MOTHERS-IN-LAW: The facts

My Mother-in-law died long before I married to my DH, he got a step-mum who bring him up for 9 years until he met me.

My step-mother in law, at first I don't like her because she was pushy lady, she want to see my wedding dress before the wedding, telling my mother she want to think of me as her daughter after seeing I left UK for Australia, I thought to myself that I only have one mother no one will replace her!

To my amazement she book a course to learn Auslan sign language to learn to talk with me which surprised me, and we communicated each other well, and sadly she died of bowel cancer in her 40's, and I only got to know her for about 5 years and my daughters don't remember her at all.

I miss her.
 
My husband's mother and stepmother are my BIGGEST nightmare from hell! :eek2: :-o
 
CrazyRedHeadWV said:
My husband's mother and stepmother are my BIGGEST nightmare from hell! :eek2: :-o
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Can you elaborate please??? If it is not to personal? :smoking:

I could go on for days about my wife's demented family... :rifle:
 
i was never married but i was THIS close to being married.. but i had a "milfh"... she was VERY ANAL.. and BUTTED IN all the time..sheesh... my ex fiance was MOMMA'S BOY- BIG TIME... she disliked me for no reason..as she always competed with me.. i felt like we were at war all the time.. sheesh.. or competiting for his attention.. if we had a problem.. he would run to her crying like a baby.. it really annoyed me.. and she spoiled him too.. (they were loaded) so he always got what he wanted even monthly allowances of 1k!!! sheesh... i felt that we had no privacy or independency..

when we were planning our wedding.. she wanted to pick out my dress, the reception and all that when my parents were going to pay for it.. she had a fit.. it made me miserable.. and she didnt believe me that he was treating me like shit and abusing me and all that.. his sisters were supportive of me and believed me.. IMAGINE THAT??? that family was so FOOKED UP.. VERY :cold: PEOPLE... no affections and all that.. :eek:

i am sooo damn glad i am GOT OUT OF THAT FAMILY... cuz i come from a VERY NICE, WARM AND LOVING FAMILY.. (they are not perfect lol) but far a lot better than his!! ugh!


someday i hope to have a nice mil... (sigh)
 
C.C.Sinned said:
Can you elaborate please??? If it is not to personal? :smoking:

I could go on for days about my wife's demented family... :rifle:
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Both of them (my mother-in-law & stepmother-in-law) are so bossy, tacky, picky, and pushy about everything what I have done and when they come to my house, they all just complains that everything doesn't fit or match to the room. They remind me of the mother of George's girlfriend/wife in "George the Jungle" movie. Both of them always "butt-in" to everything what we did and what we have done. Both of them just love to tattle about everything which we don't want to hear about it. Sometime I wish I want to strangle both of them. My father-in-law is nice, but he is soooo bossy and so stubborn. Everytime I talk to him, and he just like he didn't listen to me or hear what I talk to him. He sometime make me wanna to slap him. :roll:

My husband and I have problem with them since our son was born, cause they don't pamper or anything to our son, they pampers and give money and everything to their 3 granddaughters, not their only grandson. Oh well. :ugh:
 
I get along superb with my MIL. I think she bonds with me more than her own sons (she has no daugher so maybe I was her god's sent gift!). I know MORE personal stuff about her included her sex life that I cannot bear telling to my husband (her son) because I don't want to corrupt his pure image of his own mother-- who wants to know about their own mother wearing a thong?! :lol2:

I am glad that I am getting along with the in-laws. I do see them as my family. My husband does get along with my mom... my bro... sort of. I don't know-- he never complains about them but my family is full of nutcases so I will understand if he is not close to my family.

I am glad I met the in-laws-- they give me hopes that it is possible for having ONE sane family in the wide world! AND THAT I AM JOINING *THAT* FAMILY!
 
CrazyRedHeadWV said:
My husband and I have problem with them since our son was born, cause they don't pamper or anything to our son, they pampers and give money and everything to their 3 granddaughters, not their only grandson. Oh well. :ugh:
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I know how you feel. My Wife's real Father & GrandMom. Do that to my Son. They don't bother with him very much. My boy is a really great kid. Not bragging. Everybody loves him like Teachers. He is a very sweet, polite, well mannered and friendly little boy. However GrandMom and BioFather. Shower my Nephew with all the attention. He is a mean little Brat. These two don't even like my Wife. Makes me feel bad for my Wife & Son. I'm happy they don't like me. Well the best word to fit is Detest. They hate everything about me. Which makes me feel a whole lot better about myself.
Sort of a funny note. After the day I met my Wife's BioDad & GrandMom. GrandMom went around talking about what she thought of me. She thought I was a MURDERER!!! :rofl: She thought because of the tattoos, piercings goatee and leather. That I looked like a hatchet killer. :rofl: That I must have killed someone. :rofl: Judging people is not smart...
 
C.C.Sinned said:
I know how you feel. My Wife's real Father & GrandMom. Do that to my Son. They don't bother with him very much. My boy is a really great kid. Not bragging. Everybody loves him like Teachers. He is a very sweet, polite, well mannered and friendly little boy. However GrandMom and BioFather. Shower my Nephew with all the attention. He is a mean little Brat. These two don't even like my Wife. Makes me feel bad for my Wife & Son. I'm happy they don't like me. Well the best word to fit is Detest. They hate everything about me. Which makes me feel a whole lot better about myself....
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That is very sad. :( You didn't mention your parents, but I hope they are being good grandparents for your son.

Even if (I said if) you were the worst man on earth, the grandparents should love your son even more, not less. I happen to have a wonderful son-in-law, but if I didn't I would show even more love and attention (if that is possible) for my grandsons. And a grandparent should NEVER criticize a son/daughter-in-law in front of the grand kids. Also, I never criticize any other in-laws in front of the children. Kids don't need to hear adult criticisms or arguments.
 
Reba said:
That is very sad. :( You didn't mention your parents, but I hope they are being good grandparents for your son.

Even if (I said if) you were the worst man on earth, the grandparents should love your son even more, not less. I happen to have a wonderful son-in-law, but if I didn't I would show even more love and attention (if that is possible) for my grandsons. And a grandparent should NEVER criticize a son/daughter-in-law in front of the grand kids. Also, I never criticize any other in-laws in front of the children. Kids don't need to hear adult criticisms or arguments.
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My Parents are great with my Son. They live about a mile from us. So He sees them everyday. They spoil him a bit to much. They are awesome. They treat all their grandchildren with equal love & respect. Even my Mother-In-Law & her husband. They may not like me. Still they are great with my Son. They treat him wonderfully. Just BioDad & GrandMom treat him poorly. They are the ones missing out. It's their loss. My Son turns 7 in one week. He is starting to realize these things now. So My wife & I are on top of handling it. Making sure he understands the problem. Also trying to help create the coping skills to deal with it... :cool:
 
I don't have any in-law. My hubby's parents died when he was very younger. My hubby was raised by his Aunt and Uncle. They were so nice and sweet people I've met. His Uncle and Aunt died in 9 years ago.
 
*vouching for Katzie's MILFH*

I have no problems with my MIL/FIL... they are pretty shy and their little quirks that I can easily live with. I applaud them for trying to communicate with me, and taking an interest in me. At first, we all were nervous about each other.. no joking... but we are used to each other. :) FIL shakes my hand everytime I see him, and I like to slap my MIL in the back. LOL. Gently, I promise.

My husband adores my mother... my father is a different story, although we have NO real issue with him.. we get along with him, and we like his company (not for too long, tho!). I guess he just has a nice anal personality sometimes being a turn off. :lol:
 
I get along pretty good with my in-laws. We dated for 8 years til we finally married after I finished college. There was a time that I actually got along better with his mom than I did with my own mother. I have actually called her "mom" for the past 4 or 5 years now. But now I am fine with both my mom and his mom.
His parents are a lot older than my parents. My mil was in her 40's when my husband was born so his parents are in their late 60's or early 70s now. We try to visit them about once or twice a month because we never know how much longer they will be around. My parents are both gonna be 50 this year lol. We go visit them once or twice a month too. My parents and his parents both live in the same town. We live about 50 minutes from them. We will more than likely move back to our hometown this summer.
My husband gets along pretty well with my parents. He thinks of my dad as a role model for how we will handle our future children and how to be a good husband to me. My husband gets along ok with my mom. She makes an effort to try to use her signing skills (which isnt much) to talk to him. My dad depends on me to interpret whenever he wants to talk to my husband. And its not just like short and sweet, but a real conversation with each other.
 
C.C.Sinned said:
My Parents are great with my Son. They live about a mile from us. So He sees them everyday. They spoil him a bit to much. They are awesome. They treat all their grandchildren with equal love & respect. Even my Mother-In-Law & her husband. They may not like me. Still they are great with my Son. They treat him wonderfully.
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I am glad to hear that the other grandparents are loving your son.

Just BioDad & GrandMom treat him poorly. They are the ones missing out. It's their loss.
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That's a fact. I can't imagine not having a good relationship with my grandsons. I hope they change their ways before too late.
 
I've always gotten along extremely well with mothers of men I dated and my ex MIL was very sweet to me while I was married. I miss her as we no longer talk because of my FIL who blames me for causing first divorce in family for generations. They are staunchy Italian Catholics. They can't admit it takes TWO to get divorce.

Hope that my future MIL will be sweet and caring.
 
Thank god I am not enganged anymore.... if I got married this summer then I would have MILH... I knew that from start she doesn't like me, blames that I used her son.... thats not true. Same as my mom hates my ex fiance. His brother, if that happen would be BILH (bro in law from hell).. He really never liked me either.

I hope that next fiancee and his family are more nicer. When I get married, I would go over visit my in laws and dad lot but not my mom. My mom sometimes acts like drama queen so I try to avoid her sometimes. I will never let my birth dad know if I get married or anything, I won't invite him, instead of my birth dad.
 
C.C.Sinned said:
...Sort of a funny note. After the day I met my Wife's BioDad & GrandMom. GrandMom went around talking about what she thought of me. She thought I was a MURDERER!!! :rofl: She thought because of the tattoos, piercings goatee and leather. That I looked like a hatchet killer. :rofl: That I must have killed someone. :rofl: Judging people is not smart...
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I know what you mean.

My dad was raised by his paternal grandparents on an Indiana farm. Below is a photo of his grandparents meeting my mom for the first time. Imagine what the old folks were thinking when this lively red-head jumped off the back of the motorcycle to greet them.

They look thrilled, huh?
 

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If some of you don't like your mother in law, here's a good tip on what to buy her for her birthday or a special occasion... buy a deer costume and send her into the forest. :)
 
Reba said:
I know what you mean.

My dad was raised by his paternal grandparents on an Indiana farm. Below is a photo of his grandparents meeting my mom for the first time. Imagine what the old folks were thinking when this lively red-head jumped off the back of the motorcycle to greet them.

They look thrilled, huh?
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oh they SURE LOOKED SO EXCITED!!! (sarcastically) :rofl:
 
ex-in-laws

Well, my ex's family, for the most part are good to my kids, even my son, although My ex is not his biological father. But you can see some difference in how they treat my kids and my ex-sister-in-law's kids. And I am sure they will treat his new gf's baby a lot differently too! I hope like hell he does not get treated too much better than my kids, they already have enough issues with being treated differently than their cousins they have now. :( And then they also deal with my family treating them different. My family does not treat me as they do all the other family memebers. I am treated as if I am an outcast. Just because they do not agree with things I believe in. But ya know, not everyone has to agree to love one another. My best friend and I are very different on a lot of levels, but we do not let that get in our way as friends, and sisters, we call each other sisters and we are, what we call, our real family. Cuz her family treats her differently too. I cherish my friendships so much, mainly cuz they are the only real relationships I have ever had. My family has never been supportive of me, I am the type of person who would rather have 3 best friends than have 50 friends!! Cuz ya know, in that huge number hides a lot of users, cheaters, liars etc. when you know a few ppl and you know them well, you do not get hurt as bad, or as often! When you really know a person you can work thru anything, my family does not know me, and ya know, I really dont know them either, cuz they will not let me in. So I live my life the way I see fit, and I cherish the good things/ppl I have in my life. I just hope my kids can get some of that wisdome and not let everyone in our family dictate their lives, like I use to. When I would try very hard to "win" their love and acceptance. Anyway, I hope everyone has a great day!!
 
Banjo said:
If some of you don't like your mother in law, here's a good tip on what to buy her for her birthday or a special occasion... buy a deer costume and send her into the forest. :)
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Don't get me started now... oops too late! :devil:
 
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