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DoofusMama said:
I went through same thing.... its hard.. but i let them go.. I moved on.. than burden on my shoulder..
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Doofus, sweetie, I tried that. It didn't work. So I brought it out into the open, let them know how I felt, and now the situation has resolved itself, and I can start my journey anew again.

Smiles!!!
 
i am glad that this person finally admitting u truth.. :) i undy how ur feeling give u some time to be healing :hug:
 
There you go dreamdeaf, finally that person admitted and looks like it's all right for now. I do hope that person will stop doing that stuff. Good luck there!
 
DreamDeaf said:
If you remember a few months ago, I created a thread...

http://www.alldeaf.com/showthread.php?t=20657

Well...now I gotta admit that this has been bothering me longer than I care to admit.

Its the knowledge that there were four (yes, 4) AllDeaf members that have intimate knowledge about this.

One has completely disappeared from sight from both here and from my life - I talked to a friend of mine (no connection to AllDeaf) that lives in that state - and was told that the person feels so quilty about it, that the person will not talk to me anymore, even on AIMs or email. That person has not even apologized to another friend of mine - my friend's name was used in sending the emails to me, suggested by the disappearing AD member.

One was not present when this happened - but I do know that the person does know what really happened.

Two were present when this was done - and both have said that the other did it, and still have not come up with the real story or facts to support their stories.

To this present day, it still bothers me that these four AllDeaf members knows who has done this to me, and yet, not one of them have told me the REAL story or even apologized to me for pulling this cruel prank on me.

Yes, I still continue to talk to three of these people - and one of them have started getting to know me better and emails me more often with what is going on.

One has kind of tapered off in emailing me - we still continue to talk.

One is still emailing me as if nothing is wrong, and often we talk about what is going on at that moment.

However, to tell you the truth...

THIS IS REALLY BOTHERING ME. I have not been able to go past the plateau - and I had been doing really good in my weight loss before this happened. I know it's been six (6) months since that happened, but I would like to know who really did this and why that person did that to me... if it was a prank, then it was a very cruel, thoughtless and heartless prank. If that person has a grievance against me, why not confront me directly and ask me for the truth? I am always willing to tell the truth - even when it may hurt our friendships.

I have been stuck on the same 10 pounds since October - and I would like to be able to put this behind me, so I can continue on the weight loss plan - the doctor has ordered me to lose weight and I do have to follow my doctor's orders...he has told me that I could require knee replacement surgery before I'm 50 years old, and recently he told me that this will take a toll on my life expectancy and that I must lose weight NOW.

Please, please, I beg you, all four of you, to come up to me with the truth - who, why and what reason. I am not going to desert you - yes, I will be hurt, but at least I will be able to put it behind me and move on. Our friendship may be strained for a while, but I am always able to put problems behind me and continue on with friendships.

However, the longer this silence and lying continues, I cannot guarantee that my friendship will continue - it is really hard on me and taking a toll on my health.

Thank you for listening.

DreamDeaf

P.S. Please no drama, negative comments, flaming or statments that says I am looking for drama in my life, which I am not. I am looking for a resolution to this situation that will enable me to put my soul at rest and finally move on.
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I have questions to ask you..I was reading your other thread you wrote about what happened...you quoted this:

I did some searching Saturday - I noticed that the IP number was the same for all the emails so I had it traced back to a location where I knew my friends were, and emailed them there. To my suprise, it was the same IP number
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Are you saying that someone was using your friends' ip address? The person who admitted to you today...is this the person that you saw the same ip number? Could you tell me how do I search for ip address? biggest thanks!

I am sorry you had to go through this...almost 2 years ago, i received email from another forum..someone send popped up and says "You are stupid" and it had music/singing in it..my hearing workers heard it...I felt really down and confused...so I understand exactly how you feel...

Come here and let me give you a hug.. :hug:
 
Kalista said:
Do not forgot the cats !!!! They are very IMPORTANT in your life !! Cats are the BEST medical to help people who are depressed and high blood pressure. Cats always cheer me up, they know how much I was unhappy or depressed. They always came to my lap and rub around my neck puurrrr to cheer me up. ;)
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yeppers kalista but plms is i am now allergic to cats

DD i hope this will get resolved and you get your health back

SMILE you have few of us as friends
 
:( OH I do remember that posting, and I thought that is was the most awful email anyone could send. I hope that you have found out who did it, so you can straighten it out with them peacefully, so this way, you can move on, and get off that plateau you have been on so you can lose the weight that you need to lose. :hug: :hug: :ily: dear friend!!!
 
DreamDeaf said:
The person who started it all with the emails has finally emailed me and apologized for the prank. I've accepted the apology, and forgiven the person. I still remain friends with this person, and hope that you all understand my decision to keep my friendship with this person, even if I was hurt badly by those emails.

I think that forcing this out into the open has helped - it was a last resort, I know, but I had to resolve this and then come to terms with what happened then and now.

I think I will finally be able to move on, although it will take me some time.

Thank you for all the love and support you've shown here.

Always yours,
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That's great to hear, I would have done the same thing DreamDeaf :hug:
 
DreamDeaf said:
The person who started it all with the emails has finally emailed me and apologized for the prank. I've accepted the apology, and forgiven the person. I still remain friends with this person, and hope that you all understand my decision to keep my friendship with this person, even if I was hurt badly by those emails.

I think that forcing this out into the open has helped - it was a last resort, I know, but I had to resolve this and then come to terms with what happened then and now.

I think I will finally be able to move on, although it will take me some time.

Thank you for all the love and support you've shown here.

Always yours,
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I'm glad that a person admitted his/her mistake and make first move to solve with you.

Everything solved then move on.... :cheers: :angel:
 
DreamDeaf said:
The person who started it all with the emails has finally emailed me and apologized for the prank. I've accepted the apology, and forgiven the person. I still remain friends with this person, and hope that you all understand my decision to keep my friendship with this person, even if I was hurt badly by those emails.

I think that forcing this out into the open has helped - it was a last resort, I know, but I had to resolve this and then come to terms with what happened then and now.

I think I will finally be able to move on, although it will take me some time.

Thank you for all the love and support you've shown here.

Always yours,
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That is great that you are now able to move on. However that person seriousily needs to think twice about what his definition of funny is!
Cruelity is more like it. Anyhow I am glad that things are dealt with, I know
unresolved issues can hinder our health, our families, our lives. You were brave to get this out, and now that it has been exposed it was dealt with.

Hugs :hug: :cheers: "A toast to moving forward and forgiving the past."
 
Cheri said:
That's up to you, DreamDeaf, If I was in your shoes, friendship would never be the same again. Once a liar would always be a liar. That's what I believe. ;)
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Same as with me.. that happened with me and my ex best friend... Now shes just a surface friend and I don't trust her anymore.....

DD- I am glad that everything is getting better now since the person admitted to you...
 
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