Question about autism boy with my daughter

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My girls and I have a fun party. I knew one of my friend’s son who has autism. He is 9 years old. My daughter is 7 years old and very bond with him! However, we only see them once to three times a year for 3 years. I do like him so much he is a sweet boy! Of course, when he was upset and did hurt to his older brother and parent as slap, punch and kicking but nothing seriously happened. Last Sat night, I watched my girl and the boy were fun times but Sometime too tough playful. She doesn't know that he is autism too

How I am explaining to my 7 years old daughter that he is autism? :hmm:
 
Phillips.... why not ask Jo?? She would know what to do regarding this...I'm sure Jo would be able to help ya on this somehow?? I hope..
 
Northstar said:
Phillips.... why not ask Jo?? She would know what to do regarding this...I'm sure Jo would be able to help ya on this somehow?? I hope..
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Cool!! ... Hope she can answer :)


I do not want scare to my daughter about the sweet boy! :D
 
Why not when she starts asking about his condition?

There are four kids next door to us, and one of them has high functioning autism. My older one likes to watch TV with him. They get along great. He acts pretty much normal except for a couple things that the kids(?)wouldn't notice for a long time. I'd explain autism to my kids if or when they ask me.:D
 
IslandBreeze07 said:
Why not when she starts asking about his condition?

There are four kids next door to us, and one of them has high functioning autism. My older one likes to watch TV with him. They get along great. He acts pretty much normal except for a couple things that the kids(?)wouldn't notice for a long time. I'd explain autism to my kids if or when they ask me.:D
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I do not know more about his condition! However, I remember they told me, he is mild autism :dunno2: I do see him hit his family. So I am concerning that, he will hit my daughter too? :hmm:
 
Phillips said:
My girls and I have a fun party. I knew one of my friend’s son who has autism. He is 9 years old. My daughter is 7 years old and very bond with him! However, we only see them once to three times a year for 3 years. I do like him so much he is a sweet boy! Of course, when he was upset and did hurt to his older brother and parent as slap, punch and kicking but nothing seriously happened. Last Sat night, I watched my girl and the boy were fun times but Sometime too tough playful. She doesn't know that he is autism too

How I am explaining to my 7 years old daughter that he is autism? :hmm:
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That's a good question. Has your daughter started asking you about your friend's son? For example, Did she ask you about him being rough with her, so and on?

Based on my experience encountering this situation explaining to other kids about my son being autistic, I usually would explain it in a different way (or phrasing it differently) in order for other kids to understand.

For instance, If you don't want to use the word "autism", You can say "There are children like *kid's name* that can't talk." (Rather than using the label itself). Most of the time a basic explanation is needed. You can say he/she may not look at you or talk to you, he/she does want to play. Even though he/she doesn't show it, to just talk to him/her gently and play with him/her anyway. You can also explain that his/her brain works differently.

Those are just some ideas how you can explain this to your daughter. For me, I usually would say "He is different and sometime he likes to be alone." Most of the time, the kids are accepting at it and knows that my son is different from the rest of the group. That has made things easier not only for my son but for others too.

Hope this helps, Good Luck. :)
 
No she didn’t ask me about him yet but Afraid that she will surprise when he hit her then will fear of him?

I will figure out how say to her later :)
 
Phillips said:
No she didn’t ask me about him yet but Afraid that she will surprise when he hit her then will fear of him?

I will figure out how to say to her. :)
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It would be best to explain your daughter ahead of time before the autistic child hits her. You can try and tell her "He may not know that it is right or wrong to hit you. If he hits you, tell one of us." By explaining to her in advance may help her understand that he is different than any of other kids.
 
Jolie77 said:
That's a good question. Has your daughter started asking you about your friend's son? For example, Did she ask you about him being rough with her, so and on?

Based on my experience encountering this situation explaining to other kids about my son being autistic, I usually would explain it in a different way (or phrasing it differently) in order for other kids to understand.

For instance, If you don't want to use the word "autism", You can say "There are children like *kid's name* that can't talk." (Rather than using the label itself). Most of the time a basic explanation is needed. You can say he/she may not look at you or talk to you, he/she does want to play. Even though he/she doesn't show it, to just talk to him/her gently and play with him/her anyway. You can also explain that his/her brain works differently.

Those are just some ideas how you can explain this to your daughter. For me, I usually would say "He is different and sometime he likes to be alone." Most of the time, the kids are accepting at it and knows that my son is different from the rest of the group. That has made things easier not only for my son but for others too.

Hope this helps, Good Luck. :)
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Gotta tell ya, Jolie...you are a very sensitive and insightful person. Your son is blessed to have you as a mom.
 
jillio said:
Gotta tell ya, Jolie...you are a very sensitive and insightful person. Your son is blessed to have you as a mom.
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Very sensitive? Perhaps but there's one thing I do know, I try to take things in stride whether it's good or bad. Thank you, though. :)
 
Jolie77 said:
Very sensitive? Perhaps but there's one thing I do know, I try to take things in stride whether it's good or bad. Thank you, though. :)
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Not sensitive in a defensive way....sensitive in an understanding way. Trust me...there are many parents that never develop the ability to see things from their child's perspective.
 
jillio said:
Not sensitive in a defensive way....sensitive in an understanding way. Trust me...there are many parents that never develop the ability to see things from their child's perspective.
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No, No, It wasn't my intention to make you think I had took it in an defensive way. I apologize if you had thought I took it in an defensive way.

Explaining autism to other children has always been something that I've encountered with. At first, I wasn't sure how to do this but the more I get into this situation, it has became easier as well.
 
Jolie77 said:
No, No, It wasn't my intention to make you think I had took it in an defensive way. I apologize if you had thought I took it in an defensive way.

Explaining autism to other children has always been something that I've encountered with. At first, I wasn't sure how to do this but the more I get into this situation, it has became easier as well.
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And, from reading your posts, I would say you do it well.
 
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