Need to VENT..

[Reba]

LoL, I need to update my profile. Jeremy and I was married in court house when I was pregnant with Nathan. We never had a wedding.

I guess people (myself included) were confused because you said that you never had a wedding. If you are now married, you actually had a wedding; you just didn't have a big fancy wedding ceremony.

 

[MilitaryGirl83]

Jeremy and I never wanted to marry in a courthouse but my dad talked us into marrying right away because I was pregnant with Natha.. even though we love eachother. We wanted to wait to save up some money for the wedding. Ah well.. I told dad how we really felt but he didnt say anything. Now we are gonna have a renewal wedding and celebrate it. We also never had a honeymoon so we are going to Sc next year in October.

I guess people (myself included) were confused because you said that you never had a wedding. If you are now married, you actually had a wedding; you just didn't have a big fancy wedding ceremony.

 

[CrazyMomma]

Well, you are just like me.. I was pregnant with my son, and I got married when I was 6 months old (I was HUGE pregnant woman) and we only did got married in church with a preacher, and my sister as my maid of honor and my husband has his best friend as his best man, and we didn't have a lot of friends or family show up for our wedding. We never had a real or big or fancy wedding, I didn't have a wedding dress. I wore light yellow dress and my husband wore his St. Patrick tie and suit (we got married on St. Patrick's Day), and I never had a honeymoon and I never had a bridal shower. So why need all? My husband and I work so hard and we make money and brought things for my house, kitchen, bathroom, etc.

3 months later, my son was born, and we decided it was the best thing in our lives, and we communicates and we love each other, and we decided, we are going to stick together for long time til we get old.

Not everyone want a big fancy wedding.. My husband and I were worry about money, cause of the baby and the homes we brought.

Look at my sister, she is getting married in October, and she is having in Myrtle Beach, SC, and she is getting all the fancy wedding, it just made my mom and dad crazy and they are upset that my sister demanded them to pay for her wedding in Myrtle Beach. I am glad we paid on our own, my parents didn't pay for us. My mom is starting to worry about, she has to pay $18,000 for her wedding, that is for hotel, wedding arrangement, dress, etc, so how does my mom get that money? How can she going to pay for her bills, rent? I yelled at her, and she need to start looking for anything that is CHEAP and I told her that my sister NEED to pay of herself, not Mom and Dad. She walked away. Now, she moved the date to October, and I won't be able to get off from work, and I don't think me and my son will be able to make to show in her wedding. It's expensive in October...

If I am in your shoes, I would forget the renewal, and worry about the house... And save up the money and go to honeymoon, just two of you, and leave the kids at home with grandma or whoever...

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Which one is more important.. a wedding or house in SC?

I only give you an answer to my opinion because you deserve honest opinion from us before you can decide yourself what you do...

Yes, I know you both get married in a court room (Register Office). I begin notice that many people rather to get married in a court room (Register Office) than have a big and fancy wedding because of money issue.

At my time, we have a big and fancy wedding (not luxury as what Crazymomma mentioned in her post about her sister). My Dad and hubby's parents pay part and we pay part on our wedding. We limit our wedding wishes instead of luxury because we know Dad & my parent in law can't afford to set luxury wedding.

I still have wedding dress here and look at wedding dress and said to myself "what a waste because I only wear once". I should hire wedding dress from store instead of buy wedding dress...

I would consider house first then have renew your wedding what you wish later when I'm in your shoe.

 

[Liebling:-)))]

Well, you are just like me.. I was pregnant with my son, and I got married when I was 6 months old (I was HUGE pregnant woman) and we only did got married in church with a preacher, and my sister as my maid of honor and my husband has his best friend as his best man, and we didn't have a lot of friends or family show up for our wedding. We never had a real or big or fancy wedding, I didn't have a wedding dress. I wore light yellow dress and my husband wore his St. Patrick tie and suit (we got married on St. Patrick's Day), and I never had a honeymoon and I never had a bridal shower. So why need all? My husband and I work so hard and we make money and brought things for my house, kitchen, bathroom, etc.

3 months later, my son was born, and we decided it was the best thing in our lives, and we communicates and we love each other, and we decided, we are going to stick together for long time til we get old.

Not everyone want a big fancy wedding.. My husband and I were worry about money, cause of the baby and the homes we brought.

Very true, I prefer to focus our life than worry about fancy wedding. I would do the same as you.

Look at my sister, she is getting married in October, and she is having in Myrtle Beach, SC, and she is getting all the fancy wedding, it just made my mom and dad crazy and they are upset that my sister demanded them to pay for her wedding in Myrtle Beach. I am glad we paid on our own, my parents didn't pay for us. My mom is starting to worry about, she has to pay $18,000 for her wedding, that is for hotel, wedding arrangement, dress, etc, so how does my mom get that money? How can she going to pay for her bills, rent? I yelled at her, and she need to start looking for anything that is CHEAP and I told her that my sister NEED to pay of herself, not Mom and Dad. She walked away. Now, she moved the date to October, and I won't be able to get off from work, and I don't think me and my son will be able to make to show in her wedding. It's expensive in October...

$18,000??? too much!

No your parents don't have to pay $18,000 to fulfill your sister's wish if your parents can't afford. I would suggest your sister to sit to have a good talk with her parents and tell them how much they can afford to pay her wedding. What about her fiancee's parents? If she want luxury and fancy wedding than your parents want to give her then she pay her own and part of parents's and fiancee's parents money, not that $18,000. I rather to spent things for my house than $18,000 for that just wedding...

If I am in your shoes, I would forget the renewal, and worry about the house... And save up the money and go to honeymoon, just two of you, and leave the kids at home with grandma or whoever...

Yes I second that.