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-- What would you do if you are depressed?
-- What would you do if you feel like you have missed something important and do not know what you are missing?
-- What would you do if all these people are not helping you even after you beg for their assistance?
-- What would you do if you do not feel like doing anything to help yourself?
 
ChelEler said:
-- What would you do if you are depressed?
-- What would you do if you feel like you have missed something important and do not know what you are missing?
-- What would you do if all these people are not helping you even after you beg for their assistance?
-- What would you do if you do not feel like doing anything to help yourself?
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As a person who definitely can speak from experience, the best resort is to seek professional help. Counselling always help. I am not ashamed to share my experience because it heals me and in a way, it may help others. I lost out a lot because I didn't see the warning signs and I chose to be blind. People helped and offered advice, I ignored it. I told them they didn't know what they were talking about. I chose my own path and my loved ones still stuck with me. When my situation worsened, I begged for assistance from my loved ones. They ran to my assistance and helped me. I knew I could rely on them. I told them, "It's ok, let me try one more time." Things went from tough to worse! I couldn't deal with the inner and outer stress. I hid a lot of important details from my family and this shocked them a lot! I shocked my family so much, especially my father because I am "Daddy's Girl" and he felt so helpless about my situation. I took a very drastic approach to solving my situation twice and I thought it would help everyone's problems if I committed suicide. Believe me, I am so glad that I had a huge wake-up call from this because the suicide attempts were not successful. I left the situation & finally asked for help and my family took care of me when I had a nervous breakdown. Counselling does help. I had no faith in God but later on, I learned the situation I was in did not help me at all. I had to escape it and I abused myself at the end just to escape it. Please seek counselling if you know you need it. Never say ok to the words "Be strong!!" It is because the words "Be strong!!" does negatively impact you and downplay your emotions.
 
:smash: Losing a job does affect me big time, it looks like it. I will not, I repeat, will not, commit suicide, because I KNOW it will not solve anything. So that is out of my question, just to let you know. :)
 
You went to counseling without an interpreter? Is there a way you can go to another counselor with an interpreter? I cannot believe that you had to write back and forth with the counselor. That would never help resolve your own issues.

Have you talked to your doctor about taking anti-depressants? You will have to try out a variety before finding the one that works for you.

We all fall into depression sometimes so it is important that you take anti-depressants, find a supportive system and a good counselor.

I know it sounds easier said than done but I have been there - been through all valleys of life.


Hang in there!
 
Depression sure ain't fun. I've dealt with it as well, ChelEler, and I do hope things work out for you. If there's anything any of us can do to help, even if it's just to hear ya out, just say the word. :)

I do agree with Socrates - ask for help when you believe you need it. I think that's one of our biggest problems these days. When we know we're in trouble and we refuse to sacrifice our "got it under control reputation" and decide that we can handle it ourselves. That makes the fall even harder, in the long run.

If you are feeling as if you're missing something, girlie...maybe you should mentally backtrack a little bit. At least, this is what I would do. Think about your life, what you've accomplished and what you'd still like to do - then, by all means - make arrangements and go do 'em. :)

If you don't feel like doing anything to help yourself, then I do think you have a bigger problem than you bargained for... :( Best thing to do at this point is to let your family and friends walk you through the rest. If they won't help you, then there is always, always the option of calling a hotline, getting ahold of a counselor, even if it's not long-term help you are seeking.

Sometimes it's just a matter of getting folks to LISTEN.

Good luck, girl :)
 
I have already talked to my dr about depression, and she gave me some medicine "Zoloft" to help relief the depression. It works, but I do not want to take them too long because I do not want to depend on these artifical emotions to be well.

To be honest with you, the last time I went to see counselor is when I was in high school. Right now, I am not seeing a counselor because I apparantly do not have the time.

My hubby often tells me "Be strong and keep going." :roll:
 
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Great post girlies!

-- What would you do if you are depressed?

Check it out. What To Do If You Are Depressed

-- What would you do if you feel like you have missed something important and do not know what you are missing?

As for me it usually works... I'd get away from everything, away from distractions and concentrate on my thoughts and feelings then I'd know exactly what I'm missing. When I'm not depressed then I'd get to whatever I'm missing and do it or grab it.

-- What would you do if all these people are not helping you even after you beg for their assistance?

I'm assuming you're asking for the wrong people. Find someone who truly can help you, perhaps Psychiarist? I find Psychiarist very helpful because I've been to one once before and it changed my life forever in a very positive way.

-- What would you do if you do not feel like doing anything to help yourself?

You can't do anything about it unless you do. I find myself in a situation like this, too. My family and friends would notice when I'm down and not doing anything about it so they encourage me to talk about it. They give me all kinds of feedbacks and they would keep asking if I did anything about it, but I thank them for a good push.
 
Malfoyish said:
Depression sure ain't fun. I've dealt with it as well, ChelEler, and I do hope things work out for you. If there's anything any of us can do to help, even if it's just to hear ya out, just say the word. :)

I do agree with Socrates - ask for help when you believe you need it. I think that's one of our biggest problems these days. When we know we're in trouble and we refuse to sacrifice our "got it under control reputation" and decide that we can handle it ourselves. That makes the fall even harder, in the long run.

If you are feeling as if you're missing something, girlie...maybe you should mentally backtrack a little bit. At least, this is what I would do. Think about your life, what you've accomplished and what you'd still like to do - then, by all means - make arrangements and go do 'em. :)

If you don't feel like doing anything to help yourself, then I do think you have a bigger problem than you bargained for... :( Best thing to do at this point is to let your family and friends walk you through the rest. If they won't help you, then there is always, always the option of calling a hotline, getting ahold of a counselor, even if it's not long-term help you are seeking.

Sometimes it's just a matter of getting folks to LISTEN.

Good luck, girl :)
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Well, said, Malfy. I agree with you, totally. I also have dealt with depression, and you're right ...Some times, it just takes getting someone to LISTEN TO YOU! I also wanted to add something ... Sometimes, it ALSO takes someone willing to ask the RIGHT questions to help get the depressed person talking....It works both ways, really. But, if all else fails...An impartial, objective person is always good. And, meds are a good short term solution when things are really bad.
 
Many good hints above!

but also I like to add I have read somewhere, can't remember for sure but when I get some time I will bring this up.. but I want to mention 1..

Walking or some excerise do help you feel a little better to have less despression or stress.. I also have notice that for me because when I quit smokes I get panic attack or a nervous breakdown.. I go for walk and it surely does calm me down :)

so Try that too..

Wendy
 
i am honest with yall, i been depress all in my life and i went see my counseling last year first time, so checked on me, i went there for 7 months and i got better lot and i didnt finish with counseling.. until now, i am back depression, i had reasons.. anyway, when i get my truck or car then i will go back counseling, i admitting yall, i am not shame myself.. smile.. i need help and my life need get back normal like that.. :)
 
Hi ChelEler,

I feel for you and going through any kind of depression is not easy and seeing many good ideas here in this thread which I do hope may be of help for you ....Like for myself and the others in AD, hopefully we can be of good encouragement and listen to you anytime you need it! :D

There have been times when I have tried to help others by sharing my own experiences or giving them the kind of support they needed, but unfortunately there have been a few who made me feel small or worthless when in my heart I was really trying to help, I do hope this don't happen to you!..I don't believe that anybody have the right to judge or pick on someone with their personal problems....But to be supportive in every which way possible!

I do hope you will get better as time passes and you are in my thoughts and prayers!....Believe me, I know it not easy but you can overcome it! :thumb:
 
Thanks for all your help and advices. I feel like that my days are up and down immediately. Like one day, I'm so down, then the next, I completely feel fine, then the next day down again... back and forth. It's frustrating and tiresome!
Yesterday, I was good because I was busy. Today, I felt down because I felt like I didn't do anything right.

Right now, I'm bored and cannot sleep at all. :|
 
ChelEler said:
Thanks for all your help and advices. I feel like that my days are up and down immediately. Like one day, I'm so down, then the next, I completely feel fine, then the next day down again... back and forth. It's frustrating and tiresome!
Yesterday, I was good because I was busy. Today, I felt down because I felt like I didn't do anything right.

Right now, I'm bored and cannot sleep at all. :|
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*HUGS* Keep going at it girly!! I know you don't want to be on Zoloft but it does help. I was on Paxil and it helped me temporarily to get me on the right track and get the suicidal thoughts out of my mind. When people are depressed, they need to be on the certain medication to balance the hormonal imbalance. The hormonal imbalance causes the depression and suicidal thoughts. It's because of the hormonal imbalance, you are on a roller coaster, going up and down feeling happy and sad. Give it a week or two and then you will notice yourself feeling the same "Chellove". A suggestion for you that I did when I was depressed, I always made a list of things to do for the day.

List of things to do for day..
1. Go for a walk to park.
2. Do one load of laundry.
3. Read one chapter at bedtime.
4. Try to learn new recipe.

You don't want to overwhelm yourself when you are depressed and on the other hand, you don't want to coddle yourself. "Baby steps" to getting well, Chellove. _\m/
 
LOL. Thanks hun!! I'm thinking of buying papers for my planner, so that way I can keep track of what I need to do, and I know it will help me to keep myself on my toes. Haha! :lol: Thanks!

Hugs oxox
 
i have my ups and downs too -- ive never taken any kind of anti depressant meds i just tend to deal with it on my own by finding things to do in a positive way -- u will be ok Chel gurl! *huggies*
 
Yeah I am there w/ ya, I already went to counselor and take meds. they didn't help me at all. So, My friend invited me to go to church once and I accepted Jesus in my heart and have spiritual relationship.. it changed my life big time and maybe you will consider about finding out about that.
 
hm if u can't find a job u can try part-time job for a while like I do have for now.. but it isn't that enough but it is enough to get me out of house to work for few hours.. and I dealt with depression for almost 10 years.. eh that started back in h.s and it's not fun to deal with but I'm grateful that I am still here cuz of my great sense of humor and support from friends.. I know it's not easy to be depressed about something tho :scatter:
 
I was diagnoised with depression over a year ago when I attempted suicide -- was for over several reasons. Was going through hard times with my husband, not happy with life, the company I worked for was being an arsehole, and a few other issues...plus dealing with hubby's stupid ex-wife and her lies.

I was put onto Effexor-X7, an anti-depressant/Anti-anxiety medication.
 
Malfoyish said:
I do agree with Socrates - ask for help when you believe you need it. I think that's one of our biggest problems these days. When we know we're in trouble and we refuse to sacrifice our "got it under control reputation" and decide that we can handle it ourselves. That makes the fall even harder, in the long run.
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Aye, the I'm-tuff-I-don't-need-anyone-but-I-really-do-need-help-though-dont-worry catch-22 syndrome. :) I'm guilty of that often and I know when someone else does that, too-- takes one to know another, eh babe? LOL

Chelgirly, I am sending you positive vibes. Keep that chin up, and do whatever is appriopiate for your recovery. I know it can't be easy. There is a variety of professionals that are willing to help with depression online, as well. There is also a guide online that you can read about helping yourself.

http://mentalhelp.net/psyhelp/ -the self-help html ebook

So, yeah, I'll learn more about depression and learn how to help myself. It takes a willingness to face these that has been plaguing me-- and I am willing, of course, with healthy boundaries and all. ;) I think depression is an indication when old patterns or approaches don't serve us anymore, and our minds KNOW it-- so they let us know it, until we make the necessary changes even if they are only mental. Can be physical, too-- go out to the park like Socrates suggested. :) Just move from the old place you're at, cos you're ready for changes baby!
 
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