Some of you may remember the thread i started last month about meeting this guy whose brother is Deaf and he knows sign. This is great for me since my best friend is Deaf and i am in the Deaf community all the time and really am in it more than the gay community. He told me that the same genetic thing that makes his brother Deaf is causing him to go Deaf. He found out from an audie 2 years ago. We were at a Deaf friend of mine's party this weekend and he saw a friend of his that he hasn't seen in years. When they were in school his friends hearing was going. Now, just 4 years after school, the friend is completely Deaf in one ear and 80% in the other. This guy can barely sign. When we were going back to my house after the party my boyfriend was very upset. He saw this guy and saw himself. One, he doesn't want to be Deaf and not be able to sign like a Deaf person and right now his signing isn't that great. Two, here is this guy who was totally in the hearing world now he is totally in the Deaf world but has very few Deaf friends and doesn't sign well, although he lip reads great. Both things scared him. Especially the trasition from the hearing world to the Deaf world. What will that mean for him? How will his life change? all of these things are unknowns and as humans we are scared of the unknown. My Deaf friends cannot really help him because they have been Deaf from birth and do not know what it is like to reach adult hood and become Deaf. The audie first told him in 10 years he will be Deaf, then it was 8 and now it is looking more like 5 years. He says he feels like a horrible person for being scared of something that my friends and his brother and some of his friends are. But those Deafies i have discussed this with i said, imagine you are told you are going blind. They said that is totally different. Not to a sighted hearing person. Loosing one is just as much as the other. So what we have started doing is signing a lot of our conversations. Helping him with his signing is important to me because that is something that will be so important in his life to come. I thought it was just good since i have so many Deaf friends, but really he will need this to live well.