Need to VENT..

I don't mind money and gifts but really I would love to get things I need like for household things and the kitchen! :whistle: We are having a honeymoon in Mytrle Beach, Sc.. maybe on the way we can stop by in Charleston.. whatcha think?

Reba said:
Yes, except about the gifts. I don't think they get gifts at a renewal ceremony. The emphasis of a renewal is the public vows, not getting stuff. It's different from a wedding.
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We are gonna have a wedding and reception at the same place.. at the manison in Alsip, Illinois :)

coloravalanche said:
OK...If you paid for wedding things...is it possible for you to take it with you to SC? If not, you could just get refund back.

My suggestion is that if you and Jeremy are happy and feel peace to move to SC...Then I would go for it...You two could move to SC then have a wedding there..:dunno:

Are you and Jeremy living together? If you two really want to move to SC..then why not have a simple wedding in Illinois like have it in ur backyard or park or something...very small wedding...not so expensive...or elope wedding? :dunno:

Have you compared the prices to live in SC? Jobs? I hope everything works out for you and Jeremy! :hug:
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So what? Why need a wedding??

I got married with a piece of paper and signed it, and I only had my 1 sister and my husband had his best friend and we had a preacher married us and 10 minutes ceremony and it was done. We don't need a wedding. It only save us 200 dollars for the wedding (100 for the rings, 50 for preacher and 50 for marriage license, etc.)

I am not thinking about renew the vow till we hit our 25th years or 30th years of marriage.
 
I thought the same as Crazymomma!

Why should you renew the vow when you already get married few years ago?

I thought the same as Reba as well.


I rather to focus my family life and new home than worry about renew the vow because you will alway renew your vow...

First of all I want to have few question for you since you mentioned that you already paid everything to renew your vow with Jeremy.

When will you and Jermery renew the vow?

When will you and Jermery move out to other state from your area?

I would focus house first until I found what I really like then married and then move out to new house.
 
Uhh.. didn't you read my previous post? I said that Jeremy and I never had a wedding.. we got married in the court house.. long story! Jeremy and I am gonna have a renewal wedding so it's our choice not yours!

CrazyMomma said:
So what? Why need a wedding??

I got married with a piece of paper and signed it, and I only had my 1 sister and my husband had his best friend and we had a preacher married us and 10 minutes ceremony and it was done. We don't need a wedding. It only save us 200 dollars for the wedding (100 for the rings, 50 for preacher and 50 for marriage license, etc.)

I am not thinking about renew the vow till we hit our 25th years or 30th years of marriage.
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We will renew the nows on Sept 30, 2007..our 4 years anniversity. Did you read my previous post? We got married in the court house, never had a wedding.

We decided to move to South Carolina when I am finished with college. For now we are moving in another apartment or rental house or townhome for now until I am done with college and plenty of money for a BIG MOVE to South Carolina. :)

Liebling:-))) said:
I thought the same as Crazymomma!

Why should you renew the vow when you already get married few years ago?

I thought the same as Reba as well.


I rather to focus my family life and new home than worry about renew the vow because you will alway renew your vow...

First of all I want to have few question for you since you mentioned that you already paid everything to renew your vow with Jeremy.

When will you and Jermery renew the vow?

When will you and Jermery move out to other state from your area?

I would focus house first until I found what I really like then married and then move out to new house.
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FelixKat930 said:
Uhh.. didn't you read my previous post? I said that Jeremy and I never had a wedding.. we got married in the court house.. long story! Jeremy and I am gonna have a renewal wedding so it's our choice not yours!
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CrazyMomma, Liebling, and I DID read your posts, and we understand the situation. You requested advice, "Which one is more important", so we are giving it.

Some of us are advising that a wedding ceremony is not as important as the marriage and life that follow. If you don't have lots of money to spend, then you have to set priorities. Right now, it seems, buying a house would be more urgent than a big ceremony.

If you feel spiritually that you should have a public church vow renewal, then that's fine. Just keep it simple but deeply meaningful. You don't need to spend lots of money for that.

I'm afraid some people that you invite might think you are just seeking gifts if you plan a huge wedding ceremony.

Of course, renewal ceremonies don't include bachelor/bachelorette parties, bridesmaids, groomsmen, showers, or gifts. Those things would be very inappropriate.

If you just miss the opportunity to wear a gown, you can rent a gown and tux, and have a very nice formal portrait taken. That would be cheaper than buying a gown, and it will still give you something to keep and share with family and friends.
 
What about your first wedding?

CrazyMomma said:
So what? Why need a wedding??

I got married with a piece of paper and signed it, and I only had my 1 sister and my husband had his best friend and we had a preacher married us and 10 minutes ceremony and it was done. We don't need a wedding. It only save us 200 dollars for the wedding (100 for the rings, 50 for preacher and 50 for marriage license, etc.)

I am not thinking about renew the vow till we hit our 25th years or 30th years of marriage.
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CrazyMomma said:
...I am not thinking about renew the vow till we hit our 25th years or 30th years of marriage.
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Hubby and I have already passed our 25th and 30th anniversaries. We figured there is no need to renew our vows now--I think we've stuck to them pretty good without a "renewal". :D
 
First house, and then renewal weddin' -- IMO. I think it would be nice to invite some friends over to a new house after renewal weddin'. Maybe, you would like to show off your new house after renewal weddin'. :dunno: Whatcha think ? lol
 
FelixKat930 said:
What about your first wedding?
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:confused: My first wedding? My first wedding was BIG mistake. I was forced to married that jerk... We had a HUGE wedding, 350 people, and I didn't want a BIG wedding, and the first husband did wanted a BIG wedding. I later DID divorced him 14 month later (1 years 2 months).

I did got pregnant with the man I was with now who became my husband now, we only had 15 people in my 2nd wedding. My husband only invited his mom and dad and I only invited my mom and dad, my 2 sisters, 1 brother and my husband's sister and her husband and her daughter and my husband's best friend and the preacher. That was it. I didn't want a HUGE wedding. I wish I have got married in courthouse... My husband and I have been together for 5 years.

I agreed with other people, Reba, Lieblings, WHY renew the vow again? Are you and Jeremy going to stay together forever? Are you and Jeremy going to get divorce in 5 or 10 years later from now? Never know...

If you want to buy a house or move to another state, start worry about the house. Buying a House is really expensive than a wedding.
 
Reba said:
Hubby and I have already passed our 25th and 30th anniversaries. We figured there is no need to renew our vows now--I think we've stuck to them pretty good without a "renewal". :D
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Yea, sometime people do and sometime people don't.


I don't know if we would make to our 25th or 30th years of wedding.. :dunno: One of us or both of us might die before we reach our 25th or 30th years of marriage.. Who knows.. We are good with our vow we said each other 5 years ago and we were meant to be... We probably won't renewal our vow.
 
I would suggest you to buy a new house. I think that it is ridiculous for you to renew your vow. You got married four years ago. That's it.

Hope that you and your husband will find an easy solution. I believe that it has nothing to do with your plenty of money. It's your time and your energy (including your husband). Wish you a good luck.
 
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CrazyMomma said:
:confused: My first wedding? My first wedding was BIG mistake. I was forced to married that jerk... We had a HUGE wedding, 350 people, and I didn't want a BIG wedding, and the first husband did wanted a BIG wedding. I later DID divorced him 14 month later (1 years 2 months).

I did got pregnant with the man I was with now who became my husband now, we only had 15 people in my 2nd wedding. My husband only invited his mom and dad and I only invited my mom and dad, my 2 sisters, 1 brother and my husband's sister and her husband and her daughter and my husband's best friend and the preacher. That was it. I didn't want a HUGE wedding. I wish I have got married in courthouse... My husband and I have been together for 5 years.

I agreed with other people, Reba, Lieblings, WHY renew the vow again? Are you and Jeremy going to stay together forever? Are you and Jeremy going to get divorce in 5 or 10 years later from now? Never know...

If you want to buy a house or move to another state, start worry about the house. Buying a House is really expensive than a wedding.
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I think she wants a REAL weddin'. They were married in court house and that court house wasn't a REAL weddin'.
 
FelixKat930 said:
Jeremy and I really want to move to SC to have a house but what about having a wedding in Illlinois? We already had some things that we paid for.. should we keep it or fuck the wedding or have them both? I don't know what to do.. sigh!

My family wont help us with everything.. :mad:

Which one is more important.. a wedding or house in SC? :dunno:
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I thought that you told me that you were married to Jeremy?
If I were you I would hold off the wedding since your still young just like the rest of us... You got all of your life to have the "PERFECT" wedding.. I would buy the dream house you want in South Carolina and get settle in with your childrens and etc....
But you can always have a wedding anywhere and anytime, a house you can't~Follow your dream first and maybe untill then you will figure out if you still want to get married or not... Sometimes it's meant to be just boyfriend/girlfriend instead of being a hubby and wife... Just take your time and focus on the house you want and make it a warm home for your family...
About family not helping you out more its prolly because you are a adult and there is some things you have to handle yourself and it's part of life, They got bills and etc they got to pay just like you and your family.. They may help out "some" which you need to be thankful for...
I hope the best for you all!
PS Don't renew your vows since you never know if your going to split I agree with some of the ppl on here....
It's my 2 cent!! :)
 
CyberRed said:
First house, and then renewal weddin' -- IMO. I think it would be nice to invite some friends over to a new house after renewal weddin'. Maybe, you would like to show off your new house after renewal weddin'. :dunno: Whatcha think ? lol
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That's a good idea. Have a house warming party! :P
 
my general opinion, i think reception is better! Renew vow? u already married. I just see why you want renew vow? You both just recently married. And, not need a wedding. If you wanna a wedding, you should have to wait than get go ahead and get marry at courthouse. Well, whatever you wants to do, and be happy then. I think u need slow down abit, since read ur threads, and u just like get things done at once.

Better off take one at step, so it won't go wrong, if you want things right and won't be regret in ur life. And, better off to save money for put down for the house, and would save u more money. By the way, let me know how ur reception doing? or wedding? and house? I'm sure alots of dreaming to come true, good luck girl!
 
Reba said:
I'm confused. I thought you and Jeremy were already married? Your biography says, "I am married now to Jeremy and expecting our first baby on May 19, 2004!" :confused:
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I was confuse too but oh well :hyper:
 
LoL, I need to update my profile. Jeremy and I was married in court house when I was pregnant with Nathan. We never had a wedding. :(

Cassbugs said:
I was confuse too but oh well :hyper:
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