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I was cerious about this so I figure I would post this thread.... Hopefully its in the right place this time....

This is for wifes/girfriends only....

I was wondering if all Hubbys/Boyfriends are lazy and they don't help you around the house as they did when you guys first got together? They claim that they work and they don't deserve to pick up house or fix things when needed... And the wife is at home maybe busting her butt to take care of childrens, taking them to the doctor appts,schools and etc.... I can go on and on about this.... And does it make up upset and know that he could actually do more around the house and even on the weekens when he doesn't work?
Another thing whats one thing that he drives you crazy with?


This part is when the hubby/boyfriend does actually help around the house when needed. What does he normally do around the house without you asking him to do it?
Or what do you normally tell him what to do around the house?


This part is for Hubbys/Boyfriend-
I was cerious what goes through your all minds.... What do you expect womans to do and please explain why? Also what do you love about your girlfriend/wife doing for you without asking her..??
Do you happen to think she is lazy at time and does it make you mad? If so explain...
Another thing what is one thing that she drives you crazy with??

No bashing please, It's just a thought and to be shared with others....

I'll go first~

Since Im not married or don't have a boyfriend at the moment, I can't really say much about it but I can share some of the things about my ex boyfriends..
All I can say is that at some point they were lazy, immature thug wanna be.. But at some point they can be mature when "they" want to be... If I ask them to do something for me they sure will do it without no problem. All of my ex b/f have been good to me and they will eventually grow up into decent mens. This was back in our teenager years.....

This was my past recent boyfriend... He was sweet as he can be... But he was 28 years old and didn't have a job, I was currently in school at the moment... Still living with his dad.... Borrowing his parents car and money... I told him that when this get strighten out come and find me. But eventually we went different ways... He will always be a good person... But thats one thing it drove me insane... because I brought him dinner one night when he was broke.. when a gentleman should pay for a girl's meal... But of course it won't hurt for a female to pay for his meal once in a while.... why not??

I just havent found mr right yet but hopefully I will soon.... I've been talking to a older guy past couple times and seem to like him a lot...hopefully things will work out and it won't hurt to try... :)


Please share you story! Hope this goes well!!! :scatter:
 
Well, I am stay at home mom.. and My husband works. But he helps me out around the house like with dishes.. and other house works.. he is a neat freak as well. I believe that partners should be equal and work with eachother to clean the house.. pay the bills etc. :cheers:
 
FelixKat930 said:
Well, I am stay at home mom.. and My husband works. But he helps me out around the house like with dishes.. and other house works.. he is a neat freak as well. I believe that partners should be equal and work with eachother to clean the house.. pay the bills etc. :cheers:
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True FelixKat930.....Your 100% right.... :angel:
 
My boyfriend does help me out around the house, he takes out the trash sometimes, and he doesn't even live with me. I didn't ask, he offered to..so ok.
 
She doesn't let me cook enough!

Seriously, I have a feeling we're going to fight over who gets to cook because we both like to do it. We'll probably end up working on it together, though. :D

I don't think the questions you asked the boyfriends were very fair. I don't expect her to do anything. I think it's rude to do that. I just want love and a good marriage.
 
gnulinuxman said:
She doesn't let me cook enough!

Seriously, I have a feeling we're going to fight over who gets to cook because we both like to do it. We'll probably end up working on it together, though. :D

I don't think the questions you asked the boyfriends were very fair. I don't expect her to do anything. I think it's rude to do that. I just want love and a good marriage.
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I totally argee with you... It's that I see it in some realtionships that sometimes husbands does NOT help out their wifes or maybe control them... Make sense? But I hope that things will turn out great for you and your girl! I truly do! At least both of you can fix a big meal together and have left overs the next day!! now you can both work together! lol lol

I hope the best for both of you!
 
gnulinuxman said:
She doesn't let me cook enough!

Seriously, I have a feeling we're going to fight over who gets to cook because we both like to do it. We'll probably end up working on it together, though. :D

I don't think the questions you asked the boyfriends were very fair. I don't expect her to do anything. I think it's rude to do that. I just want love and a good marriage.
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I don't have to fight with my honey over who gets to cook cause he loves to cook and I HATE COOKING! :D So it works in our favor!
 
LuciaDisturbed said:
My boyfriend does help me out around the house, he takes out the trash sometimes, and he doesn't even live with me. I didn't ask, he offered to..so ok.
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yea same here.. my date dont live here with me, he help me around here.. do trash, wash dishes, stuff too.. i like that..
 
TweetyBird said:
yea same here.. my date dont live here with me, he help me around here.. do trash, wash dishes, stuff too.. i like that..
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Yeah, very sweet!!! It makes me happy! :)
 
I have no expectation around here really. my date and i would take turn cooking and she like to cook some major stuff up on a sunday LOL Mainly I try to help out around as much as I can. :)
 
My husband works full-time, cooks, outdoor projects, oil change on our cars, take out trash and once in awhile he'd take care of our daughter. He's known to be a big procrasinator and I'd kick him in the ass to get started. He'd always get mad at me, but thank me later. hehehe

I work part-time, ocassionally I'd cook, house cleaning, indoor projects, wash our cars and taking care of our daughter. I am known to be so tired easily and don't do a damn thing for more than few days then my hubby would complain. I'd feel guilty about it and just do it asafp. Ha!

We go food shopping together most of the time and kick each other in the ass. We make a great team. How could this go wrong? hehehe
 
My marriage with my exh was good doing thing around the house except he is controlling freak and wanted things his way all the time.

My previous exb doesnt do a damn thing around the house as he should have been. He treated me like a slave and I get pissed at him. Thanks goodness he is out of my life.

I believe when 2 ppl are together they should help each other 50/50.
 
my boyfriend does help me around the house and I help him too when we have to do stuff around the houses. Everything works out great. :)
 
my bf loves to do something, even he do clean house, laundry. bathe kids, but he dont know how to cook ecept grill, lol. I do the same even sometime like to do mows. My bf loves to help but he always whine if i do too much, i think he do that cuz hes guilty lol.
 
My boyfriend, Sequoias love to helping me with everything in our home. If I do too much, he will feel bad which it touches my heart. I love him so much ;)
 
Sweetheart said:
My boyfriend, Sequoias love to helping me with everything in our home. If I do too much, he will feel bad which it touches my heart. I love him so much ;)
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Awwwie that is so sweet.

You two are very good together...

It sounds like you have a wonderful boyfriend and I am happy for you! :)
 
Sweetheart said:
My boyfriend, Sequoias love to helping me with everything in our home. If I do too much, he will feel bad which it touches my heart. I love him so much ;)
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Wellllll...if that's the case, how about heading outside somewhere and umm...plant some sequoias seeds/plantings?! :D


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But, that's super that the two of you are really pitching in together, working together and...welllll...now that's 'tmi'! :whistle:
 
The First 10 Years Of Our Marriage Took Alot Of Adjusting. Nowaday, My Husband Cook And Very Good At It. I'll Clean Up After Him When Meals Are Over. When We Raised Our Kids, It Was Jointly In Decision Making, What They Can Do And Not Do. We Were Very Active With Them, Fishing, Camping, Hiking, And We Also Did 12 Years Of Drum Corps Volunteering By Traveling, Cooking, Uniforms Handling{my Job}, Hubby Did Equipments, Brass And Drum Repairs And Driving The Equipment Truck. Boy, They Were Some Good Times. I Could Go On Some More But The Important Thing Is It Take Two To Make A Go Of It. Talk, And Talk Some More. Each Of You Write A List On What You Would Like Each Other To Do To Have A Smooth Home Life. Good Luck! :)
 
i believe in 50/50 equality.. so both can help out with each other chores and outside yard works too, as well as taking care of kids? not just one. :)
 
My "hubby" (never married heh) in early days of our relationship wanted me to do housework and made excuses not to do stuff around house except he did take out trash. Later I complained and nagged him. Finally explained my feelings about sharing housework and after that, he slowly got better over time doing stuff and I tell him Im happy so he stays motivated, lol.

He was raised more traditional home than I was. It depends on how you were raised in your home and the roles your parents played. Important thing is to communicate and praise the partner when things are done right :)
 
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