Is society more tolerant with teenage boys than teenage girls??

[Babyblue]

Teenage years are difficult regardless.

My question is are we more leaniant towards teenage boys going out than teenage girls?

Do we tend to worry more about the girl than we do about the boy?

Why?

 

[jillio]

Teenage years are difficult regardless.

My question is are we more leaniant towards teenage boys going out than teenage girls?

Do we tend to worry more about the girl than we do about the boy?

Why?

That's a good question, Babyblue. I think, as a whole, society is more lenient with boys, and it is the result of ages old gender stereotypes that this culture has.

 

[Babyblue]

That's a good question, Babyblue. I think, as a whole, society is more lenient with boys, and it is the result of ages old gender stereotypes that this culture has.

Well let's hope this thread will educate a few.

I have and will continue to educate my daughter and son.

My son will know the consequences of unprotected sex as much as my daughter will.

I am teaching him as much as to conserve his body as much as her.

It is all about self respect and prevention of diseases. A lot of parents don't realize that boys can get into just as much trouble as girls can.

 

[Buffalo]

Well let's hope this thread will educate a few.

I have and will continue to educate my daughter and son.

My son will know the consequences of unprotected sex as much as my daughter will.

I am teaching him as much as to conserve his body as much as her.


It is all about self respect and prevention of diseases. A lot of parents don't realize that boys can get into just as much trouble as girls can.

I am glad you are doing that. In my time, boys are allowed more freedom than girls and I didn't like that at all. HIV/AIDS has changed the rules, hopefully. I just like to see both genders to have same set of rules, not double standards.

I remember my mother telling me that she had told my brother not to get married until he is 20. He married soon after his 20th birthday. That is the only thing I know that my mom is strict with him. Maybe my mother suspected that the marriage will not last and it didn't.

 

[jillio]

Well let's hope this thread will educate a few.

I have and will continue to educate my daughter and son.

My son will know the consequences of unprotected sex as much as my daughter will.

I am teaching him as much as to conserve his body as much as her.

It is all about self respect and prevention of diseases. A lot of parents don't realize that boys can get into just as much trouble as girls can.

Absolutely, and I applaud you for educating both of your children the same. That is the way it should be.

 

[Babyblue]

Absolutely, and I applaud you for educating both of your children the same. That is the way it should be.

I'm sure that you and a few others understand.

But after reading thread after thead in this forum.

It truly makes me sad. How she could have....She should have, and her parents too!!!


Hey! It takes two to do the horizontal mango tango!!


How often you hear or see?? What HE could have, or should have done?? How often do you hear from his parents?

 

[jillio]

I'm sure that you and a few others understand.

But after reading thread after thead in this forum.

It truly makes me sad. How she could have....She should have, and her parents too!!!


Hey! It takes two to do the horizontal mango tango!!


How often you hear or see?? What HE could have, or should have done?? How often do you hear from his parents?

I agree. Girls don't get pregnant by themselves. We certainly don't do our sons any favors by not educating them regarding the very serious consequences and responsibilities that come with having sex.

 

[VamPyroX]

I guess it's because the girl is the one who is more vulnerable to problems than boys are.

If a boy got a girl pregnant, the boy can still stay in school... while the girl usually drops out.

I know that the teenage pregnancy rate has increased dramatically during the last few years.

 

[Babyblue]

I guess it's because the girl is the one who is more vulnerable to problems than boys are.

If a boy got a girl pregnant, the boy can still stay in school... while the girl usually drops out.

I know that the teenage pregnancy rate has increased dramatically during the last few years.

I agree.

But sadly you have confirmed the potential reason.

 

[Babyblue]

Ok.. going back to VamPyroX
Post.

What responsibilities do you feel the boy should have?
Regarding sex and going out?

 

[SFShawn13]

Yes.

Because we live in a patriarchial society that is male dominated, and culturally caters to males. Not to mention our culture's history is puritanical VERY oppressive towards women and women's sexuality.

 

[naisho]

I remember during one of my courses, we were debating in class about something related to this.

It's actually over the fact that Boys are usually urged by their relations to "go get some", rock the girls on, pimp them all and such stuff like that.

Meanwhile for girls, it's more of stay away from so and so, he's no good. Don't get pregnant.

Kinda contradictory eh?

 

[SFShawn13]

VERY contradictory. You can also see how that attitude puts all the responsibility and pressure on women to not get pregnant.

lol, like it takes only 1 person. Nice.

 

[Hwy99]

Maybe boys tend to be stronger and able to do much of works compare to the girls? Also I know it's because the girls are more in risk to be raped compare to the boys..

 

[Daredevel7]

Maybe boys tend to be stronger and able to do much of works compare to the girls? Also I know it's because the girls are more in risk to be raped compare to the boys..

Yep, very true about the rape risk. My cousin who is the EXACT same age as me was allowed to go out and stay out later than me just because Im a girl and more likely to get raped and all that jazz. My family has REALLY made me hate being a girl. I guarantee that I would have experienced life SO MUCH more (going out, make more friends, traveled to places, and so on) if I were a guy. People think that my deafness is the biggest obstacle of my life, in reality, it's more likely simply being a girl!!!

 

[Babyblue]

The girls are the ones that gets knocked up. So she has to bear the burden.

So that is why they are treated differently??

 

[Hwy99]

Yep, very true about the rape risk. My cousin who is the EXACT same age as me was allowed to go out and stay out later than me just because Im a girl and more likely to get raped and all that jazz. My family has REALLY made me hate being a girl. I guarantee that I would have experienced life SO MUCH more (going out, make more friends, traveled to places, and so on) if I were a guy. People think that my deafness is the biggest obstacle of my life, in reality, it's more likely simply being a girl!!!

Well your family should have allow you only when you are not alone and was with your friends to go out, just my opinion.

Believe it or not, I sometimes hate to be a man. Most of people expect us to be strong and tend to give us MORE works. Example, the drafting issues. Also I've experience my ex-girlfriend's parents blocking me off from seeing her because I was a boy, they kept assuming I will impregant my girlfriend, it's just annoying.

Both boys and girls have the pros and cons too.

The girls are the ones that gets knocked up. So she has to bear the burden.

So that is why they are treated differently??

Well I just don't think it's necessary to treat them different, but just depends on the situations.

 

[shel90]

I think it stems from the old days when it was the women who committed a sin when they got pregnant out of wedlock and society looks down on the women. Like the days of Scarlett Letter.

When I was in high school, I was shocked at the freedom my ex hubby had in high school while his sisters practically had no freedom. He had no curfew while his sisters had to be home by 10PM even on the weekends! He said that was typical in the Mexican culture.

 

[Daredevel7]

Well your family should have allow you only when you are not alone and was with your friends to go out, just my opinion.

Oh they let me go out, but it's SUCH a process and a problem it's almost not even worth going out. When I go out, I have to tell my mom where Im going, when Im coming back, who I am going to be with, which roads I am taking to go there. Is that enough? Nope. She STILL texts me "where are you?" and if I don't respond within 5 minutes, she assumes that I am dead/kidnapped/eaten. My aunt, who is actually WORSE with me, lets her sons go out without even asking them where they are going or when they will be back. All she asks for is that they call her when it's getting late. I pointed out to my aunt how she lets her sons do anything with no questions asked and they give me the 3rd degree. Her response? "You're a girl. They can rape you. You might drink and your guy "friends" can rape you."

Makes my blood boil.

 

[Daredevel7]

When I was in high school, I was shocked at the freedom my ex hubby had in high school while his sisters practically had no freedom. He had no curfew while his sisters had to be home by 10PM even on the weekends! He said that was typical in the Mexican culture.

Also Cuban culture!!!!