I may regret arguing about this later, but I'm sick of these stupid lies she's been spreading about me...
Like I said if he is unwilling to see that you are understanding....get out now of that relationship. I have gone thru a similair relationship myself for almost 2 years and I know your pain only thing is that my guy was hearing and I am deaf, he never did much for me like he said he was until after my birthday last year. Then he started complaining I wanted too much. BS!! I was acting like any other woman.
Yeah, and you should have learned to let go sooner than that. I have IM logs that prove that you were unwilling to let go of me until we broke up in July. You just didn't understand that we were not compatible until it was too late. Love isn't necessarily being in a romantic relationship permanently, and sharing every single interest. It takes on many forms, and breaking up and turning it into a friendship of some sort is actually one of them. I offered breaking up and changing it to a friendship as an option because I didn't like how my lack of a desire for sex or kids was causing tension between us. But instead, you kept begging me to stay. And against my better judgment, I continued it anyway,
at your request.
I didn't want a dating relationship. Get over it already! As an asexual, I did not
want someone who acted just like "any other woman"! And when I found out I was asexual, you pretended to be asexual too. So if anything, you put yourself through this. I didn't put you through
anything.
It's not fair to hold grudges against me because you chose to lie about yourself.
He also was not very kind about my choice in having a few pets to keep me calm when not with him.
I didn't say I didn't like pets. If you were paying attention to the big picture, I said your pets were limiting your ability to move away from your abusive mother because shelters don't typically allow pets, and I didn't want your mom to harm your pets. It had nothing to do with you
I know your feel but the move you need to make is there in front of you. I would dump him if I were you. He is not worth it. PM me if you like!!
When two people are incompatible, breaking up doesn't necessarily have to involve hate. But somehow, you continue to hate me because I choose to lead a sexless life. That is none of your business. I want best friends out of life, not "dates". I want a one or two best friends to just have a special bond with. Romance just isn't for me.
So why are you spreading lies about how evil you think I am? And Shadow girl was my best friend, not my girlfriend. I saw her as a pal, not a date. I thought we settled that in January.
But you can continue living in your fantasy world of "Oh, poor me! He's such a monster because he never had sex with me! He must have hated me! And all his offers to break up with me were because he's so and hated me! But he did that to make me unhappy and forced me to stay with him! And he tried controlling poor Shadow girl by tricking her into being his girlfriend and not letting her be herself!" Do it if it makes you feel better. But know that Shadow girl's family and I know the truth.
And the truth, in fact, may surprise you and Shadow girl.
Face it, deafmedicalpoet, it didn't work. MOVE ON! I wasn't evil, and at the time, you weren't either. It just didn't work! Why not be happy about your new boyfriend instead of being mad at me? It will lower your stress level a lot.
And Shadow girl, I'm not mad at you at all. You'll know why when the time is right, my friend.
moron!
