Sometimes I want to choke her

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Even thou me and the twins mom aren't together we get along pretty
well. We share this kids and all decisions. We decided about a year
ago we were going to get Brittany a pager and decided on a sidekick.

None of the T-moblie stores had them in stock so I was looking at
5 different places on the Internet. The best overall deal was on Amazon
and after the rebate it would cost 80 dollars. We would split the cost
of the pager and the monthly cost for the unlimited data service.

Well my daughter's mom got a wild hair up her ass and found a T-moblie
store here in town that had 3 in stock and bought 2 of them. One for
our daughter and 1 for herself. she paid 300 dollars each and got only a
50 dollar rebate on each one

To top it off on my daughters phone her mom not only got the data
service but got the phone service too. My daughter can speak but she
can't hear well enough to make sense of what the other person is saying.

On Amazon she could have gotten another 50 dollar rebate per phone
for getting the phone service and then they would have cost only 30
dollars a piece. She wound up spending 500 dollars when after rebates
she would only have had to pay 60 bucks.

I told her this was nuts and I was only going to pay what we agreed on.
She said that was fine and told me her mom was paying for the phones
but even if that is true why would she want her mom to pay all that money
when it wasn't necessary.

No I would never really choke her but I'll be dammed if I can understand
why she did this.
 
Great vent, bbnt! Get the negative energy out of your system. It seems that this is just a case of the communication system that has been broken down. The parents of the children needs to take the time to sit down and mutually agree on what needs to be done and have it in writing, ie. who pays for what and how much a month. I hope things works out for the best for everyone involved, especially for Brittany.
 
Good vent, bbnt. My husband has the same problems with his ex wife over getting things for their son and daughter. The mother keeps on splurging on things for them -- spoiling, to be exact...whereas hubby and I are unable to afford a lot of things due to bills and hubby paying $750/month in child support. :( (ex wife does that on purpose...buying them 'love' - bought new computers for them, got daughter nose and belly button pierced...son a new jeep for when he turns 17 in November...etcetc)

Anyway, hope you get this resolved soon between yourself and your ex over the deal she got on the sidekick for Brittany.
 
Whoa, bbnt and WaterRats. Good vents... hope things get better for the exes. :smash:
 
I feel for you bbnt, good vent! Hope things resolved soon!..
 
I understand exactly how you feel. Some people just don't take the time to think about the money they would actually save. For instance, my dad rather fix things himself. However, he doesn't do them well so he's constantly fixing them. Sometimes, he'll tell me... "Oh, it only cost me $75 to fix it when it would have cost me $200 to have someone else fix it." Well, he's fixed it himself over 5 times already... and is still having problems with it. Which is better? Paying someone $200 to fix it or paying $375 to fix it himself? :crazy:
 
VamPyroX said:
I understand exactly how you feel. Some people just don't take the time to think about the money they would actually save. For instance, my dad rather fix things himself. However, he doesn't do them well so he's constantly fixing them. Sometimes, he'll tell me... "Oh, it only cost me $75 to fix it when it would have cost me $200 to have someone else fix it." Well, he's fixed it himself over 5 times already... and is still having problems with it. Which is better? Paying someone $200 to fix it or paying $375 to fix it himself? :crazy:

VamPyroX, in your father's state of mind, he knows he can fix everything because he is the man of the household. It is the male ego speaking. You would feel this way when you are married and a father of children. VamPyroX, I do realize you think this is trivial that your father feels the need to fix things on his own but if I may say something to you. Just simply hug him and say "I understand, Dad." He will know what that means.
 
:grouphug: good vent bbnt! i uddy how u feel and what u are going thru -- some ex's can be like that -- seemingly hardheaded and not really want to listen to what the ex was explaining especially when involving the child(ren) -- hope u 2 actually agree on whos going to pay what for the service for Brittany
 
Socrates said:
VamPyroX, in your father's state of mind, he knows he can fix everything because he is the man of the household. It is the male ego speaking. You would feel this way when you are married and a father of children. VamPyroX, I do realize you think this is trivial that your father feels the need to fix things on his own but if I may say something to you. Just simply hug him and say "I understand, Dad." He will know what that means.
Actually, he used to pay other people to do it because he believed that it would save him money. However, he reached a mid-life crisis and got to the point where he's not thinking the same any more. He's become more religious and putting the family at risk. Now, my mom is making up for the loss with her jobs. Notice I emphasized jobs... with a 'S'?
 
VamPyroX said:
Actually, he used to pay other people to do it because he believed that it would save him money. However, he reached a mid-life crisis and got to the point where he's not thinking the same any more. He's become more religious and putting the family at risk. Now, my mom is making up for the loss with her jobs. Notice I emphasized jobs... with a 'S'?

I see the emphasis on the "s" for jobs and I do hope things will turn out for the best for you, VamPyroX. Think positive thoughts and yes, it is easier said than done.
 
whoa... she should wait and u and her can work on it and find a place best price to get sidekick. sheshh.. sound like she rush for that...
 
Smack that bitch!

I'd be so pissed if I was in that situation! Unfortunately, exes aren't very good at communicating because they always have to be right about something, even if it costed more money.
 
Deaf258 said:
Smack that bitch!

I'd be so pissed if I was in that situation! Unfortunately, exes aren't very good at communicating because they always have to be right about something, even if it costed more money.

"Violence begets violence."

I see someone has gotten up the wrong side of the bed this morning. :|
 
Socrates said:
"Violence begets violence."

I see someone has gotten up the wrong side of the bed this morning. :|


Well, I didn't wake up the wrong side of the bed. If you had an exwife, you'd understand, too!
 
Deaf258 said:
Well, I didn't wake up the wrong side of the bed. If you had an exwife, you'd understand, too!

I do understand how it is with an ex-spouse as I am an ex-spouse and it is best to keep the lines of communication open instead of having an attitude like yours. :P
 
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