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Hang in there willsmom! I'm also the mom of a wonderful little CI-borg. You are doing wonderful things for and with your child, please keep sharing your experiences, the good, the bad, the signs, the words -- whatever comes. You have the full support of many more people than you realize.
I know you might be feeling somewhat pushed around and judged because every post you made was immediately contradicted ( by someone who apparently doesn't know an analogy doesn't compare one thing to itself, but transfers meaning from one thing or concept to a different thing or concept ) and your child's achievements gleefully trumped. This forum is much bigger than all that and so many here are supportive and celebrate that we're living in a time where we can provide a full range of valid options for our children.
Your child will do wonderfully! Of course children with CIs don't listen and hear like typically hearing kids -- SURPRISE, OUR CHILDREN ARE DEAF! That title made me laugh out loud. My 5YO had what in retrospect looks like a VERY slow start when mapped against a typical hearing child, or even against a child implanted as young as is recommended (she was nearly 2!). At the time, though, I was delighted with EVERYTHING she did. I'm so glad I had no one frowning at our small achievements with comments such as 'your child knows 30 words? At that age mine knew 5X that number!' And now the little one is age-appropriately fluent in ASL AND spoken English! She's the happiest, healthiest little thing. And she never stops talking.
No, our deaf children don't hear and listen in the same way as the kid next door. It's far, far more amazing what our kids hear and how they listen, isn't it? Eh, there's not a whole lot to this piece. You'll find far more informative and highly reputable studies online at educatingdeafchildren.org .
Don't second guess yourself or feel that you are doing your son wrong or that there are many people who don't support you. Your child will have so many options, sign and spoken language, such an expanded world, far bigger than yours and mine. And learning to sign and to listen -- which we all have to actively learn if we want those abilities -- is so much fun as a family.
I know you might be feeling somewhat pushed around and judged because every post you made was immediately contradicted ( by someone who apparently doesn't know an analogy doesn't compare one thing to itself, but transfers meaning from one thing or concept to a different thing or concept ) and your child's achievements gleefully trumped. This forum is much bigger than all that and so many here are supportive and celebrate that we're living in a time where we can provide a full range of valid options for our children.
Your child will do wonderfully! Of course children with CIs don't listen and hear like typically hearing kids -- SURPRISE, OUR CHILDREN ARE DEAF! That title made me laugh out loud. My 5YO had what in retrospect looks like a VERY slow start when mapped against a typical hearing child, or even against a child implanted as young as is recommended (she was nearly 2!). At the time, though, I was delighted with EVERYTHING she did. I'm so glad I had no one frowning at our small achievements with comments such as 'your child knows 30 words? At that age mine knew 5X that number!' And now the little one is age-appropriately fluent in ASL AND spoken English! She's the happiest, healthiest little thing. And she never stops talking.
No, our deaf children don't hear and listen in the same way as the kid next door. It's far, far more amazing what our kids hear and how they listen, isn't it? Eh, there's not a whole lot to this piece. You'll find far more informative and highly reputable studies online at educatingdeafchildren.org .
Don't second guess yourself or feel that you are doing your son wrong or that there are many people who don't support you. Your child will have so many options, sign and spoken language, such an expanded world, far bigger than yours and mine. And learning to sign and to listen -- which we all have to actively learn if we want those abilities -- is so much fun as a family.
I don't know if I feel my vision is 'corrected', I'm still trying to get used to wearing 'trifocals' -- the idea of reading without directing my face at the book, just dropping my eyes down, is just wacky. and then looking at the road through one place in my glasses, and the computer through another. 
