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How do you feel if the guest go to your place without call you or email you?

I felt it is rude because if I have a plan with my friends or have some arrangement that I couldn't drop it. Or if I am really sick and am not in the GREAT mood to have company.

How abt you all? Whats your opinion?
 
I'm guilty one here cause RR and I do not call Cheri when we come over, but I do call the others, cause sometimes I don't feel like driving all the way to someone's house if they're not home, sometimes I would like to surprise or check up on them , then I wouldn't call.....


I guess I'm a rude person :tears:
 
It is common courtesy to inform your friend(s) of planning to drop by for a visit...ya know...*Oh greatttt!...Mr. So-so is here and look at my hairdo, the house and and....blah blah*...excuses like those among other viable ones constitutes being courteous when planning to see someone, not doing so without any prior notification is rather rude and possibly frowned upon as well. Although, out of town or even out of state guests that happened to swing by unannounced just might be overlooked....

So, bottom line, have the common decency and courtesy to inform ahead of time of such a plan to stop by for a visit and surely then all goes well or be informed that such a plan isn't a good time for reasons whatsoever. ;)
 
Cuz my life is really busy with my family, I normally would prefer people calling me ahead of time to see when is best time for them to come. If someone comes to my house without letting me know ahead of time and I already had plans, I will apologize to this visitor and ask if we can rearrange for other time to visit.
 
I think sometimes it feels good to have a surprise guest coming over. But if that person keeps coming over everyday, yeah I would want them to call first and let me know.. If that's the case, all you have to do is tell them to call you first... on the other hand.. don't answer the door if you're not up for company. I think you just need to be straight-forward to the guest and tell them.. that you can't keep having them over all the time.. and best to call first. I love having company coming over.. I sure do miss having company. I only had 1 deaf friend that came to see me in a month. I'm losing my signs too. I'm the only deaf in the family and they don't know any sign language. So I miss having someone to talk to and be able to sign. :tears:
 
I rather to have people call first or ask a day before..
so it give me chance to clean up the mess..
our house always mess everyday.. 6 kids thats why..

whats more.. kids' behavior or outbrust.. or having bad day..

if people often stop by without call or ask.. it ticks me off.
 
^Angel^ said:
I'm guilty one here cause RR and I do not call Cheri when we come over, but I do call the others, cause sometimes I don't feel like driving all the way to someone's house if they're not home, sometimes I would like to surprise or check up on them , then I wouldn't call.....


I guess I'm a rude person :tears:
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Don't worry I think you're not a rude person at all
only because family members are more
of a different ballgame...
I normally do get turned off
when someone else (friends only) stopped by
without check with me first.

I can understand Angel because I am
NOT too fond about having to
make "an appointment" first.

My deaf brother mentioned that
he really missed the "OLD times"
almost all deafies stopped by visiting
each other without having to make
any phone call "appointments"...
 
My aunt and my cousin have been trying to stop by my house twice but cant find my house. :( I had one guy that stopped by my house and great I had to run to the bathroom to put on my clothes. I was in pj. Geez I was ticked off yea and he was trying to ask me for a date. But I turned him down cuz he was talking about our future which I dont know him at all. He also told my son that he was a new man in my life. I was like :-o and thank goodness my son didnt understand him. I told him just a friend from the old school. Whewwwwwww!! LOL

Yea I consider it is rude for someone to dropped by without calling first or contact the person first.
 
^Angel^ said:
I'm guilty one here cause RR and I do not call Cheri when we come over, but I do call the others, cause sometimes I don't feel like driving all the way to someone's house if they're not home, sometimes I would like to surprise or check up on them , then I wouldn't call.....


I guess I'm a rude person :tears:
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No, You're not a rude person, In matter of fact I love when you come over and surprise me. I don't mind that my family comes over and surprise me because my hearing sister and step mother does the same thing. It makes me happy to see them again. It never bothers me when someone comes over by surprised, I get shocked to see someone who drives a miles from home and comes by my door step and surprised me when I haven't took a shower yet It is not that I mind, It makes me feel good that someone actually cares about me enough to drive miles away from home and visit me out of blue. :mrgreen:
 
Family members aren't being rude and to pay visit surprsie to your place...

Espically Friends came over your place on their doormat and rang the bell... That uncalled.. very totally rude without them knowledge... I would stunned :shock: and thinking what inside my rooms all rooms.. er um... can you mind come visit just another time which wrong timing and also remind you pretty please call me first.. :D So Can I arrange it as much easier..


Prevouis I used to be living in farmhouse at Dutton,Ontario. My god, Guest always visit my place every friday and saturday.. We felt alike no privacy reason they loved my home so BIG and huge land.. whatever children can run and play tree house and so much many.. We tend patience w/them and having good time chi-chat afterall, they leaving.. We can see our home went torando messy rooms.. *sigh* Why can't they respect my home clean up when r u plan to leave first clean up the mess then leave.

We did came over their place "surprise" and can see their faces frown unpleasant w/us.. Let me explain you same thing you did viist us my place almost weekend.. reason why we want to show you how understand we felt that way.. They were angrily and shove us OUT their house.. We are plesant looking fine...sure why not..
Few weeks later, They were called us and want talk you in person can we visit you.. I say ok sure Needless, I like your children are leaving soon first have to clean up the mess. Agreed coverstation! They came over my place and long talk.. really realized that felt apoglized to us because we are right. So When company are finished, and told them please clean it up.. They were :eek: and said look time so late.. I have to stood up , Hold your horse, remember that I've been there converstation w/you first place and came agreed. They were kinda not happy w/me but patience tell their children have to clean put mess includes my children too.. They left.. I felt so good..
as long they have to smarten up and respect each together equal..

We have not seen them since pretty little long.. (chuckles) We felt so good and peace relaxation and have our family time more...
 
Well i do enjoy to have surprise company as long its a good time, if not. then they prolly have to go along w/ us if they like to. But I have other friends always come over allllllll the time, it tick us off, cuz we do want have alone sometime and wish they respect call us once awhile but its ok to surprise. Not all the time.
 
RedheadGrrl said:
How do you feel if the guest go to your place without call you or email you?

I felt it is rude because if I have a plan with my friends or have some arrangement that I couldn't drop it. Or if I am really sick and am not in the GREAT mood to have company.

How abt you all? Whats your opinion?
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Very simple; the person you describe is not a guest at all, that's an intruder, lol.
 
Ive said before in another thread that it is the ultimate rudeness of people to come over WITHOUT calling us first...i HATE that more than anything in the
world when people show up at our house just because they wanted to...grrr!
One time, I was in bed with a bad migraine headache and my husband was extremely tired so we were taking a nap together when this rude b**** came over banging on our door, bellowing...* hey, blank blank are you home??
crikey! I was sooo pissed..my husband told him that i was sick with a bad migraine headache and he was napping with me...he goes ooh oops solly..but did he leave? hell no! but my hubby couldnt say anything...but i stayed in bed cuz i was so sick with the darn migraine...
I think people should call first before they come over..just to make sure we dont have plans or something like we are napping or we might be sick with the flu or something contagious geez.
 
I used to that way since my friends always stop by my house without tell me, I dont mind. But I would like them to calling me or whatever to seeing if I dont mind. Also, if my family, I dont care if they want to stop by. But they sometime do call me to check on me first. I like that. It dont bother me at all.
 
^Angel^ said:
I'm guilty one here cause RR and I do not call Cheri when we come over, but I do call the others, cause sometimes I don't feel like driving all the way to someone's house if they're not home, sometimes I would like to surprise or check up on them , then I wouldn't call.....


I guess I'm a rude person :tears:
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Nah, you arent a rude person. I saw Cheri's post, she love it so much when you stop by her house and she knew that you do REALLY care abt her alot. Im really pleasure that you stop by her house without let her know. I would love my sister stop by my place without tell me. :thumb: you are wonderful sister to Cheri!
 
Aww Thanks girls :grouphug:


I do call before going over a friends house of course but families I do it differently cause I like to see them surprised when I stop by
 
Honestly, I really don´t mind to recieve unexpect visitors... It´s nice to have surprise sometimes... :D

We received unexpect visitor in wrong time... We were about leave to visit our friend´s house as the car comes... They drove for 50 km to surprise us... We told them that we are very sorry that we can´t cancel our plan for them. They understood and told me that they should fax me first before drive to us... Yeah... they admit they should do that.

Most of my friends fax me in last minute to ask us what we do today... Can they come to see us for afternoon coffee?... No problem... If we want to see our friends then fax them because we don´t want to drive there for nothing.
 
I do like to let me know if they come over my place. one time my old friend want to see my home but i told her can do that other time and she doesnt want in other time. I told her well I rather do other time cause my home wasnt clean so i rather clean first before come in my home but my doesnt want it and I showed my friend. I dont like it that way .. I like to let me know when call me before in my home :)
 
WOW great post everyone!! I have to say I agree with you .

Only one person that I DON'T mind she stop by. On Xmas eve, My door was banging so loud. I looked out the window and it surprised me that it was my best friend who stopped by who drove all the way from MD to NY for family xmas. I was like wow! She said "come on and let go to starbuck." I looked at my clothes. I was in my PJ (t-shirt and sweat pant) and said well screw people, I grabbed sweater and the wallet then went out to starbuck with her for an hr. It was unexpecting to see her! That I dont mind!! but IF I have a friend from LOCAL then I DO MIND!!

Angel, family sometimes stop by without calling them is okay unless if family want to call to see anyone want her or him to bring anything to the house.

One more question for you all?

What about Neighbors? Do you have to call them to stop by for a few mins?

I rarely go to one of my left side neighbor, I always go to my right side neighbor. I once a while call or email my right-side neighbor. They dont mind me stop by, They knew me since I was 3 yrs old. Right-side neighbor Ann and I always sit down and have a cup of tea when she is in better condition. If shes sick, I only stop by for a minute to see how she doing.
 
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