>>I just love how I automatically get classified with internet stalkers and perverts because I offered to send a pair of plugs to her.<<
This not the case, This was just an example on my part that this is HOW the preverts operate, it's different from saying you are one.
By this example I wanted to point out to you that a mature person, responsible person, would write something like this:
"Dear Country Girl if you want ear gauged that much let me talk to your parents. maybe I can reassure them about safety, pros and cons of this procedure and IF they'll give you permission to do so, I'll help you.
tell your parents my address and ph# is .................. "
THAT'S how MATURE person would behave.
You, on the other hand, despite taking care of yourself by years are still thinikng like an immature one.
For starters, again-
1.you encourage a minor to disobey her parents
2. you offer something that is considered a BIG NO-NO - an offer a minor to contact you, a stranger from Internet - something you should TEACH HER never ever do!!
3.By encouraging her to go against her parents now, you may initiate further acts of disobeying on her part which not neccessarily will involve something so trivial as ear gauging.
Now, I am getting tired of this ping-pong game you do,
but for one more time:
>>How do you know she'd even want them to close up? <<
I may also very well ask- and how do you know she WON'T regret her decision one day? you still GUARANTEE?
And see, that's where you DON'T get it:
>>If she was going to have her ears pierced, yeah, she'd have to have parental permission. <<
You see, like it or not, she DOES need her parental permission, even if there is no law against ear gauging there is one that prevent to do so to ANYBODY WHO'S underage.
You should take a clue and start thinking.
And I don't care what her parents reasons are, because what is the crux of the whole thing is that YOU ENCOURAGE a 15 y old child to DISOBEY her parents. She needs permission either way. Get it?
>>while 15 year old is still consider underage by law, it does not mean she is a child. <<
It means EXACTLY that.
No matter how mature and responsible the 15y. old is, the parents are still respponsible for it and the child SHOULD OBEY.
of course extreme cases where there is abuse etc is an exception, but forbiding to gauge one's ears is NOT abuse.
COUNTRY GIRL:
I know the arguments and all seems to be funny to you, and I am not surpised you side with Cental either.
But consider this:
If you are intelligent, reasonable girl like I think you are (you did declined an offer from a stranger), before you go full ahead consider please this:
that most of us old grumpies have been 15, 19, 25, 35 and even 45, 55 once and not all of us are squares.
Just because I think ear gauging is ugly does not mean I don't understand some people think it's pretty. I myself was into punky-gothicy fashion once and even now I am thinking of getting my hair dreadlocked.
So you see, I do not squirm or recoil in horror when seeying pierced lips or brows, in fact I think this is pretty.
But sweetie from my own experience - what I thought I wanted FOR SURE once, now I am whew -ing with relief I dind't do back then , and you have no guarantee you won't feel same as me one day.
Talk to your parents. But really TALK. Tell them to convince you why shouldn't you, besides that they don't think it's pretty, and in turn, try convince THEM why should you.
Apart from this, give your self more time. I am pretty sure, judging by what's on the streets. ear gauging and other forms of body modifications still be there in years to come. Give yourself at least a year. If you STILL want to have gauges after a year passes, go for it.
Don't forget to tell your parents that, too.
I hope you'll all achieve some medium ground, but if your parents still say no - please, listen to them. Even if you feel their reasons are invalid, they are still your parents and until you bacome an adult legally they are responsible for you. You wouldn't want to hurt your parents, would you?
Fuzzy
ps BTW I know Cental is being very cool with gauging but by encouraging you to "think for yourself" he is not really doing that- what he is doing he is encouraging you to do against your parents which is NOT "thinking for yourself".
because who knows what would you think if you REALLY thought for yourself.
also, encouraging minor to disobeying your parent IS NOT a GOOD FRIEND advice. I am sure you know it.