OMG - Parents want to give their firstborn away!

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Just when I've thought I hav heard it alll......
I got this from an advice column I was skimming through earlier. This is insane! Would this be grounds for the mother losing her child because it is quite obvious she's not in a stable mental state to make rational decisions.

Anyway, here is the link:
When You Think You've Heard Everything - Yahoo! News
 
This woman definately has some things going on that need to be addressed. Sounds as if poor parenting skills are responsible for her first born's misbehavior. No doubt, she will repeat the same mistakes with the next two.

Sad.
 
Wow, I'm speechless. I just cannot imagine giving away my firstborn or any of my kids.

It's disheartening because it seems the mother didn't give an effort to try to make it better by focusing on her oldest child's needs, and to heed to the advices of going to a family counseling. According to the article, the mother claims she wants to do it because the son is active. Well, of course, kids are active and they are supposed to be active. That alone shouldn't be a ground for giving away the kid. If she can't be able to mend to the kid, she should at least try keeping the kid inside within the family rather than warding the kid off to a foster care.

It's sad, really.
 
My mom was forced to give away her first-born cuz she made him deaf. :roll:
 
:( - mother & step-dad decided to give firstborn away... Those situation remind me of my mother but it's last of 5th children, not firstborn.

My mother decided to give her up for an adoption when she was 7 years old. I last saw her when she was 7 years old... She will be 25 years old this November. I know her age because of 20 years part between her and me. Everyone thought I'm mother when I pramed her everywhere... I wondering about her sometimes. I still have some photos of her... :(
 
That is pretty sad thread to read.

VamPyroX said:
My mom was forced to give away her first-born cuz she made him deaf. :roll:
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That is sad, I wonder if your mom regret it now.

Liebling:-))) said:
:( - mother & step-dad decided to give firstborn away... Those situation remind me of my mother but it's last of 5th children, not firstborn.

My mother decided to give her up for an adoption when she was 7 years old. I last saw her when she was 7 years old... She will be 25 years old this November. I know her age because of 20 years part between her and me. Everyone thought I'm mother when I pramed her everywhere... I wondering about her sometimes. I still have some photos of her... :(
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I hope you will find you sister one day.
 
~SG~ said:
That is pretty sad thread to read.

That is sad, I wonder if your mom regret it now.

I hope you will find you sister one day.
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I dunno... I haven't seen her for 25 years. :dunno:
 
I cant imagine willingly giving up a child that has been with you for a number of years to the foster system, just because they are 'active' or because you have a new baby.

I feel sorry for these kids who are forced out because their parents have a newborn and they take it to the extremes saying 'we've loved you for 7 years, but we can't love you anymore because we have a new baby, and having you here is just too much for us...'

Sad, pathetic, and beyond words. The ideal situation here would be for the boy to be given to his Grandparents, and the court orders the couple to NOT have anymore children and the entire family must undergo counseling, and the parents are required to take a parenting class.
 
I'd rather the mother give up the child than keep the child who will mostly like endure years of abuse.

I wish my parents gave me up.
 
But the foster system takes any form of stability out of the child's life and they are often shuffled around like luggage from one home to another. And given that the boy is already 7 he'll have a hard time finding an adoptive family because most want to adopt newborns. While the older ones are shuffled through the system and endure abuse all mental, physical, and emotional.

I cant help but think of all the horror stories of kids who were raised in the foster system. They are usually ill equipped to be independent and they end up struggling their entire adult lives.
 
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