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someone told me that we are mean people why is that such a stereotype?
too sad i am very
 
someone told me that we are mean people why is that such a stereotype?
too sad i am very

By "we" did you mean Deaf/hoh people and by "people" did you mean hearing people? I'm a little bit confused.... why would they say deaf/hoh people are mean? On what basis would they say such thing to generalize the entire deaf/hoh community?

What happened? :hmm:
 
By "we" did you mean Deaf/hoh people and by "people" did you mean hearing people? I'm a little bit confused.... why would they say deaf/hoh people are mean? On what basis would they say such thing to generalize the entire deaf/hoh community?

What happened? :hmm:

She means "we" as we deaf people.

People told her that deaf people are mean.

yeah, we are very blunt. Especially when it come to hearing world. There's a saying treat others how you want to be treated, but yet we tend to treat people how they treat us sometimes.
 
She means "we" as we deaf people.

People told her that deaf people are mean.

yeah, we are very blunt. Especially when it come to hearing world. There's a saying treat others how you want to be treated, but yet we tend to treat people how they treat us sometimes.

yeah thats what i mean they said deaf/hoh or mean and i went off cause its not true but then again i had nothing to back myself up with. i had no idea ive seen people say b4 like we are better than others or we ignore them on purpose
 
yeah thats what i mean they said deaf/hoh or mean and i went off cause its not true but then again i had nothing to back myself up with. i had no idea ive seen people say b4 like we are better than others or we ignore them on purpose

Hint hint! ingore them! :) find other good hearing friends! I have two best friends that are hearings! :D
 
Part of it is due to hearies not understanding us....

for example:

Someone sees a person, they find out that this person is Dyslexic, so they immediately assume that this person is not smart. When in fact the dyslexic person is VERY smart, just cannot read words. This someone assumes that because this person is Dyslexic and stupid, they think it's okay to treat them meanly.

Or if they see a big tall person, and they look mean, people will assume they are mean, when in fact they are the nicest person to be around and is a gentle giant.

Hearies are going to make the worse assumption about us....ignore what they say and only stick to the ones that do know who we are.
 
yeah thats what i mean they said deaf/hoh or mean and i went off cause its not true but then again i had nothing to back myself up with. i had no idea ive seen people say b4 like we are better than others or we ignore them on purpose

:ty: just for explaining this to me. As a fully hearie myself I can only say... those hearing people (who treat you in a mean way) are MEAN through their behavior and total ignorants... just let them be... there's ignorant people all around the world :roll: People being raised on a stereotypical way have a weird way to perceive the world around them and are pure blunt!

Turn their back on them or laugh right at their face... up to you which one you choose!

Just my two cents :cool2:
 
Well, I may be mean but I are just being blunt on my feelings as a Deafie and Native American. This is just me. I don't care what people think. Everyone is different which I understand very well. We need to learn how to get along with different people. The people who think that we are mean or different are just ignorant. So best thing to do is to ignore them and just walk away laughing or just be amused within yourself on what the hearing people think of us. Just my :2c:. :cool2:
 
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I prefer to enjoy my life than being depressed over those tiny things.
 
cultural differences

In MY experience, I have found that Hearing GENERALLY equate what Deaf call "blunt" with RUDE. It is "polite" in Hearing culture to HINT or "beat around the bush" or to expect people to "read between the lines." To be INDIRECT. HOWEVER, it is considered NORMAL (expected?) in Deaf culture to be very direct. I have met a few Deaf/HOH people who are much more "indirect." They also tend to voice when they sign, use signing that is more PSE than ASL, and use English mouthings when no Hearing people (who don't sign) are present. I, myself, am much more comfortable with Deaf people who use ASL (or even gesture), and observe the "traditional" social rules of Deaf culture. Probably because these Deaf people were the first ones I met. I did not learn to sign until I was twenty, and then I felt like I "came alive." I experienced genuine caring, warmth, kindness and patience, and true friendship at a time in my life when I had been UTTERLY REJECTED by "the Hearing world." Looking back, I realize NOW that I became "enculturated" into the local Deaf world a long time ago. I have thought about this stuff for a very long time, but I have decided "to come out" as Deaf/HOH. I feel MUCH MORE "settled" about who I am now.
 
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