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I'm curious to know if anyone here is struggled with shyness?...It seems I can't even overcome my own shyness around alot of people or my own family, like I can't even go up to most people and talk to them about anything and some people thinks I'm being stuck-up because I'm soo quiet and don't talk much but I'm more outgoing when it comes to those that I know so well or feel comfortable with...

There are times when I try to jump into a conversation between friends or family, they just looked at me like I don't make no sense or wasn't being funni, It makes me feel like I wanted to hide and cry , and there are times I couldn't bearly go up and talk to my own father either cause he soo smart and I feel like I'm going to say the wrong thing or asking such a stupid question or etc....I :dunno:, I really dunno how to overcome my own shyness around most people or even my family, and also I dunno how to make new friends if I am unable to approach them by talking to them...
 
i can be shy around a girl i really really like. but most of the time im out going.
 
Hello, My name is GalaxyAngelz, Yes, I admit I'm shyness-olic... Heck NO!

I can chi-chat anyone but depends.... My feelings... will overcome and break my ice shyness... If I talk way over crazy funny jokes.. easily adapt it and contuine blabbering.. Hope not am I talkactive ? :ugh:

Sound like AA group here.. Newest title... SA-olic.. LOL
 
Angel, you are not alone.

I have a case of crippling shyness ever since I was a little girl. While growing up, I was so painfully shy that I never talked to anyone, not even my own family members. I remember being so shy with my own father and grandfather. I would hide from them so we wouldnt have to talk. Isnt that weird? For most other situations, would just read a book and avoided people.

I was so shy throughout high school that on dates, I barely said one word. I bet these guys found me boring :zzz: I remember coming home crying from some dates because I felt mortified that I couldnt be outgoing and talk to him or his friends if we were at an event or party. It didnt help that my younger sister and older brother were very outgoing and popular at same high school. They assumed that I would be like them so they were surprised at how quiet and shy I was.

In recent years, I am not painfully shy but yes I am still shy. I just learn how to handle it and force myself to be more outgoing with people I barely know. I am even very shy on AD. I know that many people have thought or think I am a snob or stuck up because I am so quiet. It is frustrating to have people judge me harshly, not thinking that I could be shy. I know it is hard for other people to understand.

You are not alone. :) Hugs
 
Shyness is now known to be primarily of genetic origin, and there are a number of drugs that effectively treat it. If it bothers you, go talk to your primary care physician.
 
Levonian said:
Shyness is now known to be primarily of genetic origin, and there are a number of drugs that effectively treat it. If it bothers you, go talk to your primary care physician.
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You are correct. My grandmother has a case of crippling shyness too and I know that I got it from her.

But what kind of drugs would help treat it? Anti-anxiety meds? :dunno:
 
Levonian said:
Shyness is now known to be primarily of genetic origin, and there are a number of drugs that effectively treat it. If it bothers you, go talk to your primary care physician.
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I'm not sure where I got my shyness from, and no thanks for the drugs! ;)
 
Gemtun said:
Angel, you are not alone.

I have a case of crippling shyness ever since I was a little girl. While growing up, I was so painfully shy that I never talked to anyone, not even my own family members. I remember being so shy with my own father and grandfather. I would hide from them so we wouldnt have to talk. Isnt that weird? For most other situations, would just read a book and avoided people.

I was so shy throughout high school that on dates, I barely said one word. I bet these guys found me boring :zzz: I remember coming home crying from some dates because I felt mortified that I couldnt be outgoing and talk to him or his friends if we were at an event or party. It didnt help that my younger sister and older brother were very outgoing and popular at same high school. They assumed that I would be like them so they were surprised at how quiet and shy I was.

In recent years, I am not painfully shy but yes I am still shy. I just learn how to handle it and force myself to be more outgoing with people I barely know. I am even very shy on AD. I know that many people have thought or think I am a snob or stuck up because I am so quiet. It is frustrating to have people judge me harshly, not thinking that I could be shy. I know it is hard for other people to understand.

You are not alone. :) Hugs
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Yeah I hardly talk to my own family members either but only Cheri mostly....


Thanks Gemtun! :hug:
 
Gemtun said:
You are correct. My grandmother has a case of crippling shyness too and I know that I got it from her.

But what kind of drugs would help treat it? Anti-anxiety meds? :dunno:
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I'm shy too .. and it has genetic roots.. but the main reason why I'm shy now is mainly of my partial deafness.. my hoh prevents me joining in hearing world so I'm considered to be shy by my relatives.
 
ecevit said:
I'm shy too .. and it has genetic roots.. but the main reason why I'm shy now is mainly of my partial deafness.. my hoh prevents me joining in hearing world so I'm considered to be shy by my relatives.
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You may be right, I think it may be one of the reason why I'm shy cause of my deafness...but I rather to be like my sister Cheri, who isn't scare to speak her mind....
 
Gemtun said:
But what kind of drugs would help treat it? Anti-anxiety meds? :dunno:
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I’m no expert, but I think the drug of choice is Zoloft or one of the other SSRI’s. If you want more info, you can start by Googling for social anxiety and go from there.
 
Levonian said:
I’m no expert, but I think the drug of choice is Zoloft or one of the other SSRI’s. If you want more info, you can start by Googling for social anxiety and go from there.
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Yeah thats what I thought - SSRI s would be best for shyness. SSRIs are good for anti-anxiety also.
 
Gemtun said:
Yeah thats what I thought - SSRI s would be best for shyness. SSRIs are good for anti-anxiety also.
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Some people swear by Phenibut for promoting social disinhibition. In my own experience, it feels very similar to low-dose Valium. It definitely makes me more outgoing and relaxed in social situations. Unfortunately, tolerance builds up very rapidly in most people, so it can only be used two or three times a week. I love the stuff—it puts me in a wonderful mood and gives me tons of motivation. Mayflower says it makes her feel very relaxed, but slows down her thinking like alcohol does. Other people don’t like it—some people say it acts like alcohol or just puts them to sleep. Others claim that it does nothing or makes them nauseous. You might want to buy a small bottle and give it a try. Don’t take too much—start at 500 mg. and work your way up from there.
 
Levonian said:
Some people swear by Phenibut for promoting social disinhibition. In my own experience, it feels very similar to low-dose Valium. It definitely makes me more outgoing and relaxed in social situations. Unfortunately, tolerance builds up very rapidly in most people, so it can only be used two or three times a week. I love the stuff—it puts me in a wonderful mood and gives me tons of motivation. Mayflower says it makes her feel very relaxed, but slows down her thinking like alcohol does. Other people don’t like it—some people say it acts like alcohol or just puts them to sleep. Others claim that it does nothing or makes them nauseous. You might want to buy a small bottle and give it a try. Don’t take too much—start at 500 mg. and work your way up from there.
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Will that make a person an addict ? Or lifetime dependency ? I am curious to ask ...
 
CyberRed said:
Will that make a person an addict ? Or lifetime dependency ? I am curious to ask ...
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Possibly. Threads about Phenibut addiction are starting to pop up on the message boards. I think it’s mildly addictive, somewhat like caffeine. But I don’t think anybody is ever going to rob a bank or turn to prostitution to finance their Phenibut habit. Supposedly, keeping the dosage to a minimum will help with this.
 
Levonian said:
Possibly. Threads about Phenibut addiction are starting to pop up on the message boards. I think it’s mildly addictive, somewhat like caffeine. But I don’t think anybody is ever going to rob a bank or turn to prostitution to finance their Phenibut habit. Supposedly, keeping the dosage to a minimum will help with this.
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Ok, I got it. Thanks ! I will explore on this at website after banquet tonight. :)
 
Levonian said:
Some people swear by Phenibut for promoting social disinhibition. In my own experience, it feels very similar to low-dose Valium. It definitely makes me more outgoing and relaxed in social situations. Unfortunately, tolerance builds up very rapidly in most people, so it can only be used two or three times a week. I love the stuff—it puts me in a wonderful mood and gives me tons of motivation. Mayflower says it makes her feel very relaxed, but slows down her thinking like alcohol does. Other people don’t like it—some people say it acts like alcohol or just puts them to sleep. Others claim that it does nothing or makes them nauseous. You might want to buy a small bottle and give it a try. Don’t take too much—start at 500 mg. and work your way up from there.
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:eek: Thanks Levonian :)
It's high time to kill my shyness :D
 
ecevit said:
:eek: Thanks Levonian :)
It's high time to kill my shyness :D
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Unfortunately, the stuff is fairly expensive. The best way to take it is to buy it in bulk powder form and mix it with water. So far, the cheapest price I’ve found is from Bulk Nutrition. I usually buy the 100 gram bottle for $40. They’re an excellent supplier—I’ve ordered the stuff on Sunday and had it in the mailbox Wednesday, regular USPS Priority. If you’re going to try this, I strongly suggest that you start with a quarter teaspoon and work your way up from there. Dosages above half a teaspoon will probably have undesirable side effects, so be careful. Don’t drive until you know exactly how this stuff affects you.
 
^Angel^, I may not sound shy in here but I'm extremely shy IRL. Just a couple of years ago, My friend flirted with me and I kept telling him to stop and he kept on and on and saying my face looks like a lobster.. After a while, I got used to him and started to break the ice. I'm not shy when I'm around the people I know very well.

I don't like being in front of a camera when "SOMEONE" is taking the picture. I don't like being in front of VP but I have to sometimes right? When it comes to guys, I get really shy and won't talk at all.

Even with my family, I don't get shy but I have nothing to say to them cuz none of them can communicate with me.. they say I'm shy. so Maybe I am.

I rather stay shy than not being shy at all :mrgreen: Alot of guys like girls that are shy, right guys????
 
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