mind. :wtf: I've talked with my girlfriend about the situation how I feels. She was like, "You have to trust me. It is part of my job. My heart is belongs to you." Blah blah blah. I believe what she said.

How would you feel if your interprete girlfriend/boyfriend is interpreting for woman/man out there alone at some place for some reason? How would you feel when your interprete girlfriend/boyfriend collecting deaf people email address or phone numbers? What would you do?

Tell me your story much as you want! :dance:
 
first of all its the code of conduct she can not tell you where she is interpeting as its a voiltion of contract, 2nd you will have to put some trust into her, and 3rdly ur gf shouldn't reveal personal issues while on the job as it can be considered personal and not job related. and last but not the least i can udnerstand how u feel i have a interp whos a mom and the kids don't like her being rushed out like this and all that. and they feel thier being neglected so shes managed to work the trust within them. it's all good. but seriously even if they mention your gf and all u just have to trust her and if she says her heart belongs only to you. then it only belongs to you. she wouldn't jeporidize her interp jobs and ur relatonships too just know she can not interpet for you cuz of conflict of intrest.

if you love her that much then trust her.

addtional comment : since she's collectinv phone nbrs and e mail addresses, its because she's immersing herself in the deaf community plus getting more job experince on her.
 
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my gf is an interpreter too. she NEVER tells me what she terps and who her clients are. it is code of ethlic. blah blah. sometimes she said like where she was for her job. i went what ! it was because she drove on round trip for 8 hrs on one day for only one job. but mainly i trust her and i am not worried about what she done. sometimes we go to different places like deaf expo and they go like hey i remmy u terped me while ago. blah blah. beside me she nods and smiles. i have no desire to know what going on with her and her clients/friends. she usually passes out her business cards to those people. it is for her living.
 
Trust is always the important part in a relationship, if there's no trust, there's no relationship....Since your girlfriend has a job as being an interpreter, she will be meeting alot of deaf people men, women and even children too....It is also part of her job to be friendly toward other deaf clients....And most interperters becomes friend with them after they interpreter for them, and whenever they need an interpreter, they would be asking your gf to do the job, and knowing she will make more money out of it too...I have a few interpreters that I'm still friends with, two of them are men, and it never bothered Roadrunner when he was with me at my children's doctor appointment, I laughed with the interpreter, and chat almost anything in general....It's a good feelings to have an interpreter that you really enjoy being around or feeling more comfortable....

You should be glad that alot of deaf thinks your gf is great and funni and knowing you're the ONE who won her heart and she loves you very much! ;)
 
:gpost: ^Angel^


Just like ^Angel^ says, Trust is the most important factor. You should be glad you have a wonderful person in your life, as being involved with the deaf community.


I admire all my interpreters men and women, It's not because I'm in love with them or anything. I would like to use them again in the nearest future, If they are good that is. ;)
 
I am a terp, married to a hearing man, so my situtation is a little different. Also, I am older, so there are no clients hitting on me, ha, ha.

I know that you have serious concerns, so I am not mocking you. I know it is hard when a spouse or family member works in a confidential occupation. It is not that your girlfriend is "secretive" on a personal level. It is just part of the professional ethics that are required.

7Irishking7 said:
...Some guys that I met at soicalizes and bars. They was like "Your girlfriend's cool.", " She's funny.", "You are lucky have her.", "Let me know when you are planning to go out. I would like to join ya.", "What's your girlfriend's phone numbers? I need her to interpreter for me ASAP!"
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In that situation, your girlfriend can give them her business card, for business contact only. If they are serious about needing a terp, they can go thru the business. Usually, it is the hearing party that calls terps for appointments. That is, the doctor's office, the lawyer, the school, the work supervisor, etc., calls for a terp.


How would you feel if your interprete girlfriend/boyfriend is interpreting for woman/man out there alone at some place for some reason?
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Remember, it is never the terp and Deaf client alone. There is at least one hearing person there, too. Otherwise, there is no interpretting happening.

Also, the interpretting company that I work for limits contact between clients and terps during the assignment. For example, I am not allowed to give rides to clients in my car.


How would you feel when your interprete girlfriend/boyfriend collecting deaf people email address or phone numbers? What would you do?
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It is important for terps to have much social contact with the local Deaf community. As with any kind of socializing, your girlfriend has to use good judgment in how to behave. She will know where to "draw the line".
 
I completely agree with everyone so far. If you can't trust your girlfriend, you have no business being in a relationship with her (or anyone for that matter) in the first place. The only time you should mistrust your significant other, is when they give you good REASON for mistrusting them. And if they have cheated, they don't deserve you anyway.
 
I agree.

You should try to trust your friend whos interpreting for you.
Shes doing a job and providing you a serivce.
I've known sign language (ASL) for 30 yrs and I'm an interpreter myself,and I love every min.
So, your very lucky you have a friend who is willing to interpret for you.
Keep Smiling!
Margie
Dir. of Commuincatioin Services
OCDAC
 
As a new interpreter out in the field, I have to say that it is a bit unnerving how many Deaf clients will hit on me... And, not JUST me. My close interpreting friend whom I went to school with has the same problem. We have professional boundries that we are not allowed to cross, why isn't that idea reciprcated? We are not there for eye candy, we are there to do the best job that we can, in order to mediate between two languages and cultures, so people (both hearing AND Deaf) can have effective communication. It is very difficult to feel comfortable and safe when every other assignment one goes to, the client is asking personal questions and asking you out on dates.
 
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me have work w/many many terps.. be Deaf which cap Deaf me live life Deaf wrld...
me go dr hospt meets... before me wait me chat long time w/terp.. Yes me QQ she/he.... Do this mean me want go out date themQq No.. our cutlure ways... meet w/terps we treat as in community... meet our Deaf frds we chat long time... or meet new Deaf friends we QQ whatschl they go before now.. who they know.. mean who they know in Deaf communitys... Marry...
we QQ phone num.. VP /TTD...email.... we can chat...
Deaf come right out w/QQ.... U know wht QQ meansQQ we use QQ TTD means question... Deaf life total differnet then what U may be custom ur life... We live happy life... Happy with othr Deaf ppl same... We family.. may no blood still family...
U no like Deaf ppl QQ ur girl.. maybe find othr girl U can chain & ball...
PPL bar if they Deaf they weclm U & ur girl go out... Have fun w/them meet there Deaf friends... U stick ur nose up at them.. they will may never chat w/ u again... They ask U when U go out again.. they try be ur friend cuz they know ur girl from terp for them...
me see ppl who terp for me store me stop them even they have there boy/girl friends w/them.. me chat same me see me Deaf friends...
U need QQ ur girl where Deaf meets.. learn more abt deaf.. better meet Daf then just learn abt them from net... U see how more open we is...
Hope ur not trust makes ur girl stop terp... she may be best terp one have... She stopterp.. Deaf community may loss gd terp! All because U can no handle a Deaf culture.....
LMM
 
I love my gf and I have faith in my gf. She is a pending certified Deaf Interpeter and she does not tell me about her job at all because of the codes of ethics and I respect her for this job. I know we need more Interpteters out there in the feild and I think my gf is the best!!! :D
 
Trust her. Oh and maybe get new "friends" as these guys are trying to ruin a good thing.
 
Mochi said:
As a new interpreter out in the field, I have to say that it is a bit unnerving how many Deaf clients will hit on me... And, not JUST me. My close interpreting friend whom I went to school with has the same problem. We have professional boundries that we are not allowed to cross, why isn't that idea reciprcated? We are not there for eye candy, we are there to do the best job that we can, in order to mediate between two languages and cultures, so people (both hearing AND Deaf) can have effective communication. It is very difficult to feel comfortable and safe when every other assignment one goes to, the client is asking personal questions and asking you out on dates.
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I can't answer this question out of a lot of personal experience, and as I am not deaf, any deaf person can feel free to correct me. What I was taught from a very experienced 'terp, not that I agree or disagree with this, (and this is talking about the experiences of female terps) "Most deaf men don't have a lot of girls that they can easily hit on and/or date. Deaf guys generally grow up in the same community with the same people and 'terps can be new people. Also, as hearing people have (at least in the past) access to a lot more information and word of mouth, they can be someone really interesting to communicate with about current events and all that."
There is a whole lot more to be said about this, but I am just passing on some information from a teacher of mine, and it's late so...will write more later.
 
:thumb: I have to agree with everyone that has posted on this thread regarding interpreting and personal issues. Your girlfriend has a very important and dedicating job to the deaf community. Since your girlfriend is bound by the Code of Ethics, it's very difficult for her to divulge where, who and why's of her interpreting job. When others do give you compliments on your girlfriend's interpreting abilities, she has been accepted by these deaf clients and they feel comfortable with her.
I do volunteer interpreting at my Church in Providence, and there are times when some of the deaf come to me and ask if I could intepret for them at appts., school meetings, etc. and because I am not a certified interpreter, I have to turn them down. Their reply would be. Who will know? I tell them, I will know, because it's not right. One thing I feel very important to me is not stepping over boundaries of certified interpreters. I have the greatest respect for them, and wouldn't do anything to harm their profession. I have to remember when I do turn down an interpreting offer the reason is that they had to pay for all their training and workshops, in order for them to be certified, and who am I to just step in. Sorry to go off track a little. Trust your girlfriend, she has the ability to separate her personal issues from her professional issues. She has had the proper training.
 
7Irishking7 said:
:type: My girlfriend is an interpreter. We have been together for 3 1/2 years. I know she have a lot of good opportunities to meet many people to interprete for.

Sometime I have been wondering and getting strange thoughts about that. Some guys that I met at soicalizes and bars. They was like "Your girlfriend's cool.", " She's funny.", "You are lucky have her.", "Let me know when you are planning to go out. I would like to join ya.", "What's your girlfriend's phone numbers? I need her to interpreter for me ASAP!" Something that. You know what I mean. I was like...in my mind. :wtf: I've talked with my girlfriend about the situation how I feels. She was like, "You have to trust me. It is part of my job. My heart is belongs to you." Blah blah blah. I believe what she said.

How would you feel if your interprete girlfriend/boyfriend is interpreting for woman/man out there alone at some place for some reason? How would you feel when your interprete girlfriend/boyfriend collecting deaf people email address or phone numbers? What would you do?

Tell me your story much as you want! :dance:
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Yeah, I understand how u feel....

Number one, Trust in no matter what in relationship/marriage.

It might hurt her feeling if u say that to her..
Ya know, Mostly women have more highly-sensitive than men.

Im not judging here.No-No. I thought abt to share here how I feel abt this situation.

Because, Im woman myself.

Unless you know ur girlfriend s background then should be ok.

Depends on people s background not good then u have to right to not trust..

I hope its help.



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I hope its help.
 
7Irishking7,

I can see what you are saying. Most interpreters are women. From what I have been told, there are not that many male interpreters or interpreter students. I would think that a male client might want a male interpreter at the doctor's office for some examinations. :mad2: If you are a deaf male and only use ASL, then the number of women he can ask out on a date is limited. A hearing male can meet many more women because he can speak the language of the majority of women. So, if a beautiful woman walks into an appointment to be his interpreter, he would be saying to himself, "wow! A beautiful woman speaks my language." For some men, I would presume to think they would respect the boundaries between the interpreter and the client. On the other hand, a deaf man might think to himself, "hey! I'm not dating and I want to get married. Here is a nice, beautiful, young woman for me. To hell with the code of ethics." I'm not sure how often this happens, but I am sure it does happen.

The issue here is trust. I used to have a hard time with trusting people. But I was able to address this issue by forcing myself to get help. Being hard of hearing in a hearing world as a kid was hell. But it made me stronger. If you can't trust your girlfriend, than get some help. Go and talk to someone about this issue. It does not mean that you are nuts. It means that you may need to address why you have trouble trusting your girlfriend or anyone else for that matter.
 
I read only few posts.

Really it is very important in relationship is to draw line between business and personal. I know it is not easy but I learn that, when I used to work at few companies that contains plenty of confidential information, I had to separate the line between my work and my wife. This way is to prevent problems from starting and misunderstanding. It takes one to mess up either life. Any confidential information that has to do with Deaf community, with Deaf community so small, it is easy for somebody else to figure out and start rumors. So, this is one of main reason why personal and business can't mix. So, for you it is best to leave your girlfriend's job alone and focus on personal level.

Oh boy FF! You re-open 8 years old thread. LOL I didn't realize that until I checked the timeline.
 
I would be mad if my interpreter girlfriend helped a guy order a drink in a bar. This is personal, not business!! If my interpreter girlfriend over step business boundaries to interpret in situations like that, then I would leave her.

Right now, I don't have a girlfriend. I am just giving my perspective.
 
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