How can you say I am not who I say I am without knowing me?

[shel90]

My biggest problem with not hearing, maybe because i'm used to hearing, is that I have no clue what's going on around me. If i'm in the house I can sometimes feel people walking but like at Walmart today, I didn't know if someone was behind me or coming towards us from the outer isles. I just can't hear what's going on.

I can communicate with my family fairly well, but not if its more than one.
I still have many other problems other than just no hearing.

Like others said, it will take time. Good luck.

 

[Deaffy]

Its amazing I can feel my blackberry getting messages before it vibrates.

Also, with being more visual, you will see things "better" out the corner of your eye... Youre just paying better attention to that.

Yes ohh yes... I once grabbed the phone and took it to a family member for them to answer. They confronted me on " you have to be faking being deaf how could you tell the phone was ringing" errrr ummm I have eye's you dont need to hear to be able to see..

 

[posts from hell]

that's perfectly understandable. That's the kind of attitude you should have exhibited in the first place when you came here. That way - we can better help you and get you all the information you needed and wanted to know.

Now you understand that a therapist can help you exactly for that reason? It's common for many people getting CI.

 

[zebadee2010]

Time my friend.... In time you will become used to this. I can " sense" when someone is behind me or is walking around. I can also " sense" when a phone is ringing. I can't explain how it work's but it is very real that in time your other sense's will become attuned to your new deafness.

I understand and have known about the senses thing. The feel or touch sense seems to be the only one getting any better. Taste isn't really good and eye sight isn't great as it is. But i suppose it has room for improvement.

 

[posts from hell]

Well from my fall I have lost my balance, and my hearing as well as the left side of my face going numb. My left eye lid also doesn't function quite right ( it slouches.) But face numbness and eyelid are starting to return closer to normal. Balance is also getting better. Could just be from practice. And after laying in a hospital bed for two weeks my head still isn't used to the bouncing thing from running or jumping of any sort. That also is getting better. A lot of things happened in the fall and the combination of all of them has made things very difficult.

Yeah, sorry to hear, but like I said.. You'll adapt.

 

[AlleyCat]

Its amazing I can feel my blackberry getting messages before it vibrates.

Also, with being more visual, you will see things "better" out the corner of your eye... Youre just paying better attention to that.

So I'm not the only one it happens to! I keep thinking I'm getting phantom vibrations. I look at the phone and no messages. 2 secs later, it vibrates! Makes me think I'm going a little crazy.

 

[GrendelQ]

I now think Z is actually one of PFH's avatars. I've never NOT seen them post in the same place at the same time, Z doesn't post when PFH is partying, and they are starting to converge. Can't believe I didn't see it at the start. Nice set up.

 

[Deaffy]

I understand and have known about the senses thing. The feel or touch sense seems to be the only one getting any better. Taste isn't really good and eye sight isn't great as it is. But i suppose it has room for improvement.

Ohh your sense of sight will grow. Movement's you never were able to aknowledge before will start to improve. I can caddy cornerd to my door and be looking at my pc and notice when someone open's my door. I can also be asleep and wake up knowing full well someone has come into the room. It's not a overnight thing. You will begin to use your eye's more when you aren't wearing the CI to give you input on whats going on around. It will just become second nature to see these subtle things.. It is pretty crazy..

 

[zebadee2010]

that's perfectly understandable. That's the kind of attitude you should have exhibited in the first place when you came here. That way - we can better help you and get you all the information you needed and wanted to know.

Now you understand that a therapist can help you exactly for that reason? It's common for many people getting CI.

I still see no reason for me to consult a therapist. I'm not about to go commit suicide or anything. And as soon as this CI gets activated this week I think that things should go uphill quicker.

Honestly I dislike going to doctors in general, they all seem to want to prescribe anti-deprescents which are just as bad as the depression itself. One side effects of anti-deprescents can actually be suicide.

I really will probably never go to a therapist unless required by law.

 

[Jiro]

I now think Z is actually one of PFH's avatars. I've never NOT seen them post in the same place at the same time, Z doesn't post when PFH is partying, and they are starting to converge. Can't believe I didn't see it at the start. Nice set up.

really? what?

 

[AlleyCat]

I will believe that, I don't think i ever declared you as anti-CI, but I still have my doubts on other users.

I think in your lifetime you will indeed meet up with other deaf people who do not like CIs. It's a deaf culture thing. ("If you're deaf, why bother trying to do something about it? Enjoy, embrace life as it is ...") that type of attitude. For most of us on this board, I don't think we begrudge those who do get CIs. We begrudge the audist attitude that comes with it. I'm not necessarily singling out a single person who has that attitude, I'm speaking generally. We've been told by people that our (the deaf posters on this board who have been deaf a long time, for the most part) experiences are no longer valid because things aren't the same today. For us, our experiences were tough, but they made us who we are.

 

[sheila022]

I now think Z is actually one of PFH's avatars. I've never NOT seen them post in the same place at the same time, Z doesn't post when PFH is partying, and they are starting to converge. Can't believe I didn't see it at the start. Nice set up.

Unless PFH wants to get banned again or he got Alex wrapped around his finger to not to ban him again for having two accounts? xD

 

[zebadee2010]

I now think Z is actually one of PFH's avatars. I've never NOT seen them post in the same place at the same time, Z doesn't post when PFH is partying, and they are starting to converge. Can't believe I didn't see it at the start. Nice set up.

Unfortunately that isn't the case. I think I still have much to learn about PFH.
You may also note that this weekend was new years eve..

 

[Jiro]

I still see no reason for me to consult a therapist. I'm not about to go commit suicide or anything. And as soon as this CI gets activated this week I think that things should go uphill quicker.

Honestly I dislike going to doctors in general, they all seem to want to prescribe anti-deprescents which are just as bad as the depression itself. One side effects of anti-deprescents can actually be suicide.

I really will probably never go to a therapist unless required by law.

That's not the therapist I'm talking about. I'm talking about a therapist who specializes in making a transition smooth for CI-user because she/he has all the answers you're looking for.

Beside - therapist has no legal authority to write a prescription. Psychologist does... not therapist. Therapist holds your hand and tells you everything what to expect and guide you through... much better than what you can get from this forum because you get the in-person and personalized attention. For suicide-related issue... that's what psychologist deals with. Therapist... usually no.

 

[Deaffy]

I now think Z is actually one of PFH's avatars. I've never NOT seen them post in the same place at the same time, Z doesn't post when PFH is partying, and they are starting to converge. Can't believe I didn't see it at the start. Nice set up.

I see what you did there...

 

[Jiro]

Unless PFH wants to get banned again or he got Alex wrapped around his finger to not to ban him again for having two accounts? xD

do you see life in cartoonistic sense?

 

[Bottesini]

I now think Z is actually one of PFH's avatars. I've never NOT seen them post in the same place at the same time, Z doesn't post when PFH is partying, and they are starting to converge. Can't believe I didn't see it at the start. Nice set up.

Nooo.............

 

[zebadee2010]

That's not the therapist I'm talking about. I'm talking about a therapist who specializes in making a transition smooth for CI-user because she/he has all the answers you're looking for.

Beside - therapist has no legal authority to write a prescription. Psychologist does... not therapist. Therapist holds your hand and tells you everything what to expect and guide you through... much better than what you can get from this forum because you get the in-person and personalized attention.

I think that a good online community is just as good as a therapist. Only difference between the two. In an online community you can have many people posting many different sides and stories. Which is what I have gotten BTW.

 

[deafbajagal]

Contrary to popular belief, most culturally deaf people are usually not against CIs. Initially they were because the purpose of the CI was to "save people from deafness!" What culturally deaf people resent is people mocking ASL or demeaning ASL, devaluing deaf culture, and anything pertaining to making it seem like being deaf is incomplete and incompetent. Deaf people face obstacles, even today. Laws and acts such as ADA do shit for them. In my hometown which is becoming a popular pitstop for culturally deaf people still has issues with police mistreatment and hospitals refusing to provide interpreters.

I believe you are who you are because we have discussed some things, and we did so outside of the AD forum. I think you mean well and sometimes say things out of context without intending to insult others. You do have a way that rubs people, especially culturally deaf people, the wrong way, but I think that's a cultural issue. You are a little bitter, but I don't blame you for it. It's a miracle you survived your accident. It took you nearly two months to walk again.

I will admit that many of your postings are very similar to a previous AD member. I see why others may think you are him.

My advice to you is just keep posting and keep learning what you can about CIs, ASL, and whatnot. Be sensitive to what you are posting, but keep true to yourself. I hate to break it to you. You're no longer hearing, and all the CIs in the world will never cure your deafness. You will have hearing tendencies and views, which is only natural. It's time to learn about deaf views. And as you can imagine, sometimes the two worlds will collide. As you have seen.

 

[somedeafdudefromPNW]

Nice phonetic there, "the badie."